Celestial Drama in Libra

[deeps]

Oh Mahtma Gandhi became famous very late I think.

[basab14]

Well, that's true. So it seems like I have some hope left. Hope, I will be a little famous if not like him.

[deeps]

Hope is another name of life!!!

Hum Honge Kamyab Ek Din!!!

[Aum]

On the subject of current transits:

Here's an interesting perspective credits www.astroved.com

"
Careful, Planets are Stressed Out

All the planets are stressed out this week. Venus & Sun are both debilitated, Mercury is afflicted by Rahu and Mars in Scorpio, Jupiter is retrograde, and exalted Saturn is with his nemesis the Sun. This is a time that calls for patience and calm but these are exactly the qualities we seem to be lacking right now. You may find that you have no inspiration, feel lethargic, or have low self-esteem. But you don't have to be taken down by the planets.
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Aum

[explorings]

I am writing back after surviving the weather hurricane but since last 3 days, there is a severe hurricane at home. My husband is back in his form & asked me today morning to leave again. I am tired of this & now feel that i should just leave him permanently. In 2 yrs, my career & earning has come to zero while i did every possible remedy to save my marriage. I feel that its not worth spending any more time, i can never think of having child/future in this kind of his behavior & its no good being a servant just to be called married.
I donot believe this is due to any planet beacuse its like this in every transit.

If anyone would like to comment on my foriegn stay & earning from abroad beacuse once i will go back (in 2-3 weeks), i will permanently leave astrology, remedies & gem stones as i have seen nothing is more powerful & can never change or modify real life.

Skp23:

In the past few days, life has been rough with hurricane paralyzing the East Coast. I believe this is just the results of the weather and esp. when there is nothing to do when affected by no electricity or water or cannot go out or other hurricane related issues. I think your husband just needs a fun project where he can divert his energy.

One of my neighbors the most coolest (almost an ice cube from Artic or Antartic circle) showed his extreme side when he was standing at a gas station for over 2 hrs with a canister to get gas for generator. He kept venting his frustrations about the storm, no water, no electricity, and how only 2 gas stations in the entire township were open, etc. the guy standing in front of him jokingly stated that everyone is going through the same as we were hit by a hurricane... my neighbor the most coolest guy lost his cool completely thinking the guy was mocking him, etc. It was very scary even for his wife (who is aware of his temperamental issues).

Secondly, stop recording.... take my advice none of it works in court or at visa office or indian consulate, etc. You are not even allowed to present any recordings especially if it was done without his permission (breach of privacy... yes even in NJ). So if you are doing it, you need to stop it ASAP.

This is one of those periods when you cannot afford to lose your faith and devotion in God. If you are reading Hanuman Chalisa, no evil force or black magic can work on you. The reason you guys came together as both of you were doing remedies and both are destined to be together. That's what you need to explain it to him.

Recite Hanuman Chalisa 7-11 times daily. Trust me this helps!

[Saindhavi]

Aseem,

This is not gossip, we are saying it in public here, so that everyone including you can read it - and may be some nice, eligible women on LOVA will send you PM or email with a marriage proposal. Keep your contacts enabled.

And no, your chart is more powerful than Basab's - his 10th house is spoilt by Rahu.

Take it from me - you'll be running a Fortune 500 company someday - I hope the eligible women on LOVA are reading.

Basab,

Mars-Ketu in Lagna with partial aspect from combust Saturn have robbed Aseem of his good looks to some extent. If he didn't have these combinations, Jupiter would have given him classic handsome looks!

Same with you - because of aspect from Saturn, you have not got the full effect of a Venus-ruled Lagna.

Janaki,

I went to sleep early yesterday and came back to find you have deleted all your posts. Please don't delete your posts that way.

SKP23,

I already said - don't keep quiet. Just tell him this is your house and you don't want to hear him talking like that. And if he screams, you can scream back at him.

I told you he does it because he thinks you will be quiet and this gives him a false sense of authority in his moment of insecurity - as Neelkumar said.

So, as I said, leaving is not the solution. Telling him where the boundary line is drawn is the solution.

By keeping quiet you are not telling him where the line is drawn and when he oversteps it, you want to leave. So, just tell him you don't want him to do this, this and this and he has to listen to you.

Neelkumar has given you some good insights into men's psychology. Use it to your advantage.

You have done enough religious remedies. For once, use a rational, modern psychological remedy.

Explorings,

Hope all is well with you and electricity is back now.

Well, while I was sleeping, this thread touched 50!

[jolli]

When i read posts here regarding domestic fights etc or arguments, i am pained and feel sad.

irrespective of position of planets, there are periodic fights happening especially married people. I am able to feel something common but not able to pinpoint it. Also, some people fight back, some are submissive and many are just hoping the storm will be over and put their heads in sand like a ostrich.

What i feel in these days, marriage is a partnership. Its no co-incidence that 7th house of marriage/spouse also signifies contracts/ partnerships etc as well. I hope i am not worng here, because i read it somewhere else.

Like Saindhavi Jee said earlier, in these days of modern calculated love /arranged marriages, its more like a give n take business partnership.

So my advice, treat it like that. We all are literate/educated/working people. When we go out and interact with our co-workers/ team mates, we treat them based on some rules. Sometimes we do keep quite even if other person is not reasonable.

If we take reflection of their behaviour in our spouse, we will realise that from time to time, we need to change our behaviour as well to respond properly n make a statement. Its a time taking, pain staking course.

No use fighting back every time, but also its not possible to keep quite always. But while you decide to participate please take care to choose words/ tone carefully. First of all avoide anger.

Sorry for long post, but i myself is sick of domestic arguments. Its like two sand papers creating heat by rubbing on each other and destroying each other.

it does not matter if one of them gets smooth. bcos other will keep on rubbing untill both are levelled! that may take ages!!

PS :- Other thing i read is that venus is for sensual love, not eternal , while Sun is actually responsible for that eternal love we all want. In natural zodiac, see who is at 5th house!!

[Saindhavi]

Balaastro,

Sorry, I missed your post.

You have a powerful chart.

Your only problem is Rahu in 8th and you are running Saturn-Rahu at the moment.

This has been complicated by Scorpio Rahu in your 2nd house, aspecetd by Virgo Saturn in 12th.

Your time should gradually improve from 12th Nov, becoming better from 12h Jan onwards.

However, Rahu Antardasha may keep on causing trouble till it ends in 2014 Feb.

Fast every Shukla Paksha Ashtami and pray to Goddess Durga on that day. Recite any hymn for Saraswati daily.

Give us feedback for your life from May 2011 onwards and especially during current transit.

Aum,

Yesterday I gave a different view of the current transits.

Find my post in the last few pages of this thread.

Jollie,

That's a very good observation about Sun! I didn't think about it before.

[neelkumar]

Anyone’s watching Bigg Boss here – there’s a couple who got recently divorced/separated (I don’t know as I don’t watch it regularly).
But one thing I observed: The woman here is wrong. The husband here may be a horrible person (you may add adjectives here, for your convenience!). But he keeps coming back to her. Because he needs her and loves her. See for a man (now this is harsh to digest – but it’s the truth) love = habit. He is habituated to her. He will never want to leave her as he needs her and loves her. But she doesn’t understand this. She may have/has/would suffer. But the ball is/was/will always be in her court. It’s a woman’s world when she knows her man’s extremes and when he rebounds back to her.
If you read what I have mentioned with a neutral/open mind, you will understand what I am saying.

I remember a Dev Anand song from Manpasand – I think it’s the Hindi remake of My Fair Lady (watch it..the song is one of my favorites..: “par yeh hain meri aadat mein shaamil”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBJuWx6iN-0

Jolli- what you said is correct – it now become like a business model/partnership, give & take, tit-for tat policy. With egos rising, career and financial independence, society influence. And this is unfortunate.

In Bigg Boss itself, I saw other women inciting the native to leave the husband and that’s where the native needs to understand – her own sensibility and maturity come to the forefront. Many people around channel their own inner-frustration through the one who is suffering – that’s because these people don’t have the courage to do it themselves.

[vikram_ultimate]

Saindhaviji,


Rahu in the 8th is always bad or does it depend on the house placement also?Again asking about my chart oops..... You have said it so many times that my Saturn dasha is benefic and good ,but still human nature will Rahu in the 8th house for me affect the dasha period next after Mars antardasha--after Mars antardasha I will be running Rahu antardasha ,Rahu is in Aries along with exalted Sun and Venus ?

My birth details are if required for reference :

April 16th 1986
16:58
Chennai,Tamilnadu

[deeps]

Aseem,

This is not gossip, we are saying it in public here, so that everyone including you can read it - and may be some nice, eligible women on LOVA will send you PM or email with a marriage proposal. Keep your contacts enabled.

And no, your chart is more powerful than Basab's - his 10th house is spoilt by Rahu.

Take it from me - you'll be running a Fortune 500 company someday - I hope the eligible women on LOVA are reading.

Well Saindhavi ji,

If I marry, I will choose my soulmate on my own and definitely not through LOVA or other online websites where people hide their true identities and where most of the women are impractical and not to my taste. I need to be very practical in looking for what I want in wife. I am more concerned about happiness. I am not on LOVA for this purpose. I am only here for astrology and making friends as I need their feedback also which will help me in honing my skill.

[jolli]

Yes Neel

Its unfortunate. But please note, we evolved because human interact with each other. There is no way around. Its fact of live. Either knowingly or un-knowingly we do get impressed by others and we do impress others!

For further reading about astrology/love/marriage conflict i strongly and sincerely suggest reading Barbara Peejan Lama
Here is a link for starters...

http://www.barbarapijan.com/bpa/Practic ... s_love.htm

Saindhavi Jee
I became aware of Sun/Venus love through this website. Wanted a reading from her, but beyond my reach. But have been sifting through her website. To be honest, most of the stuff is beyond my capacity to understand. Cant make head n tail of astrological combinations. There are simple to many factors planets, sign, Nk, aspects, angles, transits, dashas and to top it all one needs intution!
When we are to rely upon intution, then why so much study of stars. In my view they are like oil n water. cant mix. But there is no denying that there is some method or pattern to astrology. Perhaps Rahu illusion. Will wear off once i am out of the dasha of Mr Rahu. But he is simply a superb personality.

I am very much in awe. He is there, but no one seem him. No physical presense.

[Saindhavi]

Aseem,

That was a joke - take it in good spirit.

Well, yes of course. If the women on LOVA were so fortunate as to get a husband with a powerful chart like yours, they wouldn't be coming to an astrology site in the first place.

They are here precisely because they are facing problems in life.

Neel,

What you say is right. But the husband should treat his woman like a princess if he loves her - that's the bottom line.

For a woman, it's more a question of whether he shows he loves her in his behaviour and expressions.

And whether he treats her as an intelligent, capable human being with dignity.

Vikram,

Your Rahu is malefic because it is conjunct with Sun. If only the Sun hadn't been there, your Rahu would have given good effect.

[vikram_ultimate]

Saindhaviji,

Any remedy for this ,actually I have been chanting Aditya Hridayam for a long time till date ,I chant "Om Dum Durgayei Namaha" for Rahu will this suffice ? But this combination has taught me a lot about spirituality since childhood (exalted Sun-Rahu) in 8th house .....

One more thing my question was how will it affect me in the Shani Mahadasha ?Shani being benefic will it take over as the main dasha lord or will Rahu show its sting during the 3 year antardasha ?

[Saindhavi]

Saturn-Rahu and Saurn-Sun may be problematic - health problems, accidents, loss of property, career and personal problems etc.

You can recite Surya Upanishad daily and offer water to the rising Sun - see the last few pages of Rahu Mahadasha thread, where I have posted the link.

Fast every Shukla Paksha Ashtami and worship Goddess Durga on this day. Recite Durga Suktam and Devi Suktam from Rig Veda daily.

See links for hymns below my signature line.

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Dear All,

This is not a chart reading thread. So, please give feedback about your life since May 2011 and in recent months/weeks/days, rather than asking for chart reading.

[basab14]

Basab,

Mars-Ketu in Lagna with partial aspect from combust Saturn have robbed Aseem of his good looks to some extent. If he didn't have these combinations, Jupiter would have given him classic handsome looks!

Same with you - because of aspect from Saturn, you have not got the full effect of a Venus-ruled Lagna.

Thank you, Saindhavi ji, for explaining. Yes, in my case, Saturn's aspect spoiled my looks to quite an extent, I agree. Will wait for my next life. About Aseem, I don't think he minds the afflictions taking away his good looks to some extent because he has a huge fan following among girls. Right, Aseem?

[deeps]

If the women on LOVA were so fortunate as to get a husband with a powerful chart like yours, they wouldn't be coming to an astrology site in the first place.

Well, I have a different view on it. All those who present charts on an astrology site and ask any query relating to marriage, it is not their spouse fault because of which they are having problems. In fact, they need to look at their charts first and accept their mistakes. Afflicted 7th house or 7th Lords shows past sins committed by them and hence they are born with such charts and suffer problems in marriage. But what they will do is to blame others for their plights.

Infact, it needs to be seen who is the most sufferer in any relationships. If a guy is making too much noises about his marriage whereas his wife not, then it obviously means the guy is paying for its past karmas. Similary that goes for women also.

[basab14]

Very well said, Aseem.

If I marry, I will choose my soulmate on my own and definitely not through LOVA or other online websites where people hide their true identities and where most of the women are impractical and not to my taste. I need to be very practical in looking for what I want in wife. I am more concerned about happiness. I am not on LOVA for this purpose. I am only here for astrology and making friends as I need their feedback also which will help me in honing my skill.

[vikram_ultimate]

Thanks Saindhaviji and sorry for asking for chart reading should have posted it as a new topic ,sorry again

[deeps]

About Aseem, I don't think he minds the afflictions taking away his good looks to certain extent because he has a huge fan following among girls. Right, Aseem?

Well I don't know why you guys are making so much fuss about looks. But since you doing that, let me write a bit more. I always prefer good looks with brain and honest in their thoughts rather than a man/ a woman with good looks but with malicious intentions.

Looks are very important in teens and early adulthood but later on these hardly matters. But it is true beauty with brains always turns me on and it is a blessings.

Well about girls having a huge fan following, it is very much true but I always make it sure to nip their infatuations as quickly as possible as I don't want them to destroy my marriage life. It was exactly the reason why I had a nasty fight with my girlfriend. I simply got carried away by so much attention that I ignored her feelings. Venus dasha changed everything. I was never expecting this as I had studied in non-coeducation school.

Just imagine, right from the childhood, I could not avoid bumping into girls and neither they can't. The more I tried to run away, the more they tried to run after me. I am very thankful for this kind of once-in-a lifetime opporunity. I know these things don't happen all the time. At least I have something to reminisce of when I grow old.

Maybe because of my good looks and the combination of combust Malavya Yoga, Bahdra Yoga, Shash Yoga can be the reasons why I tend to grab attention from girls. Also exalted Rahu in 7th house. Maybe Guru in 11th house can be the reason.

Maybe Venus is with Saturn, the planet of restriction and Moon in restriction sign in Capricorn does not allow me to express my inner feelings.

Mars in 1st gives me aggressive and fighting nature. Maybe that’s the reason why I fight with them.

If I am enjoying life through them, then it is my destiny. No need to feel jealous!

[vikram_ultimate]

Has anybody been feeling the way I feel,a calm and cool Virgo ascendant like me is getting irritated for small things ,but still able to manage with the mental strength ,I feel like getting angry for small things which I have never done throughout my life ...?

[Saindhavi]

Vikram,

Some Virgo Ascendant people can confirm it.

But Venus is debilitated in your Lagna till 16th of Nov, aspected by Jupiter, though I can't see why it should cause you irritation.

Perhaps because you are running Rahu Antardasha and Rahu is with Mars at the moment - Mars gaining an upper hand.

Aseem,

You know, the more I get into this marital problems-related discussion with men, the more I wonder if I have not really been fortunate in not getting married.

And after getting to know how men think about this issue, this feeling is beginning to grow stronger in me that perhaps Western men are better for me than Indian men.

I am glad I have got to know how Indian men think before getting into a marriage.

Western men have a completely different approach towards relating to women.

Coming back to astrology, you have Bhadra Yoga, but you don't have Shasha and Malavya Yogas - these Mahapurusha Yogas are formed only in Kendra houses and your Saturn and Venus are not only combust, but also in 11th, which is not a Kendra house.

[vikram_ultimate]

I have one more question the transit effects should be observed from only Lagna or the Moon also?I have seen a few astrologers use Moon for ascertaining the effects?

[deeps]

You know, the more I get into this marital problems-related discussion with men, the more I wonder if I have not really been fortunate in not getting married.

And after getting to know how men think about this issue, this feeling is beginning to grow stronger in me that perhaps Western men are better for me than Indian men.

I am glad I have got to know how Indian men think before getting into a marriage.

Western men have a completely different approach towards relating to women.

Coming back to astrology, you have Bhadra Yoga, but you don't have Shasha and Malavya Yogas - these Mahapurusha Yogas are formed only in Kendra houses and your Saturn and Venus are not only combust, but also in 11th, which is not a Kendra house.

Well, these yogas are also seen from Moon Lagna.

Anyway, western men are more perverts. They know how to use women to their own advantage. They are very good in making women turn towards them with their fake soft emotions. They are superbly great in that. Marriage is an eye-opener. No wonder divorce rates are very high there. Divorces are rising in India due to Indians blindly copying the lifestyles of westerners.

Well, Saindhavi ji, I understand your feelings that you are not married still. But there are many who are happy to be single and prefer not to get married.

But I still can't understand why you are not married still. Your chart favours marriage to a foreigner but don't know why.

One thing maybe due to Saturn and Sun conjunction. People with these combination, unless modified by other factors, prefer to remain in solitude and are very conserved. Rahu/venus pushes you to get married but Sun/Saturn combination makes you drop the plan due to some unknown fear.

[manya]

deeps ji,
I control myself, my speech & acts so strongly that I feel i am doing injustice with myself. Trust me, I can blow him off if I want. I have recorded his anger & threatening, I can complaint to police, visa office & social worker teams. It is not allowed in US to abuse your wife & keep her dependent for money & shelter. He has signed agreement with government that he is responsible for my well being for 10 yrs.
Its just that I tolerate him quietly because I still love him & don't want to break the marriage, he is doing all this. The day I will loose temper, I will actually become a martian woman. I am a very well educated professional from a well-to-do family of professionals.
He & his family believes that they can control me & keep the marriage by sending ghost after me through tantrik rituals; my husband feel that they did all tantrik puja & he wore several taabij & stones last yr when I left him and so I came back.
I will certainly prove one day that tantrik rituals can never control me, only way to keep me is good behavior.

Skp,

I have been through all this and I also did not break my marriage. All you need to do is start taking charge of yourself and find a motive for your life beyond this marriage. This is my feeling and of course no matter what whole world tells you, it is your life and you will have to decide for yourself on your own.

You need to get a job first and have an identity of your own, you will start getting respect in the outside world .... which will result is gaining confidence back
2. you will be financially not dependent on him
3. you can take care of your mom better as she is also old and widow and she needs your support at this stage
4. you will be meet people outside home and your mind will be diverted and will not keep thinking all this and go into negative loops.

Now second thing, if your husband and his family treats you like a servant, get a paid servant for urself and delegate all work to her/him. You can decide which work you want to delegate and which not. And do not this with your husband's money,earn yourself and delegate things. ( You do not have to treat servant as a servant , the way ur husband does).

You have to tell them differently that you do not belong to them, you are from a good family background of professionals and you know how to maintain your dignity and that they should treat them properly and give u respect. Some things cannot be taught verbally, you have to stand for urself and move ahead. They will keep shouting from back but you just keep going.

I do not know what is right and what is wrong, and it is true that no one can change destiny. One day I was crying at my in laws place because they had treated me badly and my mom called up. I told her what was happening, and she said you will not die as a maid, go and earn and get a maid for ur in laws. And it worked for me. Stand up for urself!