manglik who has an unhappy marriage for second time

[Siddhu1]

I didnt know I was a manglik till after my first marriage ended up with a violent men. I divorced him with great difficulty without taking any money from him.

I was married again to who I thought was a nice man only to discover a few days later that I was lied to. My second marriage is also on the verge of a break up since he is cheating on me and is extremely mean and vicious.

My dob is 4th april 1955 22.11hrs mumbai

Husband
27th March 1955 17.30 hrs jabalpur.

Please advise me on what i should do. I cannot stay with his philandering ways and abuse anymore. I want to leave him. Will my decision help me to find a peaceful life devoted to God? Will I ever find love again?

Thanks

[Siddhu1]

Dear Shrikanth,

As required by you, am posting certain relevant facts and dates.

Date of first marriage : 11th Dec 1977

Applied for Divorce : April 1986

Had a daughter from this marriage

Date of 2nd marriage: 3rd May 1986.

Publicly announced 29th October 1988

Have a son from this marriage.

My dob :

4th April 1955,

Place Mumbai

Time 22.11 hours.

My husbands DOB:

27th March 1955

Place : jabalpur

Time : 17.30 hours ( approx)

My husbands infidelity and abuse is known only to me. he has kept up a false image of decency. Therefore I am not believed if I tell my children of the truth. But am now past my tolerance. I have borne abuse from day one of marriage.

I have inherited some property so am able to have a house but no regular source of income. So am planning to sell off another small property and survive.

When will I be able to shift to my own home? when will my property get sold? Is my future as bleak as my past? Will the truth of my husbands misbehaviours with me get exposed? I cannot find it in my heart to forgive a man who chases 17 year olds, younger than his own children! And then tortures me with his words. calling me a sham and my love for God hypocrisy. he taunts me of eating off him and says I am a parasite.. because I was not a working woman. he never allowed me to be one. I was multi talented .. but all has been wasted.

I am very spiritually inclined and find great solace in meditation. Yet, the loneliness and despondency gets to me. My loyalty and sacrifice has been met with only revenge, jealousy, abuse and neglect. Why?

My childrens behaviour also is not what I would expect from those to who I have devoted my life. I kept in the background at home for the last 30 years only so that the family would prosper and I could look after all. My daughter, has gone back to her father, even though she knew that I was physically abused by him. I cannot understand what is happening to my life.

Sorry for the long -sh response. But I think you required to know my circumstances.

My parents have expired and my elder siblings, all of them are like enemies. I am the youngest.

So veritably, I am alone.. save Divine Mother.

I shall be so obliged if you and your panel of esteemed astrologers are able to guide me at this critical juncture of my life.

Regards

[Siddhu1]

Dear Shrikanth,

Thank you so much for your response and your analysis.

I find myself totally attuned to your suggestions and reading. Yes, it does seem as if the best resort is to merge my life in Divine remembrance..and all my efforts have been on that score since 1993.

Yet, we live in a world, where decisions have to be taken, challenges have to be met and nitty gritties have to be dealt with. Therefore this post to you.

In fact my this state of mind exists since 1987, not just 2005. So its been a long and painful journey where my attempt has been to be righteous and pray. The fact that I can meditate for hours perhaps stems from the truth that I have led a clean life. But past karma has to be borne. I understand that.

Am I to understand therefore that my relations with children and spouse are always going to be strained? is the rest of my life now one of loneliness? Is there no glimmer of hope that after my separation I can live in a decent amount of comfort and peace?

Ketu period will get over by this year end I believe. Will things get better then? Jupiter is Atmakarak no doubt but it is Guru, my friend. Wont it help me through?

I appreciate your suggestion to keep my domestic issues on the back burner. But the problem is that I only have a domestic life and decisions have to be taken in a few months on my future path..it has become incumbent on me to take a path, this way or that. I have already told him I will be moving out once I get possession of my property. He I guess is only too happy to be rid of me, so that it makes him free to pursue his nefarious activities...apart from eating 11 egg whites at a time, and going to the gym to regain lost youth. I must therefore choose a home away from this madness and cheapness where night and day I am not made to feel worthless.

I therefore would be highly grateful if you could shed light on the above mentioned queries and advise a practical course of action to tide over this crisis..since things have come to a head now.

Warm regards
Siddhu

[anand rao]

Dear siddhuji
you are going through guru dasa.It is good from moon ascendant.You will be able to sell your property and solve
your problem.Classical texts say simha rasi natives will have psychological problems.No much sleep.We can do meditation and also medications may also be helpful.This dose not mean there is something wrong.We have to fight this battle.We have to take care of ourselves.There is no meaning in continuing bad married life.
regards
anand rao

[Siddhu1]

Thank you Anand Rao ji and Shrikanth ji. I have noted all the advice.Sometimes in life our biggest challenge becomes living the teachings we so sincerely believe in but are so difficult to follow. When betrayals are so strong from all sides, one loses confidence in oneself and ones destiny.. Worse is the plaguing thought ' What did I do wrong?"

Shrikanth ji I avlue your words. My contention on the back burner suggestion was that something which is so in-the-face cannot be put on the back burner. I have to deal with it every minute of the day. That was what I meant. Yes I do understand that a person with a spiritual bent of mind can look askance at the goings on and raise himself to the higher consciousness, but His Leela is so strong sometimes that the reality becomes the delusion and extricating oneself is so so difficult.. especially since it is a matter of survival, betrayal, heart break and solitude. Hope you understand.

Anand ji..I am fighting the battle to the best of my ability. Everyday there is an attack that is like a knife plunged in my heart. My daughter who I loved the most has suddenly shown that she is untrustworthy and is behind my back along with her husband, secretly supporting my husband even though fully aware of his behaviour. I dont how to explain these occurrences. I need answers.. According to Vimshottari dasha I am in Jupiter-Ketu with sub dasha of venus ending tomorrow..after that is Sun and moon sub dashas . This is the WORST time i have faced in my life. Not even my sade saati was this bad. Therefore it makes me wonder how did the ending of my sade saati help? Its only getting worse.

Can you please tell me till when do you think my property will get sold and when can I move in independently to my house? I will have to lead a lonely life..will financial problems arise?

Anand ji if you could please shed light on this I will be so obliged. I dont think my family is ever going to be back with me . But I am ready for that since having and uncaring family is of no use.

Looking forward to your response. Sorry for the late response but I didnt come to this thread thinking after Shrikanth ji nobody would write.

thanks again.

Regards

[Siddhu1]

Thanks a million Holdingup. You are so kind. and have a warm heart. Compassion is a rare quality and you have it in ample. May the Divine always bless you.
Btw you have a great handle name. It seems so apt for me now. I somehow have to hold up.

Best wishes
S

[astroboy]

Good day Siddhu ji,

I think you are indeed lucky to have Shrikanth ji reply to your post. I have immense respect for him as a person, and also as a astrologer. I just want to add a few things to his analysis. I dont have any solution for you, I am just giving you a astrological reason as to why you have had the kind of life that you have.

Siddhu - Moon in MB.jpg

Mrityu Bhaga

Body : Moon
From Mrityu Bhaga Center : 0.1004 Deg
Within the Trimsamsa (degree) : Yes

Dr Shankar Adawal ji, a prolific writer on vedic astrology once made a study on the 9th house in a women's chart and it's importance with regard to marriage. I took his research with a pinch of salt at that time, but in time I have realised that he has something to it.

Your case is just another case to show how important the 9th house can be in a woman's chart when it comes to marriage. In your chart, the Moon who is the 9th lord aspects the 4th house {"happiness at home"} and the 7th lord Shukra. The Moon is in a Mrityu Bhaga degree and is also in a fateful Trimsamsa degree. You can read more about Mrityu bhaga here http://www.lightonvedicastrology.com/ph ... 42&t=12100

Each astrologer follows different schools of thought. Unlike Shrikanth ji, I do not follow the system of using the longitudies to reckon houses from the lagna. As per me, Kuja is in the 7th house, being the 6th lord. So yes Kuja dosha is strong. Ketu in the 8th is another cause for trouble. The kicker is the debilitation of the 8th lord.


Best regards,

[Siddhu1]

Greetings dear Astroboy,

I have been reading your valuable comments on this site and was inwardly hoping your attention would be drawn to my predicament as well. You have responded ..which only goes to prove that somewhere, like you mentioned elsewhere, we are all connected and you know intuitively where you are needed to respond.

Indeed I am fortunate for Shrikanth jis studied comments and wise admonitions:) I have been thinking regularly of late, especially this particular statement " If you have a perfectly spiritual bend of mind, the imperfect world should not affect you - but you should be able to embrace this imperfection with a smile and move on."

Believe me I am trying very hard if only to prove to myself that my years of spiritual seekings and meditations are not just peripheral wanderings. I guess somewhere I have been caught up in the delusions of Maya very strongly, at this particular juncture of my life. While I can honestly aver that material gains, worldly pleasures are something I had successfully done away with. But I realise now there is a chink in my armour. Emotional hurt and betrayal by those closest to me creates an imbalance that strikes at the core of my soul. And I have to learn to disregard it with non attachment, be non reactive and live the teachings.
Once again thank you Shrikanth ji for reminding me of the Truth and tenets of right living.

Astroboy, I do appreciate your taking the time to read my chart and arriving on the disease in the chart. But on a lighter note, may I ask what is the prognosis? It would so help me if you could advise me on my future course of action. I plan to live separately within a couple of months. In this big bad world, with no apparent source of income except faith in Divine Mother, will my decision be the right one? There is no point continuing in a marriage that has given me and will continue to give me only pain and betrayal. I believe in loving all even my enemies. But am unable to do so at close quarters. The past has to be left behind and I must move on forgiving and forgetting. It would be a mental solace to know that finally All will be well and I will not be destitute financially.

Living life the way it was meant to be lived, in joy and inner peace is what I hope to seek. .do the work of my spiritual Master and lead a life of clean and happy thoughts. That can only happen if I draw away from negative people and atmospheres.

Would you crystal gaze in to the future please?

Warm Regards
S

[astroboy]

Good day Madam,

There are days, (very very rare though) when I believe that ""unless God wills it, even a dog will not cross my path, and no leaf will fall unless he wills it"". You have rightly observed, that It could just be the case where the lord had asked me to throw in my two cents, or rather, his two cents,......... through me. If you have noticed, he is not to be seen off late, and so gets his work done through others. It's been a few thousand years now since anyone saw him. It's high time we reported him missing, wait for 7 more years and then issue a death certificate.

Very few people are chosen to be dragged in the mud by the planets. I came to the realisation this early morning, that ""no planet does bad, it all depends on our perception of what is bad and what is good. If a planet is doing bad for you in the material world, Make no mistake, he is surely doing good for you in your spiritual realm.""

I call the planets the ""Cat"". The ""cat"" is the short form for a ""Cat O 9 tails"". A cat is a kind of whip that is made up of 9 knotted thongs of cotton cord, about 2.5 feet long. When used, It is designed to lacerate the skin and cause intense pain. The planets can inflict severe mental pain and in some special cases physical pain too. There is nothing like a good whipping from the planets, for us to look up at the sky and think of God. The planets once gave me a such a through wipping, that in time I realised what the 9 planets can do. I have understood them so well, I often dream of them in my sleep. No wonder I write about them so much, day in and day out.

It seems to me, the dross which is the material, has been seperated from you. Realisation has dawned on you that there are greater things in life than mere marriage and children. If you believe that marriage has caused you more harm than good, then by all means, say good riddance to bad rubbish. Guru dasha /Ketu Bukthi is on. Both are in the 8th house. Both can cause a break up of marriage. If you think that you cant take it anymore, then go ahead and quit the marriage. However, there is another point of view presented by Shrikanth ji, And I will go with him on this, - ""If you have a perfectly spiritual bend of mind, the imperfect world should not affect you - but you should be able to embrace this imperfection with a smile and move on."" - extremely tough - but the perfect way to handle life.

Best regards,

BTW - your write well and you are clear in your expression.

[anuradha]

e: manglik who has an unhappy marriage for second time
by Siddhu1 » 130112

Dear Shrikanth,

As required by you, am posting certain relevant facts and dates.

Date of first marriage : 11th Dec 1977

Applied for Divorce : April 1986

Had a daughter from this marriage

Date of 2nd marriage: 3rd May 1986.

Publicly announced 29th October 1988

Have a son from this marriage.

My dob :

4th April 1955,

Place Mumbai

Time 22.11 hours.

My husbands DOB:

27th March 1955

Place : jabalpur

Time : 17.30 hours ( approx)

My husbands infidelity and abuse is known only to me. he has kept up a false image of decency. Therefore I am not believed if I tell my children of the truth. But am now past my tolerance. I have borne abuse from day one of marriage.

I have inherited some property so am able to have a house but no regular source of income. So am planning to sell off another small property and survive.

When will I be able to shift to my own home? when will my property get sold? Is my future as bleak as my past? Will the truth of my husbands misbehaviours with me get exposed? I cannot find it in my heart to forgive a man who chases 17 year olds, younger than his own children! And then tortures me with his words. calling me a sham and my love for God hypocrisy. he taunts me of eating off him and says I am a parasite.. because I was not a working woman. he never allowed me to be one. I was multi talented .. but all has been wasted.

I am very spiritually inclined and find great solace in meditation. Yet, the loneliness and despondency gets to me. My loyalty and sacrifice has been met with only revenge, jealousy, abuse and neglect. Why?

My childrens behaviour also is not what I would expect from those to who I have devoted my life. I kept in the background at home for the last 30 years only so that the family would prosper and I could look after all. My daughter, has gone back to her father, even though she knew that I was physically abused by him. I cannot understand what is happening to my life.

Sorry for the long -sh response. But I think you required to know my circumstances.

My parents have expired and my elder siblings, all of them are like enemies. I am the youngest.

So veritably, I am alone.. save Divine Mother.

I shall be so obliged if you and your panel of esteemed astrologers are able to guide me at this critical juncture of my life.

Regards
Siddhu1
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Respected Siddhuji, The basic reason for all this is 4L[Saturn] in 12H and 12L[Venus] in 4H, 5L[ Jupiter] is in 8H and 8L [Mercury] in 5H, 5L is with Ketu in 8H. Moon in 10H aspected by Mars made you short tempered. Aspect to Mars on 2H further creates a problem. Date of first marriage : 11th Dec 1977 dasha was Moon - Venus- Venus,
Applied for Divorce : April 1986
Mars- Sun- Venus or Moon

Date of 2nd marriage: 3rd May 1986.
Mars-Moon-Moon[ 2nd marriage is seen from 9H], it is clearly visible why the first marriage was broken, you had also played a role.'' My husbands infidelity and abuse is known only to me.'' See Moon is not only in M.B
but also aspected by Mars[ 6L] Venus[ 12L] and Saturn[3L] since under exchange with Venus. Though Jupiter is aspecting the Venus but under the exchange with 8L[ Mercury]
'' I have inherited some property so am able to have a house but no regular source of income''
See 5L in 8H and 8L[ Mercury] in 5H aspecting the 11H, and 2L Jupiter is aspecting the 4H.
'' I am very spiritually inclined and find great solace in meditation''
See 5L in 8H, 8L in 5 H, Ketu is also in 8H. Jupiter is also with Ketu as 5L
'' My childrens behaviour also is not what I would expect from those to who I have devoted my life''
See the 5L in 8H and 8L in 5H, Karka Jupiter is in 8H with Ketu.
'' my elder siblings, all of them are like enemies. I am the youngest.''
See the 11L is also the 8L[ Mercury] in Neecha, Karka for elder sibling is Jupiter again in 8H. You are the youngest because 3L is in 12H.[ To Be continued...]