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So I hate to admit this, but there is no point bottling it up anymore, so here goes - I'm too sensitive. .... :( I know this is really not a helpful trait to have in Kali Yug where everyone is living the fast life with no care for mushy mermaids like me, but I guess the first step to correcting it is to admit it. And yes, I admit, Im overly sensitive. I cry more than an Ardra, and I'm softer than a Pushya. Seriously I'm just so emotional, its quite problematic for me and any unfortunate being that has to deal with me. This has got to change.

So this brings me to my question (and I must say, I came to my actual point very quickly today - this usually does not happen this fast. Usually I stall about the colour of my nails and how I gossip with my bestie before arriving at the actual yet far fetched topic of my query. But today I decided to be concise - you're welcome! ) So anyways, my question is how to I become less emotionally sensitive? I want to be less permeable to mean words and keep my emotions strong and positive at all times.

Thaankss :)
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Hey, tandav (litty)

Sensitive, emotional ... Is a type of feeling one has, you need to see your moon, where is it placed , who all are looking at it, and where the depositer is placed,
Live astrology,

Now some reality, we become sensitive to things we love the most, or we be emotionally attached to it,
First and foremost try not to be too sensitive in life, because the reality is when you enter dark room, your shadow too, leave you alone, coming forward, whom do you do think they care for you as you do, ask this for yourself, may be your parents, your brother or sister a close friend that's all, may ppl Dnt even care about what's happening with you, or what you see ahead for yourself, you need to bit stronger in life,

You should know when to let the things go,
You can't wait at airport and wish a train to arrive,
The wish may be granted indeed the chance is very limited.

Don't waste your time, by being more sensitive to other, you need to know when its the right time to take the step that you need too, and always remember you never tell your weakness to other, as when the time comes ppl, will try to hit at your weakness,

That's all.
Tandav.
TC.
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You can practise yoga, meditation and chant Vishnu Sahasranama or conciously listen to the chant which will divert your attention easily.
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acejohan wrote:Hey, tandav (litty)

Sensitive, emotional ... Is a type of feeling one has, you need to see your moon, where is it placed , who all are looking at it, and where the depositer is placed,
Live astrology,

Now some reality, we become sensitive to things we love the most, or we be emotionally attached to it,
First and foremost try not to be too sensitive in life, because the reality is when you enter dark room, your shadow too, leave you alone, coming forward, whom do you do think they care for you as you do, ask this for yourself, may be your parents, your brother or sister a close friend that's all, may ppl Dnt even care about what's happening with you, or what you see ahead for yourself, you need to bit stronger in life,

You should know when to let the things go,
You can't wait at airport and wish a train to arrive,
The wish may be granted indeed the chance is very limited.

Don't waste your time, by being more sensitive to other, you need to know when its the right time to take the step that you need too, and always remember you never tell your weakness to other, as when the time comes ppl, will try to hit at your weakness,

That's all.
Tandav.
TC.
Yes youre right. I really need to learn to overcome my sensitivity if I want to thrive in this world of thorns. ANd yes this means letting go of certain attachments, learning to be practical, and becoming less sensitive altogether. Its really hard to carry out, but i guess the hardwork would be worth it in the end. Thanks acey :)
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Thanks for the tips Jan. You mentioned taking a step back to witness myself - I think this can actually make a big difference, in terms of evaluating the intensity of my emotions. Often times I act out in the frenzy to what appears emotionally just to myself, however it might be considered overly sensitive in the greater scheme of things. I guess taking a step back to see the perspective from the greater scheme of things would help neutralize how I feel. Thanks for the suggestion. :)
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Dev wrote:You can practise yoga, meditation and chant Vishnu Sahasranama or conciously listen to the chant which will divert your attention easily.
Dev ji, thanks for the pointers :) Meditation isnt something I am familiar with, however I do enjoy yoga. And yes it does help me become more at ease with the world around me. In fact, I havent practiced yoga nor exercised in a long while - that might explain my recent mood swings :P But yes thank you ji. I have listened to Vishnu Sahasranama, but not regularly at all. And no i did not chant along with it, maybe thats what I should try for a change. Thanks for helping jii :)
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Oh just be yourself, T. :-)

There must be a good reason why you (we all?) are born with the configurations that we all were born with...! By doing all the cosmetic/plastic astro-tantrick-mantrick surgery (!), aren't we interfering with God's plan for us??

By the way, whenever one feels a bit low in spirits, a bit (or more) uncomfortable with oneself, one regains truer perspective by forcing oneself to find others who are feeling miserable and genuinely trying to help them through lifting their chins and spirits :-)

Dark chocolate (> 70% cocoa) helps too, at least in getting the motor started...!


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Yes try to restart your yoga and exercise practice and try to chant VS along with the scholar who chants it or try to consciously follow it having the text in hand. You are sure to benefit. :D
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Awwwwwww Chandra Ji, you care about me soo much that you summarized all the remedies into one quick multivitamin. How sweet ji, and perhaps this can serve as my B-E-L-A-T-E-D birthday present from you!! Yes, i still haven't forgotten ji - you didnt give your favourite mermaid a birthday gift. Gosh ji! You know how sensitive I am to such things. Chalo its okay, your post made me laugh and thats good enough for me. Nothing like frivolity to uplift my sentimental self. Merci merci
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Crystalpages wrote:Oh just be yourself, T. :-)
I appreciate that ji :) And perhaps youre right, perhaps there is nothing wrong with being sensitive, and scared of snakes, and scared of heights, and scared of fear, and crying after watching movies, and crying after seeing someone cry, and being sad when I run out of chocolate, and being sad when I my cookie falls into my glass of milk, and feeling like a failure when my nail polish smears because I didnt let it dry completely, and feeling sad and confused when I send an email but hear nothing back. But its okay ji, perhaps I was just meant to feel too much? And if that's what was intended of me, I shouldnt change for nobody :) Thank you ji
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Try being insensitive for 26 days and u shall see,
It work,
U need to change routine to switch between things or habit.

It's a methodology if u do something for 26 days it become a part of life,

A professor of mine,
Told me once it do help.
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There is a limit to being sensitive and being too sensitive,hypersensitive is not good. We are most of the time unaware of the happenings with respect to health, relationship and so on. So it is always safer to be sensitive within limits. If we are too sensitive, people will run away from us leaving us alone. If we are too insensitive we will run away from others and again be aloof. So we need to strike a balance between being too sensitive and too insensitive. :D :D
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Behave yourself henceforth, Tanmish.
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tandav wrote:
Crystalpages wrote:Oh just be yourself, T. :-)
I appreciate that ji :) And perhaps youre right, perhaps there is nothing wrong with being sensitive, and scared of snakes, and scared of heights, and scared of fear, and crying after watching movies, and crying after seeing someone cry, and being sad when I run out of chocolate, and being sad when I my cookie falls into my glass of milk, and feeling like a failure when my nail polish smears because I didnt let it dry completely, and feeling sad and confused when I send an email but hear nothing back. But its okay ji, perhaps I was just meant to feel too much? And if that's what was intended of me, I shouldnt change for nobody :) Thank you ji
You are very welcome!
Now that vacuuming (noisy?) and darkness is behind you <LOL>, a few words based on observations:
In most cases, often at the behest of loving ones aound one, and Desh and Kaal etc., individuals spend too much time and energy in moulding and re-molding themselves to 'fit-in' and this generally has short-lasting effects, spikes of happiness but a feeling of failure and dissipation of energy and worse.

Changing oneself (particularly the emotional nature, deep and generally spontaneous and sub-conscious) is often a self-defeating venture! Or short-lasting at best! It is almost like trying to change ones DNA-genetic map.

It is more effective to learn to accept and appreciate ones inherent nature, lumps and all. Once done, it becomes easier to look at oneself and maximizing ones strengths and utilizing that to deal with ones negativities, weaknesses, etc.

My belief is that (other than karma hypothesis, etc), we are born with a set of active switches (expressed genes, epigenetic factors=desh kaal...) not merely as rewards or punishment but something to learn from and about). Efficiency demands understanding. In the current context about the self that is born due to Natural Laws that make the astrological framework function, generally and often! :-)

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Hello all,

I have a similar query.Hope u all will help me too. :P

So I hate to admit this, but there is no point bottling it up anymore, so here goes - I'm too insensitive. .... :( I know this is really a very helpful trait to have in Kali Yug where everyone is living the fast life with no care for robots like me, but I want a life yaar.I wanna feel something...I wanna be a normal human...So,I guess the first step to correcting it is to admit it. And yes, I admit, Im overly insensitive. I dont cry more than an Ardra, and I'm harder than a Pushya. Seriously I'm just so unemotional, its quite problematic for me and any unfortunate being that has to deal with me. This has got to change.

So this brings me to my question, my question is how do I become more emotionally sensitive? I want to be more permeable to mean words and keep my emotions less robotic and more human at all times.

Thaankss :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
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See tandav, as I said, u come across some insensitive ppl like our tintin....

Chill don't be sensitive or be angered just let it settle..

Hari Om..
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tintin wrote: ...
So this brings me to my question, my question is how do I become more emotionally sensitive? I want to be more permeable to mean words and keep my emotions less robotic and more human at all times.

Thaankss :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
Tintin ji,

Good question! Life is binary and rife with duality! ;-)

Do you find that your 'in-sensitivity' (as perceived by your good self) varies between communications/interactions carried out on-line vs off-line? Silicon vs organic...?

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I am also over sensitive and I do not think I can become less sensitive. My Moon is alone in Capricon With Ketu and Saturn in Sag and Aquarius respectively. With this combination, I do not think whatever I practice I can change my mind.
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Tintin ji,

Good question! Life is binary and rife with duality! ;-)

Do you find that your 'in-sensitivity' (as perceived by your good self) varies between communications/interactions carried out on-line vs off-line? Silicon vs organic...?

Rohiniranjan

Rohiniranjan ji,

My post was supposed to be a joke but thanks for ur concern ji.With blessings of kind ppl like u,I would definitely turn human one day. :P
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tintin wrote: ...
Rohiniranjan ji,

My post was supposed to be a joke but thanks for ur concern ji.With blessings of kind ppl like u,I would definitely turn human one day. :P
Tintin,

I assure you that mine were not!
I only joke in the mini-chat area :-)

RR
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Hi,

1 .You need to start chanting of moon mantra and shiva mantra on daily basis.

2. Never ever wear white clothes.

3. Helping needy poor ones specially on monday will give you benefit.

4. Pray to Lord shiva and do shiva abhishek on daily basis if possible otherwise on monday
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Dear tandav,

I think if you practice meditation daily, you will learn to become emotionally detached and also a lot more calmer... Meditation really works wonders though the effects are very slow... You should definitely try it... :)
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A lot of great advice has been given already... I just want to add that Sensitivity is a gift. It is for the smart͵ yet sensitive types like Arjuna͵ that the Gita came to be written. You can try going thru the Gita regularly. “Sthitha Prajnata“ is the goal of the Gita.
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Identify your goal and be determined towards it. Then you will see nothing but the birds eye like arjuna. Your sensitivity towards immaterial subjects will thus cease. For the right cause sensitivity is must anyway.
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