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Hi @Lex,
I've seen you providing lots of help through your write ups to various forum members and I would be very pleased if you could help me also.

Let me first give a disclaimer about myself that I am quite a complicated as well as a confused person. I've been told by numerous astrologers from 2014 onwards that marriage will be happening anytime soon and that Saturn Dasa will definitely initiate before it leaves. But I've only been facing disappointments continuously. Ive met about 100 plus girls for the purpose of alliances and spoken to numerous number of them via call but it just doesn't seem to click. I am quite well educated and my parents are also quite baffled as to what is the reason that this is happening time and again and whether there is any black magic or dosh which is working against me. I have tried various ways through vedic astrology and hence am requesting you to please check via kp and advise me on how to go about this. If marriage is being promised late, I don't want to keep searching through the arranged marriage way only to face more and more rejections. Also recently, a person sitting outside Kabaleshwar kovil in Mylapore saw my hand and indicated that two lines need to be merged and hence marriage yoga does not take place naturally for me.

My failure rate is already alarming and my confidence is sky rocketing downwards with respect to marriage. I had very high hope of a couple of them materializing only to fail in the last hurdle disrupting my confidence even more.

I will be very grateful if you could look into my details through Kp system and let me know the reason as to why;
1) Marriage is being so difficult to get initiated for me? (I met the first girl via arranged marriage route on 25th Aug 2013 and its going to be 5 years since then)
2) Whether at all marriage will take place and if yes which period will it happen?
3) This arranged marriage process has taken a toll on my job as well and I'm looking to get a PR and move to Canada next year. Would like to know the chances of it materializing and whether I can put a hold on searching for alliance and concentrate on this for the time being? (Since I've been thinking marriage will take place anytime since the last 4 years, my career has also taken a back burner and I haven't really been able to climb the ladder professionally)

I'm sharing my personal details below along with some of the events in my life. Would be extremely grateful if you could provide details scientifically regarding my birth chart.

Birth Details:
DOB : 24TH JAN 1986
POB : Colombo, Sri Lanka (Western Province)
TOB : 16:46 (4.46 PM) [This is official recorded time and falls in Mesha Navamsa Lagna but I've been told that it could be either of Mesha or Meena, but shouldn't ideally be off by more than 5 minutes. It would be great if you could also help establish my correct birth time]

Life Details:
1) I am a Male, born on 24th Jan 1986 in a Tamil Brahmin family in Colombo, Sri Lanka due to ancestors moving there in the early 20th century.
2) Moved to Chennai, India in Jun 1995 when 9 and a half years old and staying there since.
3) I have two brothers one elder married (born on 3rd Feb 1982) and one younger (born on 28th Apr 1992). Apparently there was a girl child born one year before who didn't survive.
4) Parents wedding anniversary was in Chennai and took place on 4th July 1980.
5) Had Poonal sacred thread ceremony conducted on July 4th 2005.
5) On the work side I'm a finance professional working in the Finance & Accounts department.
6) Completed Chartered Accountancy in Nov 2010 (results were out on 21st Jan 2011), Company Secretaryship in Dec 2010 (results were out at noon on 25th Feb 2011) and Cost Accountancy in Dec 2012 (Results were out on 21st Feb 2013)
7) Worked for the first time as an intern at Price Water house Coopers from Sep 2007 to Sep 2010. (Started out on 10th Sep 2007 to be precise)
8) First job after qualifying CA was away from Chennai in Caterpillar at Bangalore, Whitefield. Offer got released in Feb 2011 and I began work from Apr 5th 2011. Period of Work was from 5th Apr 2011 to 18th May 2012.
9) Next job was again in Chennai and for a short stint in a manufacturing company from Jun 2012 to Nov 2012.
10) Current job has been for 5 years plus in Shell Business Operations in Chennai from 15th Mar 2013 to present.
11) Recently I also cleared CIMA (Chartered Institute of Management Accountants) exam. I wrote the exam in the afternoon hours on 23rd Nov 2017 and results came out on 11th Jan 2018. As recently as 2 days back, I was told that I've made it to the list of PAN India top 100 and a felicitation ceremony will be held in Mumbai for the same this coming September.

These are some of my events. If any further specific information is required, I would be more than glad to furnish the same.

I'm sorry Lex ji for asking so many questions. Would be very grateful if you could help me out with answers from the kp system. Thank you very much.
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Hi Lex,
Could you please look into my chart and let me know when it is convenient for you.
Thanks
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My Guru's Guru, in astrology, late Prof KSK had lots of querants/ students from Sri Lanka. Colombo resembles a typical Kerala and Goa combo. Great place, Sri Lankan cottons are good.

Please select a K.P.Prashna number between 1 and 249, and put only one burning query of yours. You can pray your Guru, Lord Ganesha and family deity God before selection of that number

Upon your Prashna number will cast Prashna chart. If marriage is Promised than I will say when, if not otherwise.
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Thanks Lex for your reply.
The K.P Prashna number that I choose is 218.

Burning Question at the moment:
I've been looking for change of job as I'm not really happy currently and been with my current company in Chennai for over 5 years. I am also looking to go abroad by trying to apply for a PR in Canada. Would like to know whether I should be changing jobs right now within India or wait for a bit longer and go to Canada if that option materializes and looks more favorable.

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Hi,

I am seeing your K.P. Prashna chart for your query, change of Job prospects aligning with overseas ?

Prashna number 218 was selected.

Today is Monday, Chandra, at the latitude, I am in , in the Celestial map, Lagna was transiting in Thula, Shukra and deposited in Visaka nk and in sub of Shukra, with Guru in lagna ,and today Chandra in Kuja's sign and deposited in Anuradha nk. Today Shani's sign occupied by Ketu.

Lets see your Prashna lagna sputa cusp aligned with your query ?.
Lagna sputa cusp falls in Kumbha and deposited in Satabhista nk and in sub of Shukra and Shukra in Aslesha nk
Rahu in 6th bhava and in Pushya nk, Shukra in 6th and Budha in 5th. Shani is in 11th bhava but goes to 10th bhava, Shani is also 12th cusp lord, Rahu represents Kuja, Shukra, Shani and Chandra, Chandra in 10th but goes to 9th, Shani ( as discussed previously), Shukra is 9th cusp lord, Kuja is 3rd cusp and also 10th
3rd 9th and 12th... talks about long journey..perhaps outside India
10th.. Career 5th and 9th... Leaving the job 11th... fulfillment
Query and Prashna lagna sputa cusp tallied.

Lets see will you go overseas, with respect to your Career ?.
Analysis of 12th cusp..... you will go definitely, but it will be delayed further
Will you change the Job
Analysis 9th cusp and 5th cusp.... Yes, you will change the Job

Now the question is when and where you will go, once you change the job?.
Analysis of 10th cusp, 11th cusp, 6th cusp, 5th cusp, 9th cusp, 3rd cusp, 12th cusp, 2nd cusp and significators of these bhavas... Chandra, Rahu, Kuja, Shukra, Ravi, Ketu , Shani , Guru, Budha,

Today Chandra in Shani's star in sub of Shukra and in subsub of Rahu
Shani dasa Shukra bhukti and Rahu antara,
Rahu antara.. you cannot change the job, Guru and Shani out of question
Budha antara--- you will prepare to leave the company
Ketu antara... You will leave the company, and you will go abroad... 1st quarter 2020

All the Best.
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DOB : 24TH JAN 1986
POB : Colombo, Sri Lanka (Western Province)
TOB : 16:46 (4.46 PM)

Dasha Start date
Me-Me-Me 04-05-2018
Me-Me-Ke 08-08-2018
Me-Me-Ve 09-28-2018
Me-Me-Su 02-22-2019
Me-Me-Mo 04-07-2019
Me-Me-Ma 06-19-2019
Me-Me-Ra 08-10-2019


Your lagna is Gemini and rasi is also same. Mars in own house, Jup is deb and canceled as Sani is aspecting the Deb house. Since Jup is 7th lord of marriage and he is Deb, he has no strength the give marriage and there will be delay. Also 7th lord hidden in 8th house is also bad as it weaker there. Sani is vargottama and strong. Sani owns 8th and 9th house. Since mars are sani are strong in your chart, you can have the energies of those planet like anger, stubbornness, impatience and selfishness. If you want a good life you should be a good version of yourself and practice more kindness and love.

You have ragu-ketu in 5th house which is bad for marriage.As 5th house is for kids and if its afflicted marriage will delay.

Your venus is combust with sun and venus owns 5th house of kids and 12th hosue of bed pleasures so marriage will be late only. As the planets thats combust will only gain strength late in life.


Jup and Venus in same house also not good as both are opposite energies.

You have just started lagna lord dasa so from Aug 2018 there are good chances for marriage. Keep looking.
A lot of problems will go away if we have good thoughts, deeds, actions and help humanity. We are here on earth to enjoy and suffer for our past life karma. Each one has their own life path. Live and Let Live.
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Thanks a bunch Lex for taking time and analyzing my details through prasna. Really grateful for that. I just have a couple of questions which I would like to clarify with you.

1) You mentioned that I will leave the company and go abroad in first quarter of 2020. Would like to know whether I will be changing jobs in India in the interim period before 2020 and then leave the job from that company or continue to work in the same company which I have been working for the last 5 plus years and then push off once and all from my current existing company? I'm little confused on that since I have been getting few offers on and off which didn't actually materialize but they are continuing to come. So would like to know mainly If i can take up something in India for the time being if anything reasonable comes up soon?
2) Also would like to know if marriage is promised and the time frame in which it is likely to take place? Any chance of it taking place before venturing abroad? That's been a real area of concern and I would like to know whether I need to make efforts on that front also in parallel.

Sorry for the follow up questions. Will be really grateful if you could answer these as well and clarify my doubts. Thank you so much once again for the help.

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skrajiv wrote: 27 Jun 2018 Thanks a bunch Lex for taking time and analyzing my details through prasna. Really grateful for that. I just have a couple of questions which I would like to clarify with you.
1) You mentioned that I will leave the company and go abroad in first quarter of 2020. Would like to know whether I will be changing jobs in India in the interim period before 2020 and then leave the job from that company or continue to work in the same company which I have been working for the last 5 plus years and then push off once and all from my current existing company? I'm little confused on that since I have been getting few offers on and off which didn't actually materialize but they are continuing to come. So would like to know mainly If i can take up something in India for the time being if anything reasonable comes up soon?
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To the underlined.... 100 % you will not change the job in the interim period

To the Italic part..... my answer remains the same as that of the underlined.


Marriage cannot be seen from that Prashan number.
therefore your second query is out of scope for me to answer.
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hello skrajiv,

Do you think your 'ceylon' birth is an hindrance when seeking alliance ?
did any prospective alliance backed out citing that as a reason ?

In fact, your qualification certainly would attract alliances.

My question is not based on astrology.

truly yours,
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Thanks Astrolover 2017 for your analysis.
I hope the Lagna lord dasa does its trick.

Thanks Lex for the clarification.

Hi Vedicmaths,
I'm not sure if being born in Ceylon has had a major hindrance. I belong to a Tamil Brahmin Iyer family and since my family was in Colombo at that particular time, I happened to be born there. Regarding qualifications attracting alliances, quite a few girls parents have evinced interest but on actual meeting and speaking to the girl it doesn't seem to materialize. There have been quite a few including my parents who are rather surprised at my difficulty of getting married especially after considering these educational qualifications.
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hello skrajiv

are you looking for equal status ? are you looking for employed girls ?

Do you think scaling down your requirements would bring forth any allliance ?

i am unable to find out the non-astrological reasons for delay.. i have found in similar
cases. people get married after scaling down their unique demands...

truly yours,
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I felt an educated girl from a good family will be good. I don't really have many major expectations except a basic few. And yes horoscopes matching have also played a major role as 2 astrologers in most cases just don't seem to agree. If not for the mish mash of horoscope hungama, I strongly feel it could have happened by now.

Majority of the cases, it's been me who has been rejected. It used to be quite hurting in the beginning but I've learnt to take these kind of disappointments in my stride. To be frank I don't know why it's taken so long.

Astrologically, I think it's because my Venus is heavily combust by Sun which has clearly showed that I've really had it hard with respect to relationships.
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hello skrajiv,

No two doctor's agree. At least they have done some proper education in the medical field.
The same is not in the case of astros. It includes me. So you need not depend upon the so called
' matching ' too much. Instead look for agreements that would suit a basic decent living with
proper values for a family life.

Looking from the 7th house: -Makara and mithuna are maraka sthanas.
Jupiter , the seventh lord has gone to the maraka sthana and the 8th lord ( from the 7th house )
is placed in the 7th from 7th house. So also the 7th lord mercury has gone to maraka sthana from
the 7th house. Jupiter , representing the jothishas can play spoil sport.

If you are destined to have a difficult married life, so it be. Face it with courage than succumbing
to pressures if you want to lead a married life.

Moon close to lagna can give a wavering mind. Jupiter is your atma karaka placed in sixth house
in navamsa. It would give experiences at soul level.

truly yours,
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Thanks for your views vedicmaths.
Yes, I have decided to take it how it comes and willing to face the pressures that come by.
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skra-/There are 4- KEY ASTROLOGICAL factors that are hurdling your marriage.
1-natural karak for marriage [venus] under deep combustion.such venus placed in 8th from lagna along with 3rd lord sun.[NO ROMANCE]..
2-From such venus,the 12th Taurus[HOUSE OF BED PLEASURES] becomes the 5th[future plans of marriage & also the progeny too.why bcz From lagna venus is also the 5-12th lord.so there is no future For these two house significations..
3-VENUS with 4 BAV points becomes nuetral[inactive] for his karakatwas[5-12].so marriage is almost[99%] denied.
4-The most important hurdle caused by 7th lord jupiter who is a Functional karak for marrige of your kundali very uncomfortably sitting in natural marriage karak venus- libra navamsa in D-9 CHART.

joyd.
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Hi Joyd,
Thanks much for your analysis on factors hurting my marriage. From the points above, it's quite evident that marriage yog is very weak for me. Would like to understand whether at all marriage will take place and if yes, when?

Also on point 4, could you please let me know which Ayanamsa do you use? Because as per Chitra Paksha, my Jupiter will be sitting in Virgo in Navamsa (Capricorn 29.53 degrees in Rasi) but as per other ayanamsas, Jupiter will be in Libra in Navamsa (Aquarius approx 1 degree in Rasi).

Would be grateful if you could share your views. Thanks.
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Hi skrajiv,
You may get married between mid-2020 to mid-2021.
However, lot of adjustments needed - as separation mindset prevalent on both sides.
At the same time, good thing is that love and communication are also prevalent.
joyd

Ayanamsa values used-22-46-28..jupiter on 0D-45m in D1 and in Libra Navamsa..

joyd.
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Thanks FortuneTeller for your analysis. I'm hoping for the best.

Thanks joyd for the confirmation on ayanamsa. Could you please elaborate a little more on this ayanamsa value if possible? I presume it is an extension to Lahiri by about 52 mins or so.
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Joyd sir,
In my sisters chart you mentioned she has no marriage issue and hers was similar situation - Venus totally combust in 8th with sun 3rd house lord. Can you help clarify. Below you mentioned everything negative as part of same combination. Please explain šŸ˜ž



[quote=joyd post_id=262828 time=1530375623 user_id=18243]
skra-/There are 4- KEY ASTROLOGICAL factors that are hurdling your marriage.
1-natural karak for marriage [venus] under deep combustion.such venus placed in 8th from lagna along with 3rd lord sun.[NO ROMANCE]..
2-From such venus,the 12th Taurus[HOUSE OF BED PLEASURES] becomes the 5th[future plans of marriage & also the progeny too.why bcz From lagna venus is also the 5-12th lord.so there is no future For these two house significations..
3-VENUS with 4 BAV points becomes nuetral[inactive] for his karakatwas[5-12].so marriage is almost[99%] denied.
4-The most important hurdle caused by 7th lord jupiter who is a Functional karak for marrige of your kundali very uncomfortably sitting in natural marriage karak venus- libra navamsa in D-9 CHART.

joyd.
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@Sour38
Could you please share your sister's birth details? Just interested to know since you said she has similar combinations as mine.

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Hello Rajiv, there is definitely some minor difference that is why Joyd sir’s prediction could be different. That’s what I wanted to understand from him as it would require high expertise to see that.
Her details are :
Jan 19, 1978
Lucknow , UP
4pm

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