PL HELP PL - My love,Marriage & Career is LOST

[ripper456]

I had been into this love for more than 4 years and 3 months. From the very beginning we had infinite number of petty fights both of us were never really happy. Now during the last one month due to some reason which her parents told her she totally started avoiding me. She used to tell all lies on finalizing marriage. More than love she had lot of EGO and arrogance on me. She started telling all lies to me. One more reason is for the past 4 years we were able to meet on all days as we were in the same office. Now after i moved from the location only i came to know about her real character. We spent these 4 years in ONLY FAULT FINDING. She is more of dominating and not able to understand things - to say in easy terms we were not on the same page for most of the time.

The main reason for breakup is she has started sharing her feelings with some other guy through mobile for the past one year.

We both have broken up couple of days before - right now she is more relieved than me as she thinks a great trouble has left her forever... The reason she has told for breakup is she is not able to take up my anger and also she told I am not TRUSTING her any more. (why i will doubt her if she was true to me)

For Myself
1. What will be my future - is it an arranged marriage or love marriage?
2. If it is arranged, How will the girl i marry as per my parents wish will be? (like Compatibility,understanding and life with me)
3. What all steps i should take for my future life to be happy (like pooja and remedies to be done)? Why i doubted this girl too much? Is suspition my character?
4. Career prospects - Should i continue in this company or should i try for any business. How will be the prospects in business and also suggest me what kind of business is best suited for me (and what is the time to start)?
My date of birth - 03-01-1981
Time - 08:10 AM
Place - Bangalore, Karnataka, India

[astroboy]

Good day to you,

I am not going to give you some Purana and waste your time and mine. How you two managed to stay together for 4 years and 3 months is a sheer miracle. Both of you are like chalk and cheese. Forget she ever existed and lead your life. I know it's easier said and done but you have to do it if you want your own sanity. I am not going to get into astrological jargon because that would be futile. Take my advice, you will be saved, fail to take it and it's your funeral. swallow your ego, dust your pants and walk on. Simple as that .




Trust this help's

[sinecurve]

Good day to you,

I am not going to give you some Purana and waste your time and mine. How you two managed to stay together for 4 years and 3 months is a sheer miracle. Both of you are like chalk and cheese. Forget she ever existed and lead your life. I know it's easier said and done but you have to do it if you want your own sanity. I am not going to get into astrological jargon because that would be futile. Take my advice, you will be saved, fail to take it and it's your funeral. swallow your ego, dust your pants and walk on. Simple as that .

Trust this help's

No idea what you do for living Astroboy but you would make a great counselor. Always I have found your advice straight-fwd practical and no beat around the bush. you rock Man...Keep it up !!

[ripper456]

Great Astroboy - Really you brought my life back . i was waiting for your reply only. I saw you were providing feedback to many of the members.

Just one help - As your answer were on the face. please answer me these questions crisp and sharp so that i can move forward and lead in my life on my own.

For the sheer love I had on her please answer the questions pertaining to her for my satisfaction.


For Myself
1. What will be my future - is it an arranged marriage or love marriage?
2. If it is arranged, How will the girl i marry as per my parents wish will be? (like Compatibility,understanding and life with me)
3. What all steps i should take for my future life to be happy (like pooja and remedies to be done)? Why i doubted this girl too much? Is suspicion my character?
4. Career prospects - Should i continue in this company or should i try for any business. How will be the prospects in business and also suggest me what kind of business is best suited for me (and what is the time to start)?
My date of birth - 03-01-1981 | Time - 08:10 AM | Place - Bangalore, Karnataka, India

Good day to you,
I am not going to give you some Purana and waste your time and mine. How you two managed to stay together for 4 years and 3 months is a sheer miracle. Both of you are like chalk and cheese. Forget she ever existed and lead your life. I know it's easier said and done but you have to do it if you want your own sanity. I am not going to get into astrological jargon because that would be futile. Take my advice, you will be saved, fail to take it and it's your funeral. swallow your ego, dust your pants and walk on. Simple as that .
Trust this help's

[astroboy]

Good day to you,

you wrote,

Just one help - As your answer were on the face. please answer me these questions crisp and sharp so that i can move forward and lead in my life on my own.

.

It's 21.50 as i write this. I will bend my back backwards just to make somebody happy. You have asked me a question i cannot refuse to answer, I am pleased by your line "For the sheer love I had on her please answer the questions pertaining to her for my satisfaction and just for that here is my analysis,

the lagna is Sagittarius. Lagna is in Purva Ashadha Nakshatra. "purva ashadha is a Nakshatra which is associated with declarations of war and other aggressions." Her whole life will be spent fighting.

the 7th house is the house of Marriage and Spouse. the less said about the 7th house the better. the 7th is posited by 3 planets Kuja, Ravi and Budha. Kuja being in the 7th is a strong Kuja dosha. Ravi being there is a killer.

From Chandra lagna, Chandra is placed in Mesha Rashi. She is like a Ram {an uncastrated male Sheep}. Ask her to go through the door and she will insist on making a hole through the wall. There is no point in talking to her at all. She will do exactly what she wants to do.
From chandra lagna the 7th house is posited with Ketu and Lord Shani. She will do well in her career but her marriage is finished. She will find a man who will give her a good career but that is that, no body will be happy with her. Nor will she be happy. I hope I am wrong, But as things go, they rarely go wrong.

I am sorry to disappoint you,



Trust this helps,

[ripper456]

Hi Astroboy -
Pranams for taking pains during your busy schedule also and you were tired i hope.
Really you have opened my eyes. This was the answer i was waiting for the last one year. Too much of fights and even before one fight comes down another one starts. I am also short tempered and also she told she is not able to bear my anger any more.
I feel relieved but feel very bad that i may not be able to provide a life for her. Atlease if she does not listen to anyone or her parents she can listen to me right.. now only i understand what is the problem. I feel guilt as I spoiled a life of a Girl whom she loved very much.

As said and done - this week only i realized the Grace of God and the power of planets on humans.

Can you guide me on my questions
For Myself
1. Obviously i will go only for arranged marriage, How will the girl i marry as per my parents wish will be? (like Compatibility,understanding and life with me)

2. What all steps i should take for my future life to be happy (like pooja and remedies to be done)? I dont want to spoil the new girls life also - so only i am taking precautions.

3. Is kalsharpa dosha in my chart - and wat effect of it? The effect of Rahu in 7th house and Ketu and Kuja in lagna? Will i divorce the girl whom i marry?

4. Career prospects - Should i continue in this company or should i try for any business. How will be the prospects in business and also suggest me what kind of business is best suited for me (and what is the (month year) to start)? Why i am asking is i am getting Sukra dasa from next year.

My date of birth - 03-01-1981 | Time - 08:10 AM | Place - Bangalore, Karnataka, India

Good day to you,
you wrote,

Just one help - As your answer were on the face. please answer me these questions crisp and sharp so that i can move forward and lead in my life on my own.
.

It's 21.50 as i write this. I will bend my back backwards just to make somebody happy. You have asked me a question i cannot refuse to answer, I am pleased by your line "For the sheer love I had on her please answer the questions pertaining to her for my satisfaction and just for that here is my analysis,

the lagna is Sagittarius. Lagna is in Purva Ashadha Nakshatra. "purva ashadha is a Nakshatra which is associated with declarations of war and other aggressions." Her whole life will be spent fighting.

the 7th house is the house of Marriage and Spouse. the less said about the 7th house the better. the 7th is posited by 3 planets Kuja, Ravi and Budha. Kuja being in the 7th is a strong Kuja dosha. Ravi being there is a killer.

From Chandra lagna, Chandra is placed in Mesha Rashi. She is like a Ram {an uncastrated male Sheep}. Ask her to go through the door and she will insist on making a hole through the wall. There is no point in talking to her at all. She will do exactly what she wants to do.
From chandra lagna the 7th house is posited with Ketu and Lord Shani. She will do well in her career but her marriage is finished. She will find a man who will give her a good career but that is that, no body will be happy with her. Nor will she be happy. I hope I am wrong, But as things go, they rarely go wrong.
I am sorry to disappoint you,
Trust this helps,

[ripper456]

Hi all

Only Astro boy was able to help me.

I request all the other esteemed members to look into this issue and provide me a solution.

She is asking for one more week time wat to do now. Please I need help - some one please answer the questions pertaining to me.

[indyan]

Dear Ripper,
I am in the same situation. Exactly same. My fiancée also done the same with me, she caught while talking a friend whom she left about 4 years back. but she continued to talk to him again since last year. But she lied to me all the time when her phone was busy. Lying and fighting and breaking up for every topic is very normal with me relation. All the time i have to say sorry even without doing any mistake from my side.
Astroboy ji told me to leave her coz she is Ashlesha born girl. But I asked him for any remedy else i cant leave her. I respect sri astroboy ji advice and will always respect him. But If i love someone i have to accept her as it. NO ONE IS PERFECT. So neither me nor you.
Ripper, You know the answer of your question. If we say no don't believe her then you leave her? NO, You Don't.
You will give her another chance (Which you are doing since your relation starts) and you EXPECT this time she will change, But My dear friend she will never change. For time being say 1 week or 2 week she try to calm her temper and faults but as soon as you trust her again or show your unconditional love she again do the same thing which you are experiencing since last 4 years.
IMHO If you have enough courage to let her live her life as she want, accepting her dominating nature, and never ask or point out her fault THEN ONLY GO AHEAD.
Don't expect that she will change ever, NO NEVER...
I accepted the truth and now i am happy. I know she will hurt me coz its in her nature. She cant help it. Whats her fault if she was born in Ashlesha. I love her and will always love her. Remember Love is UNCONDITIONAL.

Hope it will help...

Regards

PS: Ripper i am also in the relation since last 4 years and experienced the same and also i am in long distance relationship since beginning of our relation.Where there's a will there's a way

[ripper456]

Indyan

Thanks for replying to me. Here my gf is very very true to me. I can bet you that she loves only me and will never cheat me. Coz I am the only person whom she loved first,last and forever.
The only problem is she wants freedom to talk with her school and office friends (esp boys), she talks with only one guy constantly for the last one year. I don't know why she trust him so much. She is telling she is not loving him but only has soft corner.
She was true and still true to me for the last 4 years. Only during this last one year some dog came in between our relationship as a friend. I fully trust her that she will not love another guy.
Now the problem is Compatibility in life. Without this we cannot lead it. Even if i marry her i can know that there will be divorce or FIGHTS on a daily basis. I respect relationship and want EQUALITY for both of us. Meaning - we should adjust and live. Neither she nor me should dominate. For this condition also she will not come down.
She knows only love and nothing beyond that. She does not want to think mature, i provided her good advice and helped her for - medicines, nutritious foods, in times of need i helped and supported her mentally and provided advice on financial issues.

I m really very confused - after one year wait (we both told our parents in Sep 2009 and both parents agreed after a month). But when her parents saw the horoscope they started procrastinating the issue. They had put the blame on me - i marry her only for money, i will abuse her physically and finally throw her out. This made her to go away from me. SHE IS TELLING FOR MY HAPPINESS SHE IS MOVING OUT OF MY LIFE. Even my parents asked my friend astrologers for pooja and remedies and they told there is nothing we can do for this girls. horoscope.

I request Astroboy - to see my horoscope and answer questions pertaining to me ASAP. I have only members in light on vedic astrology forum for help and support.

All - PLEASE TREAT me as one in your family and provide me Astrological guidance on this. Why i have so much faith in Astrology is that this is the only science which can foresee the future and guide us.

Dear Ripper,
I am in the same situation. Exactly same. My fiancée also done the same with me, she caught while talking a friend whom she left about 4 years back. but she continued to talk to him again since last year. But she lied to me all the time when her phone was busy. Lying and fighting and breaking up for every topic is very normal with me relation. All the time i have to say sorry even without doing any mistake from my side.
Astroboy ji told me to leave her coz she is Ashlesha born girl. But I asked him for any remedy else i cant leave her. I respect sri astroboy ji advice and will always respect him. But If i love someone i have to accept her as it. NO ONE IS PERFECT. So neither me nor you.
Ripper, You know the answer of your question. If we say no don't believe her then you leave her? NO, You Don't.
You will give her another chance (Which you are doing since your relation starts) and you EXPECT this time she will change, But My dear friend she will never change. For time being say 1 week or 2 week she try to calm her temper and faults but as soon as you trust her again or show your unconditional love she again do the same thing which you are experiencing since last 4 years.
IMHO If you have enough courage to let her live her life as she want, accepting her dominating nature, and never ask or point out her fault THEN ONLY GO AHEAD.
Don't expect that she will change ever, NO NEVER...
I accepted the truth and now i am happy. I know she will hurt me coz its in her nature. She cant help it. Whats her fault if she was born in Ashlesha. I love her and will always love her. Remember Love is UNCONDITIONAL.

Hope it will help...

Regards

PS: Ripper i am also in the relation since last 4 years and experienced the same and also i am in long distance relationship since beginning of our relation.Where there's a will there's a way

[indyan]

Indyan

Thanks for replying to me. Here my gf is very very true to me. I can bet you that she loves only me and will never cheat me. Coz I am the only person whom she loved first,last and forever.
The only problem is she wants freedom to talk with her school and office friends (esp boys), she talks with only one guy constantly for the last one year. I don't know why she trust him so much. She is telling she is not loving him but only has soft corner.
She was true and still true to me for the last 4 years. Only during this last one year some dog came in between our relationship as a friend. I fully trust her that she will not love another guy.
Now the problem is Compatibility in life. Without this we cannot lead it. Even if i marry her i can know that there will be divorce or FIGHTS on a daily basis. I respect relationship and want EQUALITY for both of us. Meaning - we should adjust and live. Neither she nor me should dominate. For this condition also she will not come down.
She knows only love and nothing beyond that. She does not want to think mature, i provided her good advice and helped her for - medicines, nutritious foods, in times of need i helped and supported her mentally and provided advice on financial issues.

I m really very confused - after one year wait (we both told our parents in Sep 2009 and both parents agreed after a month). But when her parents saw the horoscope they started procrastinating the issue. They had put the blame on me - i marry her only for money, i will abuse her physically and finally throw her out. This made her to go away from me. SHE IS TELLING FOR MY HAPPINESS SHE IS MOVING OUT OF MY LIFE. Even my parents asked my friend astrologers for pooja and remedies and they told there is nothing we can do for this girls. horoscope.

I request Astroboy - to see my horoscope and answer questions pertaining to me ASAP. I have only members in light on vedic astrology forum for help and support.

All - PLEASE TREAT me as one in your family and provide me Astrological guidance on this. Why i have so much faith in Astrology is that this is the only science which can foresee the future and guide us.

Dear ripper,
Who told you that my Fiancee cheated me? or she love some one else?
The story which you are telling me the same happen to me also. She talk to his childhood friend whom she left about 4 year back. Due to some problem (His GF broke up with him and he need mental support) She talked with him and her GF, But she hide it from me coz she never want me to hurt. His friend is very much familiar about me and my relationship. If i am quoting her finacee then it mean her every friend and every person whom she know, Know about me. And if you are talking about respect then i dont think anyone can give me more respect than her.
Ripper here i also have the same problem, If i told her please dont talk to him i feel bad. But for FRIENDS only (Not for that single guy) she can shout at me and start arguing with me. She ask me why i am wrong? what i am doing if I talk with my friends? I am yours na then why you cant trust me? and endless questions and answers.
Ripper I still say, try to adjust with her. My fiancee is about 7 years younger than me and we meet when she was just 18. So i dont expect to think her like a mature girl. She have her education and friends.
Here only thing is IMPORTANCE which you seeking from you relation. She can accept and do anything you want. But when you tell her to stop talking or hanging with friends then she become against you. Isint?
She need freedom and if she is not wrong then she dont accept your wish. It hurts, i know it really hurts when someone you love and you ask for importance and respect, but even after asking, if you dont get it back or the same amount of love or care from another side then we become mad. We start to find the problem.

Ripper i still suggest you to think calmly. Asking here about yes and no is totaly different but i can bet for you, that even here every astrologer tell you to not be with her, you accept her everytime. you cant leave her ripper. You are just trying to bold yourself.
Sorry If i said something wrong...

Regards.

[ripper456]

Thanks indiyan and pria - I am really confused a lot now.

This is the first and only love till date... I dont want to lose her.

But what i fear is that my anger will ruin her.. I dont know what to do. She has asked one week time this week.

And also i am waiting for Astroboy to analyze my horoscope and tell me what to do and what kind of solutions i have either to marry her or to continue my life by arranged marriage.

I am now struck in between emotional love (which is haunting me like a devil) and the practicality of life.

Can you ever imagine being with a person all day for the past 4 years. Every day we used to meet and i can see her at stone throwing distance coz we are in same team same office same location. And she is ready to do anything for me officially or personally. Suddenly and abruptly we stopped last week. I cannot do anything from then for the past 8 days.

I dont have any bad habits of tobbaco, cigarettes or drinks and really feel bad - she was my only hope till last week. any prob any comfort she was the only one who stood along with me.

[astroboy]

Ripper,

You hang around like this trying to straighten her, you will be addicted to all the substances you just named. Just dump her, ask your parents to find you a girl and get married.

Best regards,

[ripper456]

Thanks Astroboy I have made up my mind to marry as per my parents wish after your very very detailed analysis of her.

Can you guide me on my questions Please - this is for me please

For Myself
1. Obviously i will go only for arranged marriage, How will the girl i marry as per my parents wish will be? (like Compatibility,understanding and life with me)

2. What all steps i should take for my future life to be happy (like pooja and remedies to be done)? I dont want to spoil the new girls life also - so only i am taking precautions.

3. Is kalsharpa dosha in my chart - and wat effect of it? The effect of Rahu in 7th house and Ketu and Kuja in lagna? Will i divorce the girl whom i marry?

4. Career prospects - Should i continue in this company or should i try for any business. How will be the prospects in business and also suggest me what kind of business is best suited for me (and what is the (month year) to start)? Why i am asking is i am getting Sukra dasa from next year.

My date of birth - 03-01-1981 | Time - 08:10 AM | Place - Bangalore, Karnataka, India

[Basab]

And also i am waiting for Astroboy to analyze my horoscope and tell me what to do and what kind of solutions i have

Love guru, Astroboy.

[astroboy]

What love guru Basab ji, I can fix my own love life, but just give gyaan, I wonder sometimes if i am doing more harm than good.

[Basab]

What love guru Basab ji, I can fix my own love life, but just give gyaan, I wonder sometimes if i am doing more harm than good.

When it comes to matters of the heart, it's only Astroboy whom people consult. That is how it is these days. That's why I called you love guru. If you were doing more harm than good, you would not have been so popular as you are here in the "Relationship and Marriage" section. Do give me some advice too when you get some free time from your busy schedule.

[astroboy]

Ripper,


1. Obviously i will go only for arranged marriage, How will the girl i marry as per my parents wish will be? (like Compatibility,understanding and life with me)
I dont believe in this upapada lagna analysis, So the only way to make out is to get the girl's horoscope.


2. What all steps i should take for my future life to be happy (like pooja and remedies to be done)? I dont want to spoil the new girls life also - so only i am taking precautions.
Kuja Dosha Nivarane pooja has to be done. No hurry but do it before you get married.


3. Is kalsharpa dosha in my chart - and wat effect of it? The effect of Rahu in 7th house and Ketu and Kuja in lagna? Will i divorce the girl whom i marry?
No Kalasarpa dosha, but this Kuja in the lagna is a problem. Please perform the above mentioned Remedy

4. Career prospects - Should i continue in this company or should i try for any business. How will be the prospects in business and also suggest me what kind of business is best suited for me (and what is the (month year) to start)? Why i am asking is i am getting Sukra dasa from next year.
No business for you. Shukra is in the 11th no doubt but he is with a Neecha 7th lord Chandra. So continue working for a company. You will do well.


The more I see your horoscope, the more I am begining to feel that your's will be a intercaste and a love marriage. The afflictions are so huge that I am doubtfull if you will get married as per your families wishes. But no matter what happens, this girl is not for you. Forget her and move on.


Best regards,

[astroboy]

Basab ji, You just have to make up your mind and there will be Q for you. My policy nowadays is "Owner of a lonely heart is much better than a owner of a broken heart"

[Basab]

Astroboy,

Thank you for your advice. I feel, it's not me but destiny which has to decide what it wants for me as I myself have always been willing to go for it. True what you have said, "Owner of a lonely heart is much better than a owner of a broken heart" but, it, I feel, is difficult to follow as the heart yearns for nothing else but love.

[indyan]

Basab ji, You just have to make up your mind and there will be Q for you. My policy nowadays is "Owner of a lonely heart is much better than a owner of a broken heart"

Guru ji, Is there any remedy through which we can control our feelings and emotion. (After break up)

[Basab]

Guruji,

What should one do when he is a victim of one-sided love?

[astroboy]

I still have not found that remedy yet Indyan, I could make million's if i could invent a remedy for the pain one goes through after a break up. Sadly it's not available as yet.

[indyan]

I still have not found that remedy yet Indyan, I could make million's if i could invent a remedy for the pain one goes through after a break up. Sadly it's not available as yet.

Then i am OK with my fiancee, atleast i am happy for atleast 22 hours in 24 hours. If i leave her then it become 0 hours for me. I already had very bad times and don't want to experience the same again. I pray to god that he bless us and you too.

[milredr]

"Basab » Mon Aug 02, 2010 5:20 pm

Guruji,

What should one do when he is a victim of one-sided love? "

Basab u know the answer to this. Leave it to destiny. What else:)