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Hi Milred:
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DGP again you have issues. What kind of a woman are u looking for? Pl go back to the first page of this thread and read again. You have had compatibility issues with 5 women so far, I dont think u shd b looking at getting married. Marriage is not a joke. If your finding it so difficult to get along, i think u shd stop thinking of marriage for the time being in my humble opinion and focus maybe on work. Your just 30. You still have time. Marriage is not the be all and end all for you to get so frustrated. Take it easy.

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I absolutely agree with you....
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5 women and none compatible!! :roll: What are you eyeing for?? I am seriously wondering if you are even ready to get hitched !! Marriage is no joke..May be you are setting the bar way too high....Have realistic expectations from marriage or any other relationship for that matter.. .....Better still....wait...you still have age on your side. As Mili said, focus on your work. Take it easy..It will happen when it has to....
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@ shubhrarawlins

if you read my last post again,I have clearly stated that I dint feel compatible with arranged marriage alliances,not the love affairs.so me being incompatible with 5 women is a wrong supposition.

neither I am setting the bars too high or being choosy.
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dgp wrote:hello all,
just a few days back I had asked all the astrologers here about the compatibility between me & the girl with whom my alliance was fixed(arrange marriage)...as I had told the people here that I was not feeling compatible & satisfied at all with her,so I have broken off this alliance :( the learned people had told me that the compatibility levels are good & will be good,however I was not feeling comfortable from day one...in the last 3 months of our courtship,I hardly used to talk to her or think about her & finally I called it off...the alliance was broken by me 2 days back,infact on my 29th b'day :( ...engagement was supposed to be in the end of oct 2010 & marriage had been fixed for Jan 2011...but I am single again today :(

as you all would know but i still would provide a brief history:I have already been through 3 failed serious love affairs(the last & the bestest one ended in feb 2010),then me & my parents came very close to fixing an alliance in march 2010(i again backed off as the girls family background dint come out as good as they had lied about a lot of things which we came to know later),then finally my parents & me fixed this alliance for me in June 2010 after a lot of efforts & difficulty searching an alliance(with marriage supposed to be for Jan 2011),now this rishta/alliance has also been broken by me primarily as I found the girl to be aggressive,short tempered,rude & argumentative from the very first day....my heart & mind always used to say if i had carried on,the marriage wouldnt have survived...

so here I am today again,I bow down on my knees with my folded hands in front of all you great learned people & astrologers & humbly request you to please check my chart & tell me AM I DESTINED TO BE DOOMED FOREVER??? WILL I EVER GET MARRIED??? IS MARRIAGE PROMISED IN MY CHART????LOVE OR ARRANGE??? & WHEN????
life is becoming increasingly frustrating day by day...this recent marriage situation has again stressed out my parents(though this alliance was refused by me due to compatibility issues)...
I know that I am a manglik,is that whats causing the whole problem???or my present Ketu MD is the cause of this???what about the Venus MD starting in feb 2016???

Events in the Venus Antardasha that ended in sept 2010:I lost the best relationship I had in feb 2010,I got 2 decent salary hikes(one in oct 2009 & 2nd in april 2010),joined MBA in april 2010(the result of 1st semester exams was 10 times better that expected),then this marriage alliance took place in june 2010(but has ended/broken in oct 2010)

many people here had predicted that I will get married before june 2011 & it did seem correct but now this alliance is broken...

I humbly request everybody here to please check my details & tell me when is marriage supposed to happen??? are there any chances of a love marriage??? my marriage situation has become a cause of big concern & tension for my parents who have already seen many lows in their life financially...my behavior has become so short tempered,rude,irritating that I pick up arguments/fights with almost everyone who doesnt agree with me..my past life events have made me so rude in these present times...life seems stuck...

my details are:
Male
DOB: Oct 12th,1981
POB: Chandigarh,India.
TOB: 2:30pm(1430)

thanks a lot in advance
anxiously waiting for some replies

a very depressed,frustrated soul :(

dgp
Dear dgp,

Janma lagna in Makara & Chandra's 7th lordship (Marriage will take time, decision making problem, confused).

Shani samasaptaka Saptamesh Chandra is strong Punarphoo (First marriage alliance broken). Current Ketu dasha is un-favorable.

Shani in bhagya with 8th lord Ravi & Guru - Fortunate with setbacks, long-life, Career, expenses.
Shukra in Labha is par excellence- Fortunate, wealth from career, Marriage, Good Life, secret affair.

Kuja dominating in the 8th with drishti on Shukra & Chandra, settlement towards marriage will be a herculean task.

The best period of your life for the next 20 years will start from 2016 during on-set of Daitya-Guru's dasha.

Prayers to lord Ganesha during this Ketu Dasha.

Best Regards.....
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patience19 ji,

thanks for taking time out and analysing the details.really appreciate it.
would write back soon with feedback.

bestest regards
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hello all,

still no charm in life...crossed 30 now and single :(

any upcoming charms soon or not ?
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dgp wrote:hello all,

still no charm in life...crossed 30 now and single :(

any upcoming charms soon or not ?
Hi Dgp

Did u read thru the entire thread ??...it speaks abt getting thru Ketu dasha..
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Dear DGP,
I can understand how angry and frustrated you are. I am also going through ketu dasha and believe it it is te worst torture ever. My relationship also broke during this time and there is nothing working out on my marriage front. My parents are searching for matches but nothing is working out. All the astrologers i have spoken with, on this site and also personally, have all recommended to just get through this time. They have all said one thing in common --- nothing will work out during ketu dasha.
So, perhaps even you should just quietly wait for this period to end... I know its easier said than done. Even I get depressed, angry and frustrated but then we cant do anything but wait.

Something my granny said to me recently when she saw me crying, chahe ro ke kato chahe hass ke kato, time to katna hi padega!

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thanks for replying astro123 ji,

Kaalika,thanks for sharing..
to be honest I am not angry but yes highly frustrated from life...sometimes I feel,I am just a bystander and life is just passing me by and i cant do anything...been through some great love affairs but they never reached marriage,then arrange marriage alliances also broke(though m not at all sad coz i was not compatible with them) but it has just left me frustrated...98% of my friends and cousins are married with kids and I am 30 :(
it has brought undue stress to my parents as well...there are still 4 years to go for Ketu Mahadasha,I wonder what I would be left with when I turn 34 :(

then there is another thing...I been consulting astrology/astros since last almost 2 years now and I dont know if my chart is so confusing or what,that i been getting so many different answers/predictions...some said I will marry in 2009,that dint happen,some said in 2010(alliance happened but i broke off),some said in 2011 I will marry,that dint happened(alliance happened but i broke off),now some say I will marry in next 2 months,then some say in 2012,some in 2013 and some also say after ketu dasha in 2016...this just cripples my mind so much coz I think that even if some alliance happens,it will again break or even if marriage happens,it will break...I mean its a normal human tendency to think like that when you get so many different predictions...it scares me to hell as we all know how bad separations can be legally I mean...

the other thing is that being 30,one cant even wait till 34 to not to do anything and sit idle...I mean you simply cannot stop the efforts to find a match as you are 30,whether it materialises or not,thats a separate thing...the overall atmosphere at home too becomes dull :(

till now its been such a frustrating phase these 3 years,it leaves you damn short tempered :evil:

but what can a human do? afterall its a payback time coz of bad karma
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HI DGP ;buddy I read your each and every reply in the thread ;your replies are so senti really i had a heavy heart;and there is no need to use your SAD smilies ;dont use it buddy dont use it ;use a smiley :D instead of :( .

See Patience19 has written so positive for your horoscope dont worry you will marry boss dont worry on that ;chances are late but i think you will get married .next time you reply to anyone please use :D lol and stuff like this.Even if its a fake happiness show it just show it.

Read his post again you must feel positive about it.
GO to gymnasium have the best built and be the chick magnet of Chandigarh.
Kabeer Das ji said :" Boli ek amol hai jo koi bolay jani hriday taraju tolikay tab mukh se bahar aani" in short Think Before you speak.
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Dear dgp,
I can completely relate to your situation. I facing the same thing. On reading my chart, some astrologers predicted that I would get married in 2009, but that didnt happen. Some say that marriage will work out in jan 2012, some say after july 2012 while some say 2014!!
So believe me, im as confused as you.
Similar to your situation, my cousins are married too. Infact cousins younger than me even have kids.. My situation depresses and hurts my parents more than it hurts me. Seeing them upset because me shatters me completely.
Yes, you are right, one can not stop making efforts but it is best to not to think too much about it. this is beyond our control.. What is destined will happen, there is nothing we can do.

Raveesh is right, focus on the positive things in your life. Take raveesh's suggestion and Soon you could be the chick magnet!! Lol :p

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thanks raveesh ji and kaalika for sharing the concern,

please provide some analysis on my query in the career's section,I havent received a response.

really appreciate it
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hello to all,

I suffered a fall and have a minor fracture in my left foot. I fell on 26th Nov 2011(Saturday) between 10:25pm-10:50pm.its a minor fracture but plaster has been applied and bed rest for 4-6 weeks approx.

I wanted to know that whether it is related to the transition of Saturn in Libra on Nov 15?
I am worried :(

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Dear DGP

Now you've gone and complain, you can not get a lady. What happens then! You wade into the ladies room (Libra) and the first lady you meet (Sat transit of Venus in Navamsa) you fall over, then you break your foot. :) Venus in NK ruled by Mars in the 12th which is the feet.
When the accident happened, you run Ke, Ma, Ve. You'll probably plaster off when you run Ke, Ra, Ra around 12 January 2012

Regards :D
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BRvedic,

thanks for replying but to be honest I havent understood it. :oops:
Ladies room? :shock:
I fell while walking,probably my foot got twisted in a stone and i got offbalance and fell and fractured my foot. Yes,the plaster is on.

havent understood what you said. Please elaborate

thanks
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dgp wrote:hello to all,

I suffered a fall and have a minor fracture in my left foot. I fell on 26th Nov 2011(Saturday) between 10:25pm-10:50pm.its a minor fracture but plaster has been applied and bed rest for 4-6 weeks approx.

I wanted to know that whether it is related to the transition of Saturn in Libra on Nov 15?
I am worried :(

dgp

Nothing to do with Saturn... Donation of rice after an accident helps in speedy recovery.
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Dear Gdp

In your Navamsa chart is Asc and 6 house ruled by Venus.
Mars and Saturn in square to each other. Mars and Venus in opp.

Transit Saturn enters Libra and conj. Venus, which lies in a Naksatras ruled by Mars, which is in the 12th house.
Transit Kethu go in conj. with Saturn and in square to Mars and Venus.
Sun transit conj. Venus in both Radix and Navamsa the 26th November

12th house is feet. Saturn's bones.
You run Ke, Ma, Ve until 11 January 2012 before you will probably not of plaster.

Ladies Room? :shock: Oops! :mrgreen:

A little history
You walk into your own thoughts and thinking about marriage. You go to the marriage bureau, (Libra house) and not Ladies Room. You knock on the door and a woman opens the door. Hey come on in Mr. and you enter, but fall over the doorstep and break foot, and ends up in the emergency room instead of a date.
Is this true? :)

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thanks for replying explorings and BRVedic ji,

BRVedic ji,
I still dint understand exactly what you are trying to say,I apologise.
There was no lady/female involved in this fracture I suffered. I was walking with my male colleagues from one place to another to have dinner and fell down and suffered a fracture,thats it.

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Dear Dgp.

This thread is about marriage. and you've asked many times about when you get married.

Then came this chance to tease you a bit, since Saturn entered Libra and Venus hit in navamsa chart.
Saturn does not like love, it causes you to fall.

So I composed a little whimsical story - just for fun

Read the story again with the new knowledge, and you will laugh :D

Regards
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Dear DGP

I can understand your status of mind. I have gone thro' similar sitaution when I loss job and trying desperately to find when i will get stable job.

My suggestion is although astrology helps you to find solution no1 in this world can give 100% correct prediction. If such was the case then every1 would have known their future. Atrology is science and there are many aspects to check before you can predict with better accuracy. Most of the astrologers used max 50% of such points in which they feel they have mastery and try to predict. Hence chances of accurate prediction is always less than 50%.

But yes during such bad phase this forum does help many to keep themselves away from depression / frustration. We always look for the answer which we wish to hear.

I think you are carrying burden of your past. U are always thinking about yr bad experience. First you have to remove such past bagagge if you wish to fill it with new good positive result.

There are various schools which helps you to remove such past viruese which have enter your system. If you cannt remove them they will cont to reappear and life will cont as it is now.

Look for EFT (emotional freedom technique) on net. Spend some time practicing it. You may find positive reesult. Hope you will come out of your past and settle for new positive life.

As may ppl in this forum has sugegsted keep away from this forum for few months. Don't overdepend on this forum. Try something new and u will get new life else cycle will cont.

Hope u understand what i wish to say.

GOD BLESS U........ ALL THE BEST for Year 2012.

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thanks for advise Raju ji :)

can someone advise me whether astrologically or otherwise,that I tend to worry a lot,remain very anxious most of the times,tend to OVERTHINK a lot,I tend to think a lot negative from even a positive situation,I am very impulsive,tend to react very soon(over react too at times),I get angered very easily(anger goes away too fast as well :) )

it must be due to moon,so as I am not an astrologer,I would request someone to advise me whether from my chart/astrologically or even generally that what should I do to change the things mentioned above as at times it simply stops me from doing anything.

thanks in anticipation
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hello all,

Are their any charms for me this year? any friendship/s,affair or marriage?
am I running Ketu-Rahu from Jan 12, 2012? as rahu is in my 7th house, so can I expect some charm as otherwise life looks so dull and monotonous.
would look forward to your reply/s.

thanks in anticipation
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Dear Astroji:

"They act as if Marriage is like air and water and that their children are not married by 24 they will just die of thirst and suffocation.

And to make matters worse these 20/35 year old's act as if they will decay and rot away if they dont have a spouse. I cannot understand this urgency and fascination."


:lol: :lol:

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Narayan wrote:Dear Astroji:

"They act as if Marriage is like air and water and that their children are not married by 24 they will just die of thirst and suffocation.

And to make matters worse these 20/35 year old's act as if they will decay and rot away if they dont have a spouse. I cannot understand this urgency and fascination."


:lol: :lol:

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Narayan ji,
For a two year old candy and dolls and toy guns are important and bawls her/his eyes out if you take awy those from them.
For a high school syudent grades and getting into a good college is important.
Similarly for a 20-35 year old marriage and relationships IS a predominant matter of concern.
Why is that so bad?
We focus on certain aspects of life at certain age.
Rarely does an average person evolve spiritually at a tender age and distance himself from all the worldly pleasures and possessions.
In case somebody does they need to be little understanding of other common people and not expect everybody to be like themselves.
Everybody learns and evolves at their own pace.

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Human Nature:

"For a two year old candy and dolls and toy guns are important and bawls her/his eyes out if you take awy those from them.
For a high school syudent grades and getting into a good college is important.
Similarly for a 20-35 year old marriage and relationships IS a predominant matter of concern."


I fully understood what you said, but when astroboy said "I cannot understand urgency and fascination" I could not stop smiling.....still though... :lol:

"Why is that so bad?"

I never said bad.... 8)


"Rarely does an average person evolve spiritually at a tender age and distance himself from all the worldly pleasures and possessions.
In case somebody does they need to be little understanding of other common people and not expect everybody to be like themselves"

I am not able to give an answer for your this point, but in anyways, only that sentence made me smile and in no way, it was against hurting anybody's sentiments or wishes.....it was just that I was not able to stop smiling for sometime. At least, these little things, help us to smile heart out.

"Everybody learns and evolves at their own pace."

Noted sir, will make a point from here on in.

Thanks once again for your kindness,

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Humannature:

What you wrote is perfect in general but when you take this particular case, it is different.

DGP has had 4 or more affairs and he says, they ditched him but still u see the way he asks questions,
Are their any charms for me this year? any friendship/s,affair or marriage?
can I expect some charm as otherwise life looks so dull and monotonous.

If he only wants to settle down getting married and asks if he could get married, that is reasonable but you dont know how he kept on asking the same question again and again and it appeared as though there is nothing in life except marriage and sex. He seems to be more interested in affairs and not really marriage.
You can play with dolls and break them as you wish but you cannot play with girls and break their life.
Same applies to girls who cheat men too.
He needs women for fun but then see, if you keep on playing with their lives, you can never succeed in getting a life partner.
Read his posts and you will know. That approach is wrong.
Normally if a person is asking, if he will get married, and asks for parihara, that is perfectly ok.

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