Is divorce a possibility ?

[kaalika]

Respected astrologers,

Namaste. I have been married for the past 6 years. My marriage has been very traumatic as my husband is abusive and I have suffered a lot of domestic violence from him. I want to divorce him but I am stuck in the marriage because of my children. He threatens to take the children away from me.

Can you please tell me if I will be able to get a divorce and when it will happen ?

My dob : 20 july 1983 4:16 pm Delhi
His dob : 14 may 1981 2:10 pm vadodara gujrat
Date of marriage : 22 may 2013

I will be very grateful for your guidance.

Thank you
Kaalika

[AstroGuru108]

Hi,

Is it was a love marriage, or marriage proposal came from Husband family side.

[AstroGuru108]

Also any remedial measure done so far, pls feedback...

[kaalika]

Dear Astroguru ji,

Thank you for responding. We met on a matrimonial website. So it was arranged marriage.

I have been doing several remedial measures for more than 3 years but now I have given up because they havent helped and my husband’s behavior is getting worse. He is abusive, has done infidelity also.

Problem is we live in USA and he is a citizen here and so are my children. The law is such that if I divorce him he will get custody of the children because he is a citizen and I am not. Therefore I am forced to stay with him.

[AstroGuru108]

Hi,

You have severe Manglik Dosha in your chart, but remedial measures possible only in India. You can get relief after July-2019.
Divorce is not promised in your chart.

Have you done remedial meaures for the above.

[kaalika]

Dear Astroguru ji,

Yes, some remedial measures were done before the marriage. I also did some prayers and daan for almost 3 years after marriage as suggested by pandit ji such as

Worshipping lord Hanuman
Donating red cloth and lentils on tuesday

[AstroGuru108]

Hi,

Pls send pm or mail under the profile, will share remedies there.

[kaalika]

Dear Astroguru ji,

I have sent you a pm.

Thank you,
Kaalika

[AstroGuru108]

Ok

[kaalika]

Dear Kannan ji,

We have not applied. When I talk to him about divorce he threatens me that he will take the children and i will lose custody because he And the children are american citizens and so the law here gives him preference in custody matters. Me , being an indian citizen might lose custody. Therefore I havent been able to initiate divorce and am forced to tolerate his violence.
I am tired of dealing with this horrible situation and want to find a way out.

Thank you,
Kaalika

[AstroGuru108]

Hi, Kaalika,

Got your PM and replied...

[joyd]

qualityless and adjustable married life seen from your chart and no divorce yoga seen both in your charts.

joyd.

[Bhishma]

As per KP Rules If the marriage significaters of 2 7 11 is also the sigificater of 1 6 10 then divorce is possible.

@Kannan Sir,

1) Does the above KP rule imply that 7 CSL being significator of both 6,7 (or) 1,2 (or) 10,11 simultaneously ?

2) For divorce to happen without doubt which of the below possibilities holds maximum chances in terms of % like 100%, 75%, 50% etc ?

a) 7 CSL signifying 6,7 (or) 1,2 (or) 10,11 at SL level

b) 7 CSL signifying 6,7 (or) 1,2 (or) 10,11 at STL level

c) 7 CSL signifying 6,7 (or) 1,2 (or) 10,11 at Sign level

Note:
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1 being the ASC Bhava/Cusp will it hamper 2 bhava?. Of all the KP bhavas that becomes 12th bhava to the consecutive bhava, in one you tube video I heard that 1st Cusp/Bhava albeit a 12th to 2nd bhava will not impede its significations. Is this notion right ?

2. Assuming 7 CSL signifies 1 but not 2 (or) 6 but not 7 (or) 10 but not 11 either by SL,STL,SIGN levels then, what will be the final outcome in this pattern ?

Kindly clarify the above queries and if possible with examples so that much clarity can be showcased.

[shilpasolve]

i am not an astrologer but my story was same like you tolerated violence and abuses for two years,it was at a gap of 3-4 days, then moved on then legal battle for four years my case was not getting settled i was running to courts. I did shivji solah somwar vrat shravan month is coming,best time to start solah somwar vrat, i assure you either your husband will fall in place or you will certainly find another way. But i have utmost trust on shivji he made me free from a demon in my life. Just dont ask to make your husband alright in your prayers but ask him that he shows u a way a right way. About the vrat vidhi and what to eat in the vrat is given on youtube. Best wishes on your way.

[kaalika]

Dear Kannan ji,

Thank you for analysing my chart. I will be eagerly waiting for your corrected analysis.


Regards,
Kaalika

[kaalika]

qualityless and adjustable married life seen from your chart and no divorce yoga seen both in your charts.

joyd.

Deat Joyd ji,

Thank you for taking the time to analyze my chart. If there is no divorce then Can you please tell me how long this violence and abuse will continue ?

Thanks,
Kaalika

[kaalika]

i am not an astrologer but my story was same like you tolerated violence and abuses for two years,it was at a gap of 3-4 days, then moved on then legal battle for four years my case was not getting settled i was running to courts. I did shivji solah somwar vrat shravan month is coming,best time to start solah somwar vrat, i assure you either your husband will fall in place or you will certainly find another way. But i have utmost trust on shivji he made me free from a demon in my life. Just dont ask to make your husband alright in your prayers but ask him that he shows u a way a right way. About the vrat vidhi and what to eat in the vrat is given on youtube. Best wishes on your way.

Thank you for sharing Shilpa ji. Yes, i never beg god to make my husband or my marriage ok. My husband has ruined the marriage to the extent that it can mever be okay. I dont want to tolerate him anymore and i just want a way out for myself and my children. I want that monster to just leave us alone so we can live in peace

[shilpasolve]

I wonder why you are not an abroad citizen since you are also living for more than 6 years if your children have got citizenship even you should get since it's been more than five years.
Don't rely on what husband says move out and talk to a local lawyer make friends in neighbourhood who can stand by u when u call out,he should be fearful before raising hands, also complain to police if you can't take legal actions, record his abuses in your phone or a recorder, collect his earning evidences,some video recording can also help you to get custody,showing that he's in incapable of keeping kids, all this will help you when you move out.

[Venus75]

There are many afflictions in both the chart ...ur husband chart has 7th lord Saturn with 8th lord jup and 12th lord moon in 2nd house of family...Rahu in 12th house not considered good for bed pleasure n peace...Saturn n mars both asp 4th house of home n happiness...lagn lord n 4th lord combo in 9th took him foreign land....
U have deb moon in lagna n lagn lord mars in 8th msked ur position weak...plus 8th is manglya place n mars there not good fir sustainence of marrige...I hv not checked nakshtras n dasha details...but no compatibility in both of u being mostly planets in 3 10 relationships..

[kaalika]

I wonder why you are not an abroad citizen since you are also living for more than 6 years if your children have got citizenship even you should get since it's been more than five years.
Don't rely on what husband says move out and talk to a local lawyer make friends in neighbourhood who can stand by u when u call out,he should be fearful before raising hands, also complain to police if you can't take legal actions, record his abuses in your phone or a recorder, collect his earning evidences,some video recording can also help you to get custody,showing that he's in incapable of keeping kids, all this will help you when you move out.

Hello Shilpa ji,

I have applied for it but it will still take another 2 years or so for the citizenship to happen. I will try to record but the thing is when he is abusing me how do i record at the same time? Also, infront of everyone else he pretends to be very nice . No one can guess what a monster he is

[kaalika]

There are many afflictions in both the chart ...ur husband chart has 7th lord Saturn with 8th lord jup and 12th lord moon in 2nd house of family...Rahu in 12th house not considered good for bed pleasure n peace...Saturn n mars both asp 4th house of home n happiness...lagn lord n 4th lord combo in 9th took him foreign land....
U have deb moon in lagna n lagn lord mars in 8th msked ur position weak...plus 8th is manglya place n mars there not good fir sustainence of marrige...I hv not checked nakshtras n dasha details...but no compatibility in both of u being mostly planets in 3 10 relationships..

Dear Venus ji,

Thank you for the analysis. Can you tell me when the divorce will happen? My husband isnt letting the divorce happen.

Thanks, kaalika

[shilpasolve]

You have to let everyone know what is happening in your home slowly slowly do not wait him to show his devil side to them that will never happen, have to start using brains more than being emotional and than using ur heart. Even if you give signs that I am not safe to neighbours that's enough.
1. Use small cameras inside wrh u think he can't reach.
2. Download smart safe & sound panic app and there r several other app which u can download which records with just one click and with higher sound made. Try this one first.
3. Complain to police don't hesitate in all these yrs I wonder why haven't you. Abroad rules r more strict for D.v. than infka
4. Self defence yourself if you can't do other things in whatever you feel will make you protected either by raising your voice or showing some thing to him that can scare him.
5. Why don't u go classes with the kids to learn some self defence while he's away?
See until you break his trapping boundaries by small small ways possible for u, his flow of violence will always be in full mode.
And you have more two years to go you have to do something.

[Lex]

Namaste. I have been married for the past 6 years. My marriage has been very traumatic as my husband is abusive and I have suffered a lot of domestic violence from him. I want to divorce him but I am stuck in the marriage because of my children. He threatens to take the children away from me.
Can you please tell me if I will be able to get a divorce and when it will happen ?
Kaalika

Hi Kaalika….
As I began to Populate your chart, very rare kind.. in the Heaven's map at the latitude.. Udaya lagna today Chandra, just on the cups of Simha & Virgo and in Uttaraphalguni nk and in sub of Rahu ( today Rahu in Budha's sign, represents Ravi, Kuja, Shani,Budha, Guru, Chandra)… and your query justified seeking for divorce, today Chandra in Moola nk ( and in conjunction with Ketu and Shani, gets aspect from Ravi, Rahu,Budha, Kuja).. therefore your lagna sputa cusp and Chandra has to be connected with most of the planets as above in aspect or sub or in nakshtra etc)


There it is Chandra in Anuradha nk and in sub of Rahu in subsub of Guru.... Your Janma nakshtra is Anuraddha nk
Your lagna also falls in Vrischika and connected to Budha and Ketu

7th cusp longitudinal depositions analysis... connected to lagna and eighth/10th bhava
I'm sorry to say.. your marriage or married life will not be pleasant or cannot be enjoyed by you in your 1st legitimate marriage.

lets check 5th cusp longitudinal depositions... You had multiple relationships prior to marriage and miserably failed ?????

You been abused by your parter.. is it true ? Lets check
7thcusp longitudinal depsoition analysis... relationship of 9th cusp lord and your 2nd/4th cusp lord been severly afflicted
Kuja your lagna lord in eighth in nirayana rasi but in 7th bhava... for your partner becomes 7th, 11th and 12th lord.. been affected at your lagna cusp... Kuja does shows abusive power ( your ego too for him), and partner will demonstrate physical thing too and physical hits additional, emotionally you cannot sustain both the things. You break into emotion.????

Give me feedback on ???? marked items...., than I will move forward on your query

[kaalika]

Dear Lex ji,

Thank you for analyzing my chart. Here are the answers to you points :-

1) I had only 1 relationship before marriage. It was never physical however I was very emotionally involved in that relationship. I truly loved him a lot. He wanted a physial relationship and when I refused he broke up with me. I was devastated and it took me almost 2 years to get over the breakup. I then got married to my husband 4 years after my breakup.

2) my husband is very abusive. He hits me regularly and curses me. He uses such horrible words for me that I would never use even for a roadside prostitute.
Its terrible because my older child is now almost 4 years and has started understanding what is happening and being said. His behavior is harming my children’s psychology.

3) yes, I am very emotional by nature. When my husband abuses and hits me, I am unable to respond. I feel helpless and this makes me even more upset and I cry a lot. Because thats all i can do there is no other way for me to express my pain.

I have now reached a stage where I dont want to save the marriage. There is nothing left to save. I just want to get out of this relationship so that I can live in peace and give my children a happy and peaceful life. They dont deserve to watch this nonsense everyday and I dont want to suffer like this anymore


Regards,
Kaalika

[SunLight]

It is sad to hear this is happening to you. Not to mention in USA.
So I suggest that you call 911. If you have any bruises/marks on your body from the abuse take pictures and save those in your emails or in your friends phone etc. Show this to the authorities.
Go to the local divorce lawyer. Tell them the TRUTH. No need to be “ Indian sati savitri” and hide about your husband from your family/relatives either. You have to stop saying that all you can do is cry. That is not true.
Are you working in the States?
Your husband’s citizenship can be revoked if he is behaving this way. US can still ask him to pack his abusive a** and go back to wherever he came from.
USA laws DOES NOT give the child to your husband , just because he is the citizen. In fact, they will take the child away from him. US laws are geared to protect their children!!!

It is hard but you need to go in a methodical way and protect yourself and your child.