Shall I ever get married?? :(

[gaurav.lonely]

Dear Experts,

My DoB is 17-12-1981, ToB is 13:20 and PoB is - Baraut, U.P, India.

I know i am aanshik manglik. I am leading a lonely life . i want to know shall I ever get married or I have to live and die single.

In 2010 my marriage was fixed but postponed since my borther was not married at that time. After May 2011 when he got married, my marriage talks were spoiled and everything faced a tragic end.

Now in 2014 I somehow came out of that depression. Now when i want to get married and settled, nothing seems to work on my marriage front.

I have subscribed a matrimonial site but even after searching for 3 months, my family is unable to zero in on anyone for reasons something or the other.

1. Shall I get married before I became 35? I am 33.5 now.

2. How important Gun Matching is?
Is matching gun a conclusive thing to say that marriage will sustain?

In my brother case, my bro and Sister in law, 27.5 guna are matching with both having anshik mangal, but the marriage did not sustain and court cases are going on.

3. If get to get married in future, will my marriage sustain?

Please help..

Waiting for your valuable guidance..

[gaurav.lonely]

Respected Astrologers

Looking forward your valuable advice.

Regards

[pphuph]

yes!! next week onwards good time to get married. wear yellow more often or get a pukhraj/yellow sapphire if you can afford one.

[gaurav.lonely]

Thanks 'pahuch'

Would request other experts to throw some light on Gun Matching aspect.

Regards

[Pem]

Hello gauravlonely
Pls pardon me for this question ;
Are TOB details that of a Male or Female ?
Regards

[gaurav.lonely]

Dear Pem,

Thanks for the response..

Horoscope details are that od a male i.e. Me - Gaurav

Please look into my Query...is that much complicated one??

[Pem]

Hello Gaurav
Shall take a look at your chart and advise.
In my opinion, I do think the guna milan formula has worked well for many
couples. By sheer luck one or two cases would have worked for the lucky pairs.
Regards

[tandav]

Hey Gaurav, sustenance of marriage doesn't depend on the chart much. It depends more on the values and motives of the couple. Generations ago, most marriages sustained. Does that mean that they all had better charts and higher guna milans than our generation? If maintaining the marriage is a priority to you above others, and make sure the woman you chose (yes you, don't leave it to your parents to decide completely) has the same priorities and values as you.

[Pem]

Hello gaurav
Correction to my last post ;
It should read : I do NOT think that guna milan matching has worked well for
many couples.
Do you wear any rings, gemstones etc ?
Do you pray daily to any deities and recite mantras and ask for help from the
supreme beings ?
Have you consulted any paid or unpaid astrologers and got advice ?
Regards

[gaurav.lonely]

Dear Experts, I had registered on a Matrimonial Site 8 months ago and got may Interests. But most of the time. Guns are not matching. I completely believe in Gun Matching before marriage. Some times the Gun Matching Score is less than 18. Sometimes, the Nadi (Health)(8) does not match, sometimes Bhahookt (7) does not match. For one or the other reason, nothing has gone to finalisation.

Please tell me if I am having marriage yoga, Shall I get married in future, How will be my married life, Shall I have any children? My DoB is 17-12-1981, ToB is 13:20 and PoB is - Baraut, U.P, India. 34 is over and I am running 35.

Another thing I want to ask is that Why I am having Too much of Mood Swings? I get angry in a moment. Specially, I get angry when I talk to my Father/Elder brother.

I am confused and scared at heart of the known. I don't feel happy at heart, I smile, I laugh But I am scared at heart. I am scared to initiate anything. What is in store for me.... I have lost the courage..Feels like committing suicide sometimes..

[Naitikjani223]

Hello Gaurav,

Though I am not an astrologer, I have few views to share with you here. Script of Marriage in every human's life is pre-written in heavens and the results are delivered based on past karmas and individual destiny in this life. Some marry early, some late and some unfortunately never.....The message I am trying to convey here is if your marriage is getting delayed, do not get panic because things happen for reason and generally reasons are good only. I can understand your frustration and desire for marriage but if you notice marriage brings changes in individual life and those changes are for good or for bad and later makes life more miserable and there is no way to turn clock back from there, please understand this is desire of life not destiny. My intent here to make you understand that if marriage is delayed in your case, so there must be reason for that. You still have time, so relief this pressure for a while and do your best you can and leave for destiny to decide what you deserve and hope for the best.

Marriage is seen promised if current dasha signify houses 2,7,11...

You are running major period of Rahu till 2031, so lets see Rahu's signification in your chart. Rahu will give results of,

Sign lord, Mercury (4L,7L) placed in 9th bhava
Nakshatra lord, Jupiter (1L,10L) placed in 7th bhava
Conjunction/aspect of Sun 6L, placed in 9th bhava

So we saw why Rahu is creating problems/delay here for marriage.
Secondly, Saturn in 7th always delays marriage.
Mars in 7th makes you Manglik too..
So quite a few valid reasons here.


Lets see the possibilities...

Saturn and Jupiter play major role in transit in some important events in person's life due to their slow motion. Jupiter, your lagna lord will be in 7th house in transit from lagna later half next year and Saturn will transit over your 7th ruler Mercury during 2017-2018 in natal chart, Saturn's transit here will make impact over 7th house, 7th ruler and Jupiter together. So, Saturn and Jupiter's positive transit may likely open door for you, but for that you need to strengthen your dasha lord, Rahu.

I would recommend consult a good and experienced astrologer and get remedies to strengthen Rahu.

Lets see your relationship issues with Father/Brother...

Sun, Karka of Father is getting digbala in 10th house but afflicted because of conjunction with Ketu, Moreover Sun in also Moola nakshatra owned by Ketu, spoils relationship with father.
Mars, Karka for siblings is in war zone with Saturn in 7th house in sign of Virgo (disputes, conflicts), so you i hope you understand your struggles with elder brother.

Do Surya namaskar to improve/strengthen relationship with father/Sun. do few days regularly and see what happens.

Prayers to Lord Vishnu Ji and Ganesh Ji, would be quite helpful.
Hope this helps you.

[tanmish]

Hi Gaurav.Lonely -

With the given birth details, you're a Pisces (Meena) ascendant with Lagna lord Jupiter in 8H. Not a good placement for Jupiter. 5th Lord moon is in 6H of Leo also creating mental worries and tensions due to hidden enemies some of whom may be purely imaginary.

There is Kaal Sarpa dosha in the chart with all planets on one side of Rahu Ketu axis. Rahu is in 5H, Keth is in 11H with Venus, which is the 3rd and 8th Lord. Venus thus is highly malefic here. You may want to consult with senior members, perhaps go for a paid reading to find out the time for marriage. Saturn-Mars conjunct in 7H and directly aspecting the lagna have already delayed marriage no doubt, but there may be light at the end of the tunnel. It is also advisable to do chart matching before tying the knot since there's Manglik dosha.

Good luck,
Tanu