very confused, will this work?

[Vrishaba]

am a female, bron on 15 june 1989 at 03 50 am, chennai.
i like this person born on 04 dec 1989 at 10 25 am in madurai.

on this forum many times, ive been told id be married, in 2010, 2012, 2014, and 2015. but am not married yet. i hv been in a failed relationship.. but this guy, i know him for abt 5 yrs now. i like him but very afraid to tell my parents.i will not marry if my parents say no. but is this person a good person? will marriage with him be long lived? can i trust him enough to talk to my parents about him? please guide me.

[AstroDrAnjna]

current dasha-antara of jup-rahu favourable for marriage
marriage expecting around 2018
better to go with parents choice

[Vrishaba]

I am nt oppoding my parents choice, they hv not found anybody. just want to make sure if this person is correct. thank u very much for prompt response, but ill be glad if u explained why you are saying what you are saying. I have a debilitated lord of 7. Can you tell me how that will impact the choice of husband?

[shilpa]

am a female, bron on 15 june 1989 at 03 50 am, chennai.
i like this person born on 04 dec 1989 at 10 25 am in madurai.

on this forum many times, ive been told id be married, in 2010, 2012, 2014, and 2015. but am not married yet. i hv been in a failed relationship.. but this guy, i know him for abt 5 yrs now. i like him but very afraid to tell my parents.i will not marry if my parents say no. but is this person a good person? will marriage with him be long lived? can i trust him enough to talk to my parents about him? please guide me.

Dear Vrishabha,

--your 7th Lord Ma is debilitated in the 3rd house

--you are running Jup_Ra period and Ra sits in the Nk of Ma..hence acting like debilitated Ma

--the 7th lord in navamsa is Moon....in the 12th house, a dusthan, and marriage Karak Ve is exalted in 3rd house

so marriage is dealyed because of the weakness of 7th lord... but not denied, as there are no chart-spoiler doshas on the 7th house

--the antra has footprints of Mars and until Sep the 5th house of Romance is activated under the dual drishti of Shani/ Jup.....so a self chosen partner is a possibility in this window

--the guys chart is a bit problematic with Rasi being on 1-7 axis of Ra Ket and navamsa lagna with Mangal......he has had broken relationships in the past probably and lacks EQ( emotional quotient) at this time to deal with realtionships ....which I attribute to his confused / not well focused mind.....Ra-Moon conjunction being with the ..and that conjunction repeats in a number of higher D charts

--His operative period of Jup-shani is moderate....but his 9th house , bhagyasthan is activated under the dual aspect of shani-Jup that will support a relationship until Sep.

--In summary yopu have to push..as your charts and period is stronger...if you like the guy...and pray to lord hanuman / listen to hanuman chalisa daiy and fast on Tuesdays at least partially if you can.....for spiritual support fot this to fructify and I think it will if you do this whole heartedly

Bear in mind, his mentally fluctuating behavior, given to impulsive moodswings and occasional fits of anger and overall less emotional maturity that you may have to deal with.....

His career and job parts of the chart are not bad.....and if he listens to you ask him to chant Om namah shivya 108 times daily, listen to shiv stutis and pray to lord shiva actively

regards

[Vrishaba]

Dear Shilpa ji

I always look forward to reading your posts and by some design of destiny, I always receive a well defined answer from you. Many thanks to you

You are bang on the bulls eye when you say his mind wanders. You have used THE exact words that can describe him. My relationship with him is deep friendship, more than romance. And I have pointed this out to him, and he agrees to it. He says, beyond a point, he is unable to think systematically, and realizes that he does not have a great EQ!
Since, you have mentioned things in detail, just for the discussion, I'd like to make a points.
1.He passed CA without giving up, after many attempts. I like that about him.
2.He lost his father at a vulnerable time in 2013, he has been financially supporting his family since then. They aren't very well off - on the other hand, am financially better off than him.
3.I genuinely share a deep friendhsip with him. He listens to me - but as you rightly pointed out, I doubt if it is just this time/phase/window. Cannot guarantee consistent behaviour. He is very prone to picking up 'devil may care' habits and friends.
4. I like how he looks. If physical attraction is an important indicator for successful marriage, I certainly can check this box. He says he too is, and I sense it. But one can never be sure - Sometimes I tend to believe that he likes my lifestyle and choices that my father's hard earned money affords for me, and hence my personality rather than how I look itself.
5.I am a brahmin, he isn't. My family will not exactly treat his family equally.

I was wondering if it is wise to depend just on the good friendship and comfort that I share with him to take this forward. Will he support me wholly - financially, emotionally - in future? We discuss this often and I never hide anything from him. But I have also told him that I lack rock solid trust for him. I always look forward to the day when he will compromise my interests. I wonder if I am overthinking - end of the day we are just mid 20's people. we are allowed to be this way!

[Vrishaba]

am a female, bron on 15 june 1989 at 03 50 am, chennai.
i like this person born on 04 dec 1989 at 10 25 am in madurai.

on this forum many times, ive been told id be married, in 2010, 2012, 2014, and 2015. but am not married yet. i hv been in a failed relationship.. but this guy, i know him for abt 5 yrs now. i like him but very afraid to tell my parents.i will not marry if my parents say no. but is this person a good person? will marriage with him be long lived? can i trust him enough to talk to my parents about him? please guide me.

Dear Vrishabha,

--your 7th Lord Ma is debilitated in the 3rd house

--you are running Jup_Ra period and Ra sits in the Nk of Ma..hence acting like debilitated Ma

--the 7th lord in navamsa is Moon....in the 12th house, a dusthan, and marriage Karak Ve is exalted in 3rd house

so marriage is dealyed because of the weakness of 7th lord... but not denied, as there are no chart-spoiler doshas on the 7th house

--the antra has footprints of Mars and until Sep the 5th house of Romance is activated under the dual drishti of Shani/ Jup.....so a self chosen partner is a possibility in this window

--the guys chart is a bit problematic with Rasi being on 1-7 axis of Ra Ket and navamsa lagna with Mangal......he has had broken relationships in the past probably and lacks EQ( emotional quotient) at this time to deal with realtionships ....which I attribute to his confused / not well focused mind.....Ra-Moon conjunction being with the ..and that conjunction repeats in a number of higher D charts

--His operative period of Jup-shani is moderate....but his 9th house , bhagyasthan is activated under the dual aspect of shani-Jup that will support a relationship until Sep.

--In summary yopu have to push..as your charts and period is stronger...if you like the guy...and pray to lord hanuman / listen to hanuman chalisa daiy and fast on Tuesdays at least partially if you can.....for spiritual support fot this to fructify and I think it will if you do this whole heartedly

Bear in mind, his mentally fluctuating behavior, given to impulsive moodswings and occasional fits of anger and overall less emotional maturity that you may have to deal with.....

His career and job parts of the chart are not bad.....and if he listens to you ask him to chant Om namah shivya 108 times daily, listen to shiv stutis and pray to lord shiva actively

regards

The previous comment was about HIM. But I had earlier mentioned about my debilitated 7L since I want to understand - no matter who I get married to - are these going to be his traits? Less EQ, wandering mind, prone to inconsistent habits etc? What is designed for me? At weak times like this, I am compelled to believe a known devil is better than an unknown devil (!). Does the exalted Ve in Navamsa do any good for married life? Atleast any financially secure household? I get jitters in my spine to think I'd get stuck in a loveless marriage. A guy who isn't a friend to me - just the proverbial husband. It is better to not be married at all, rather than be stuck in a marriage like that.

[shilpa]

The previous comment was about HIM. But I had earlier mentioned about my debilitated 7L since I want to understand - no matter who I get married to - are these going to be his traits? Less EQ, wandering mind, prone to inconsistent habits etc? What is designed for me? At weak times like this, I am compelled to believe a known devil is better than an unknown devil (!). Does the exalted Ve in Navamsa do any good for married life? Atleast any financially secure household? I get jitters in my spine to think I'd get stuck in a loveless marriage. A guy who isn't a friend to me - just the proverbial husband. It is better to not be married at all, rather than be stuck in a marriage like that.

Dear Vrishbha....
Your married life will be challenging but manageable.....the weakness is Rasi chart are mitigated by some strengths in Navamsa i.e exalted marriage karak Ve in navamsa.....will bring conjugal bliss , inspite of frictions and a lot of conscious effort would have to be made by you to manage the marriage, through discipline, behavior management and prayers

Your husband does not necessarily have to be one lacking Emotional maturity....but will be one that will bring challenges and efforts for one reason or another..... as explained above in Italics.

all factors considered I do suggest you whole-heartedly pursue marriage with this guy in discussion and ask him to pray as I suggested
regards

[Vrishaba]

Thank you very much. I really appreciate your doing this reading for me. I have noted all the important points and I'll follow them. Thank you again Shilpaji.