nidi83 wrote:
Hi DHV,
Who is a Karma Yogi?
Karma yoga is described as a way of acting, thinking and willing by which one orients oneself toward realization by acting in accordance with one's duty (dharma) without consideration of personal self-centered desires, likes or dislikes. One acts without being attached to the fruits of one's deeds.
In the Bhagavad Gita, Krishna says:
Therefore, without being attached to the fruits of activities, one should act as a matter of duty, for by working without attachment one attains the Supreme
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Just answer one question - Is it possible for one not to be attached to one's wife or husband or children? I am not talking about taking baby steps towards spirituality here. I am talking about spirituality at its heights. Again let us not refer to the Gods who were married or the great sages who were realised souls and were on another planet of spiritualism. I am talking about you and me. Its impossible for me not to be attached. Can one make love to her husband without feeling anything? Lets take Gautam Buddha for eg. He could have been a Karma Yogi. Why did he have to leave his wife, kingdom and everything else to find God? Is it that simple. Yes Bhagwat Geetha may tell us its possible. Lets be true to ourselves and seek answers from within.
Lets take the life of Akkamahadevi, a great saint born in Karnataka.
Akkamahadevi was married off to a local Jain King. Mahadeviyakkha was unwilling to reciprocate the desire of the King. Mahadeviyakkha was immersed in devotion to her Lord and she could not accept a life of servitude to an atheistic King.
Her family were highly critical of her “unorthodox†behaviour and this led Mahadevia to renounce her worldly life. Mahadevi left her marriage and place of birth to live the life of a wandering mendicant. Mahadevi is said to have worn only long tresses. She felt clothes were a needless adornment for one seeking the Lord.
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Which is why i said unless the husband and wife are on the same spiritual planet, its impossible for one to lead a highly spiritual life. Its impossible for one not to be attached and just perform all the tasks as a duty. One should be emotionally dead for that.
To all the members who have been saying its possible, these are purely my views and beliefs. I could be wrong.
Thanking you,
Nidi
Dear Nidi
Thanks for your reply and engaging with me in this debate. I can and will eventually reply to this using examples and quotes but I cant at the moment as by the time I come back from work I am shattered and cannot think clearly. Sprituality is not back or white but in shades of grey. I understand your perspective and you have made valid and true points. I can see why you would say marriage is an impediment to spirituality. For example Meerabai was immersed in lord Krishna but she did not have a great married life. Narasimha Mehta, a great devotee from Gujarat in the 17th century, he was married but he couldn't fufill his social obligations, he would spend all his time thinking of Krishna, composing Krishna bhajans.
However, Shree Ram Sharma, who started the Gayatri parivar, and Shrila Prabhupad, who started the ISCON movement, they were married.Shrila Prabhupad did his duties as a husband and householder before he renounced materialistic life and braught vaishnavism west. He has written so many spiritual books. Shri Vallabhacharya, who started the pushti margi sect in India, he was married with children. Are these people not spiritual?
My veiws are based on my experiences and my knowledge. I will still say you can be married and spiritual. I have had personnal experiances and seen things with my own eyes which reinforce my beliefs. No it is not all possible not to be attached to your children, it is not possible to make love and not feel attachment afterwards. I totally agree with you there. We are human, we are chemically programmed to feel those emotions. But if you make an effort to even try to cultivate love all beings bearing in mind that God resides in the hearts of all (another shoka from the Geeta) then you are moving a tiny bit higher in spirituality. And it is only when you take baby steps now that eventually several lifetimes down the lane you will attain Moksha.
Nidi I accept that I may be wrong in my perception and if this is so then I prey that God grants me such experiences in my life that allow me to see and believe the truth.
Thanks
Deeksha