Re: Problems in marriage

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[Dev]

Hi:

You should stress on the fact that the innocent girl as she grows up needs the emotional support of her father and for that sake atleast, he should carry on. May be if any of his relatives are good people who can talk in an unbiased way, u can make them to speak to him but stress on the fact that the girl needs him rather than saying u need him since when ur thought comes to him, he may think only of divorce.
Dev

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[Dev]

Hi Subha:

I feel bad hearing about it. See u should not have spoken to him at all since he is dead against u. Some common friend can help or even his friend who is known to you, u can approach without his knowledge and tell him to try. Never try it yourself.

Anyway try to pray to Goddess Mahalakshmi and chant Lakshmi Astottaram everyday. Also worship Lord Shiva on thursdays. Hope some good will happen. Dont worry further. Have faith in God and proceed with these.

Dev

[swamykool]

Dear shubhrarawlins,

You:

Your Lg is Capri (Shravana) and Moon is Libra (Vishakha). Ven, Sat and Mer are in the 8th H. Mer is in the Nk of Purvaphalguni (Ven) but Ven and Sat are in the Nk of Ketu (Magha) and in a Gandanta. These two planets are considerably weakened and capable of making serious trouble. Sat is also Lg lord and deb in the Navamsha. Sun is in Virgo, in the 9th H and in his own Nk (uttaraphalguni) but with Rahu (Hasta). Ketu is in the 3rd in the Nk of Mer (Revati). Jup and Mar are in the 6th in Gemini, in the H of an enemy (Mer) and in the Nk of Rahu (Ardra) creating a strong Guru-Chandal yoga. You are born in Vaidhriti yoga (this is a Nitya Yoga, created only by the angles between the Sun and Moon). Both Shani and Jup aspets Moon. You are prone to sudden bouts of depression, have an extremely irritable temperament and are extremely proud, veering on arrogance. This pride sometimes manifests itself in your speech. Also due to Vaidhriti Yoga (means unsupported) you feel that however hard you work or whatever you do you never get due recognition and appreciation. This feeling will last you lifelong, so what cannot be cured must be endured.

In the Navamsha Moon is exalted but both Sat and Jup are debilitated. Sat is with Venus and Deb in the 12th H. And Jup is deb in the 9th H. Both have neechabhanga, but neechabhanga is first neecha and then bhanga. So it will put your through the wringer first.

Currently you are running the dasha of Mer your 6th L (Lord of enmities, disease, debts etc) who is in the 8th H (mangalya sthan). Currently you are running Mer MD and Ketu AD (27/11/2010 to 24/11/2011). The Next AD is of Ven (who is also in the 8th and in a Gandanta) (24/11/2011 - 24/09/2014). This whole period is extremely bad for you. Especially the Ketu AD.

Your Husband:

Moon (deb) in Scorpio (Vishakha) and Lg in Gemini (Punarvasu). Sat and Mar Deb in Rashi, although there is neechabhanga. In the Navamsha Lg is vargottam but with Ketu, Moon in OH and Venus and Mars exalted. This is not a bad person, is quite kind, considerate and hard working. But the problem is, he will suffer silently for a long time, but once his anger is aroused. He becomes hard, cold and extremely ruthless. Very difficult to change his mind once that stage is reached. He is running his Ketu dasha and Ketu is with Mer, the Lg lord. The current running dashas are Ketu MD and Ven (12th L ) AD (09/07/2010 - 09/09/2011). The 12th H is the H of Loss and expenses and Ven the 5th and 12th L in his chart is sitting in the 4th H (Happiness). So till Sep 2011 is a very troublesome time for him and can urge him to take drastic steps.

You have started your sade sati from 09/09/2009 when Sat entered virgo, Sat is now transiting the Nk of Hasta, it will enter Libra and become exalted from 15/11/2011 (your husband's sade sati starts from then). In transit Sat is aspecting your natal Ketu and your 6th H. And while transiting Virgo Sat is aspecting your Husband's Moon and Lagna both. Also Rahu is transiting the Nk of Mula from 27/09/2010 to 03/05/2011 (this period is very very bad for you).

Shubhra ji, I don't believe in giving out false positives or speaking comforting psycho-babble. Let me put this to you frankly. The next 10 years are going to be bad for you. The period till Nov 2011 is very very bad and the period till 03/05/2011 is super bad. Since you are uninitiated into the technicalities of astrology, I shall omit the details and simply offer you my suggestions. Your husband's temper will improve after his Ven AD, that is after September 2011. Since you have admitted that you are mainly responsible for making this trouble, you must try to control both your pride and temper. Avoid at all cost any snide comments or offensive remarks. You must practically sew up your mouth till Nov 2011. A couple of close family friends are ok but don't bring in a lot of people. The combo of Gemini Lg and Scorpio moon doesn't listen to people and keeps their own counsel. Also scorpio moon is intensely private. They don't like everybody poking their noses into their affairs. If you think you are at fault, the best policy is to eat humble pie and apologise privately. That will work. A person with exalted Mars in the Nav will never humiliate his wife publicly. Your husband has Jup in the 5th H (H of Children) and the 5th L Ven in the 4th. In the Nav Mer is in the 5th and the 5th L Ven is exalted. He is extremely weak on his daughter. Use this plea. But whatever you do, do it yourself and do it privately, between husband and wife. He might drag you over the coals but there is a good chance he might come around. So maintain your cool, apologise for the troubles you have made (if any) and offer to make amends. Try to hang on till the month of May and things will begin to improve in stages. Do not expect any dramatic change.

For yourself, you are advised to recite the Sri Sri Vishnu Sahasranam regularly. Better if you try to explore the practice of Kriya yoga. Many good institutes teach this. It will be excellent for both your mental and physical health and I have seen it work wonders.

I personally do not give much credence to pariharas and grah shantis but that is entirely my personal opinion. If you feel the need to do such rituals or if you feel that such rituals will give you some peace or confidence, by all means do them. I don't know about such remedies but you may ask P. Srinivas Rao ji, Ramanan Ji or AstroSonu ji, they are the experts regarding graha shanti and has helped many people.

By any means do not worry unnecessarily and do not lose confidence. If you need any further clarifications please ask. If you apply yourself properly things will change for the better. Even through the bad times, the very bad times would only come in disjointed periods, the rest would be just so so.

My best wishes

swamykool

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Good day to you Shubhra ,

When a Person of the stature of Swamy Cool ji , has already analysed a horoscope, it's needless for me to write anything . However i assume Swamy Cool will not mind me going through the charts . Just give me some time . I will be back .

Best regard's

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It is you , not your husband who is desperate to save the marriage. Goes to show what kind of a person you are .I dont know if your husband has consulted any astrologer , But from my perspective , you are more interested in saving the marriage than he is . That is a good nimita
(omen) . I know this for a fact , when a woman wants to break a marriage , even god cannot stop her . In this case it's your husband who is up to no good .

Now the question to be asked is , Why Now . 10 years have passed , why this sudden urge to break the marriage . Why is it , that God is putting you through this excruciatingly painful test ? I know how this feels . I have seen this up close and personal ,believe me .

Now , in my limited experience , I fear only , and only one planet . That planet is Shani . Shani is one man , who will put you through a sugarcane juice crusher , and take his own sweet time to wring the happiness out of you . I have no better way to describe it .

If you sit back and think calmly , you will realise that the crux and the seed of the trouble , started in September 2009 . Things between you and your husband begain to drift , and dry up . It was not the same any more ...... this got worse as the days went by , and reached a boiling point in Feb 2011. My dear friend , let me introduce you to Lord Shani . This is the effect of the 7 and a half years of Saturn ,commonly known as sade sati , . The intensity of February 2011 is due to the Retrogression of Shani . Why is he attacking your marriage ? Because the Moon , is the 7th lord ( Marriage )for this horoscope and shani being in the 8th house of "Mangalaya " is threatening to destroy the Mangalaya stana .

Shani's scores very very poorly in the Astakavarga chart , getting a measly 1 point . This puts Shani in such a frenzy that he will turn a Lion into a rat by the time he is finished . No body can withstand such pressure . I really must commend you because you have not caved in as yet .

Now , the good news is that Shani will be transiting you natal moon is Nov 2011 . Things will be rough till then . I am not going to dish out any candy and say things will be all well from 2011 Nov , But having said that , It will definitely better than now . Why ? Because Shani scores a healthy 5 points in the A.V. chart .

The way to get relief is to go to a Shani temple or a Shiva temple and pray with a sincere heart . Its best to cry in front of him . Believe me , you drop a tear , he will be with you in 1 second . I am saying this from my own experience .

[astroboy]

I have seen that generally , when a Sade Sati of a wife Gets over , the Sade Sati of the husband starts soon after . This leads to very interesting situations . I know of a case where the husband threw the wife out while her sade sati was on . The wife was on the streets literally , because she was not educated enough to find a job , and her parents were poor . With a kid to support , there was no other way but to start working . The woman found a job , and started working . In due course , her colleague fell in love with this woman , and married her . This boy was 3 years younger to her , and was a handsome man with a good educational and a family background . The woman married this man , and within 7 months left for the Gulf . Both started doing extremely well . In time , all was forgotten ........ Till Shani got hold of the ex Husband. This man who was not bothered about the well being of the child and the wife , now suddenly began thinking of their wellbeing . He finally tracked her down , only to find her happily married to another man . The husband , needless to say , is now a wreck .

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[swamykool]

Shubhra ji,

I am scared to apologise as he is not ready to listen to me at all.
As you have mentioned, things will improve from May 5, 2011. I am really counting on that.

As for divorce, what is the possibility. Will he really leave me and my daughter??
As I mentioned earlier, I will keep my mouth shut even if he makes snide comments or hurts me.

Pls. advise. I am hoping that we will not separate /divorce??

Very well, since you are so distraught, I will explain the points to you.

Rahu is currently in Mula Nk (27/09/2010 - 03/05/2011). Mula is your Manasa Nk (mental state, equilibrium), Mula's nature is to create dissatisfaction and lack of happiness and Rahu there is giving you extreme mental turmoil and anxeity and creating a situation for dissolution. From Mula Rahu is creating a Nakshatra Vedha (Nk aspect) on Capri (your 1st H - self), Aqua (2nd H - family) and Ketu. Ketu sits in Pisces your 3rd H fr Lg and 6th H from moon. Ketu is in the H of Guru and Nk of Mer (Revati). Guru is the Karak for the 1st Husband of a woman. Guru is in the Nk of Rahu (Ardra) in the 6th H from Lg but 9th H from Moon. And Mer is in the 8th H fr Lg but 11th H from Moon. And Ketu is the karak for sudden dangers, upheavals and dissolutions. This is creating the turmoil in your family life. And Check the dates, the most virulent period started after Rahu transited into Mula.

For your husband, Rahu with all its disruptive/ destructive tendencies from Mula, is giving Nk aspect to his Janma Lg and Janma tara (fr Lg) Punarvasu. This means practically his whole being is in turmoil. Aspects his VAINASHIKA TARA from Lg (Vinaash means destruction) Revati, he is prone to extreme self destructive attitudes now. Rahu also gives Nk aspect to Chitra, where Jup sits in his Chart. And Jup is his 7th L - the L of Spouse. This is not good.

Also simulteneous aspects of Rahu to both his Janma Tara and Vainashika Tara is not good for health, to say the least. Your husband's health is running into some serious danger zone.

Shani is transiting in Hasta (Virgo) and aspecting his Aadhana Tara(Conducive environment) from moon in Ardra (Gem) and Abhisheka Tara (success/achievement) from Lg in the same Nk. He might be experiencing some career troubles.

For you Shani in Hasta is transiting your natal Rahu and creating Nk vedha (aspect) to your Aadhana Nk in Ardra, this is also where your Jup and Mar is posited. Do not forget that Shani is in a Gandanta deg in your D1 and debilitated in Navamsha (with nb). And when it entered Virgo your 12th H from moon sade sati started. Your husband's sadesati starts when Shani enters Libra
Your are running the MD of Mer and AD of Ketu. Ketu sits in the Nk of Mer (Revati) so Ketu practically controls Mer. Only good thing is Mer is happily placed with 2 friends, in the rashi of a friend (Leo) and Nk of a friend (purvaphalguni - Ven).

So read through the Nk trasit expl of Rahu and Shani and you will see that chances of divorce are present in your husbands chart till 03/05/2011 (Rahu-Mula). From your chart the indications are not that bad, but they are there. But just hang on let this period pass and try your best not to let the papers be filed before 03/05/2011. After that things will become a little easier.

One can never be 100% sure because of the component of free will or Kriyaman Karma. If you keep faith in god and take the proper steps this period might pass with bruises but intact. There is no way I can sugarcoat this pill. Shani is a troublemaker for you because of his bad placements (not lordships), the years of sade sati will be bad, so this will be a long haul. No easy way out.

You said you love your husband very much and cannot live without him. You said you would be devastated. Have you said these things to him? Whats the bloody use of writing 1000 lines on a public forum but not telling the person who matters most? Do not be afraid, tell your husband, apologise and offer to make amends. Do these things privately, between husband and wife. Tell him a child needs both parents to grow up properly. With Moon, Shani and Mars deb in rashi your husband is a bit touchy, but he will come around if you are sincere. His Nav positions are good.

Do the mantras regularly and take up Kriya yoga. Keeping your inherent nature in control for 10 yrs is not going to be easy, whatever you might think. If you are in Mumbai, it has some excellent places where it is taught.

Disregard my personal bias and do the pariharas. Ask the people I mentioned before, they have helped lots of others.

It is good Astroboy is taking a look at your chart. He is a brilliant astrologer and might find some ray of light that I have missed. I have used the Sarvatobhadra Chakra for Nakshatra analysis.

regards
swamykool

[R V RAMANAN]

Dear Swamykool and Deeps,

Excellent analysis on the chart.

I too feel that Lord Shani can save her by saving the marriage. It is very easy to propitiate Shani. In the Varnashrama Dharma Saturn represents the Shoodras. She must try and do all work which can soil her clothes or maybe even get her dirty like cobweb cleaning, mopping, gardening etc., treat servants very well and be kind to vegetable, fruit vendors on the streets. She can use gingely oil for cooking and on every saturday take oil bath using the same. She must make it a point to visit burial grounds if at all theres any death or visit hospitals and help ppl there. She shd NEVER dye her hair black if its turning grey. Black attracts saturn and dark blue pleases him. Try to use as much blue as possible. Sleep with the head facing West. All these are very simple to do than a prayer when her mind is not at rest.

I feel that there are good chances. All the best to u Shubraji.

Warm regards,
RAMANAN

[R V RAMANAN]

Dear Swamykool,

I dont know y u say that u dont believe in poojas and pariharas. Parihara is not kickassing somebody and falling at the feet of the planet once it starts to react or go to God for mercy. No not at all. Parihara is willingly accepting the trouble or the loss which is foreseen by a particular placement of a planet and maybe its time period.

Lets take an example, that Kuja gives dosha in the 12th. 12th is losses and Kuja is fire. So, y dont u lose something in the fire willingly even before Kuja takes his toll by performing a homa. See for eg., if u can put a silk saree (Venus), rice (Moon), ghee (Jupiter), samith (Sun) u wud have appeased all these 4 planets alongwith the propitiation to Kuja.

If we manage to understand the type of problem which we may get bcos of a planet in lagna and afflicted, simply by lying low and keeping a low profile we can get away with a small amt of damage.

Pariharas are not mere beliefs. There is much more to pariharas. Its a tantra. It is also acceptance and repentance.

Trust this helps.

Regards,
RAMANAN

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Ramanan Ji:

Pls. advise on what can you do for parihara.

Shubhra

[R V RAMANAN]

DEAR SHUBRA JI

i have already written as to what all u can do to appease lord shani. in addition come arnd the navagrahas 9 times on saturdays in a shiva temple every saturday and try to chant om namah shivaya shivaya nama om after a bath daily,


regards
ramanan

[astroboy]

Shubhra ji ,

Your problem has shaken the forum enough for Ramanan Ji to actually call me up and discuss your case . He asked me to use a unusual route . To examine the horoscope of the child , and see if it has the yogas for a child hood with both parents exits or not . This is not normally done . But in order to give you a good nights sleep , We are willing to go this extra mile .

Now a quick glance of your childs horoscpe reveals that there is 1 beautiful Dharma Karmadipathi Yoga in the horoscope . Guru the 10th lord is in the 9th house . Another great yoga is the combination where Kuja the lord of the 9th and the 2nd ( Family )is in the 4th house of "Sukha " indicating that there will be comfort in the child's life .

Yes , the significator of the father is in debilitation in the D1 , but he is exalted in the 7th in the D9 . It shows that after initial strife , Things will get progressively better and the child will get due attention from its father .

One point to note . The significator for the mother is the 4th house , ruled by Budha . budha is with a debilitated planet . However the parivarthana between Budha and shukra is a good yoga to have .Things are sure to fall in place after initial strife .

The child is anyways going through it's Sade Sati . You cannot expect the child to have maximum happiness at this point in time . When the mother is stressed , the child is sure to be stressed .

to cut the long story short . I thing marriage will be stormy . The 12th lord Shani's aspect from the 6th on Ravi is something to worry about . I am banking on the 9th lord's placement in the 4th house to see your marriage through .

[shilpa]

Hello,

--shani's sade sati is amongst other things...the period for dispensation of Karmik justice ( Karma incurred in this life as well as past). This is your first sade sati as an adult.

--Your lord of the 7th house is placed in your Dharmasthan in both Rasi an Navamsa.How much have you followed your "Dharma" ( duties, responsibilties, morals) will also get tested.

--The severity of your problems must have started after 20th Jan, 2011 when your Ketu antar Dasa started. Ke is generally bad for relationships and your case it is placed in a Dustahn....causes situations of anger, frustration, fight, emotional ( as well as physical) detachment with the partner.....and manifests itelf very strongly in the first 3 to 4 months months of the antardasa.
Leaving the person hopeless and resgining to the fate in the next 3 to 4 months....and situation imporving in the last 3 to 4 months.
But with a shocking unfortunate something right at the end most times ( the sting in the tail). But this shocker in your case, if it occurs will be related to your work/ health ( 6th house related) and not marriage.

--I believe if you have followed your duties ( Dharma) you will come out of this unscathed and marriage intact......after the suffering throuhgout this year.
17th 2012 January onward, love and compassion will return back, if you see it throuhg until then and if you have held on to your dharma well enough.
A debilitated,combusted Jupiter in the Navamsa cojunct with malefic and innimical Ketu ......also very weak in the das-varga charts does indicate you may have an inherently diffrent and unconformal value system.

--Do Ketu Jaap and Poojan on Tuesdays or as often as you can.....it will reduce the hurt part.

regards

[anuradha]

Do Ketu Jaap and Poojan on Tuesdays or as often as you can.....it will reduce the hurt part.

Madam , Day for Ketu is Thursday.Planting the Neem sapling and take care ,that it tuns into a big tree is a good remedy. Regards

[shilpa]

Do Ketu Jaap and Poojan on Tuesdays or as often as you can.....it will reduce the hurt part.

Madam , Day for Ketu is Thursday.Planting the Neem sapling and take care ,that it tuns into a big tree is a good remedy. Regards

Dear Anuradha,

what is "the day" of Ketu is a question posed many a time on internet forums

see this for example

http://sawaal.ibibo.com/astrology/which ... 35930.html

That Ketu acts like Mars is well known.....makes me tilt towards Tuesday as his day.

the planting of neem sapling would help didn't know.....thanks.........that it will turn into a big-tree is when it will be a good remedy ! Slightly long period...don't you think?
regards

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