Hi all.

[Saindhavi]

UK2,

Well, I had actually read both charts even then, but I didn't want to tell him, because it would have given him an excuse to wriggle out of the situation.

It seems to me that he has told you to write here so that you both can get married, because we were not telling him. Otherwise, I hadn't really expected you to come here. This means he says he will listen to his family, but secretly he still wants to get married to you.

First, understand that it's not possible to go beyond your destiny and no astrologer can tell you what lies in your destiny. I only read a chart the way I see it. I don't claim to be an astrologer or a seer of future. Whether you listen to me or whether my advices will bear fruits is in God's hands. I don't claim that by following my advices you will get what you want. You'll still get only what lies in your destiny.

Remember also, that a person who reads your charts is only telling you what he or she feels the chart says. S/he is not God - or the Goddess - and can't change your destiny. So there is no point in expecting him or her to give you the reading that you want to hear.

I am against matching charts in a love match and am reading these charts only to try and see if your match can turn into a marriage, not to tell you whether both of you have love or arranged marriage.

There is no need to worry about the second girl. This was only an arranged match for her and her family can always find another one for her. If he had got married to her, I wouldn't have supported your attempt to break her marriage and get him back, because as you said, she is not at fault and she should not suffer in all this. But that marriage has not happened, so we can see if you both can get married.

OK, about both charts -

First, you are a Mangalik and he is not. So, astrologically, most people wouldn't recommend this match.

Mangal Dosha doesn't apply after 28 yrs. So, one way is that both of you wait till 5 years, till you cross the age of 28.

Some people also suggest that you ritually get married to an earthen water pot first and break that pot immediately. After this, you can get married to him.

But most probably, if you tell both families that you are a Mangalik and he is not, they both won't agree for this marriage. So you can see the uphill task ahead.

Either way, because of Mangal Dosha, you will face problems in life, including health problems to your husband, unless you marry a person who has Mars aspecting his own signs in 2nd and 7th houses (such as in a Libra Ascendant chart).

In this marriage (after breaking the water pot), both of you should fast every Tuesday, recite Hanuman Chalisa everyday, offer Sindur to Hanuman every Tuesday and donate red objects every Tuesday.

I don't see many planetary compatibilities in both charts. I too had thought that he is supposed to have a love marriage. But there doesn't seem any break in his love match. So, I was surprised that this problem had occurred.

He is actually going through a period of marriage now. He is running Mars-Jupiter period. But in this period he is supposed to have an arranged marriage with a girl from abroad or from a distant land.

I can't find a suitable period when both of you are running the period of marriage at the same time. The period between 27th December 2011 and 14th Jan 2012 is the only time when you both can get married to each other.

So, you have to achieve this uphill task before that.

if you miss this period, he will likely get married elsewhere.

Since he is supposed to get married abroad, both of you should try to also go abroad as soon as possible, either for study or for work.

Apart from Mars, Saturn is another problem. His Saturn is giving him love marriage and your Saturn is blocking your bhagya in your 9th house and increasing the power of your kinship networks, which will increase the chances of them bringing an arranged match for you.

Apart from Hanuman Chalisa, both of you should also donate to poor, orphans, handicapped and menial workers every Saturday. Offer mustard oil and red flowers to Hanuman and Bhairav every Saturday. Recite Kala Bhairava Ashtakam daily.

Your Ketu is blocking your 5th house of good fortune and his Ketu is increasing the power of his kinship networks along with Mars. Apart from all the remedies suggested above, both of you should also recite Ganesha Atharvashirsha daily.

See below...

[Saindhavi]

The worst part is that you are going through Rahu Mahadasha and that is the reason you have got involved in all this. Rahu Mahadasha is known to bring relationships which don't eventually bring fruit. His changing his mind about love marriage and going with his family is a sure sign of your Rahu taking effect.

Rahu and Saturn work in unison. As I said, your Saturn is blocking your bhagya and your Rahu is operational. If you met him about 3 years ago, then you were running Rahu-Saturn at that time. So you can see your Rahu-Saturn destiny being fulfilled here.

Both of you actually have a good Rahu and you will get a lot of wealth in this Rahu Mahadasha, but Rahu will also cause undue tensions in your life and will take you in wrong directions, causing bad decisions.

So, apart from the remedies above, both of you should recite Mahamrityunjaya Manra 108 times daily and also recite 1st chapter of Durga Saptashati, lighting ghee diyas.

See this link for hymns and proper way to recite Durga Saptashati - http://www.lightonvedicastrology.com/ph ... =75#p93038

So, you can see that not only in terms of meeting family pressures, both of you have to perform all these astrological remedies as well.

I don't know if this marriage will happen. As I said, I don't have the power to decide anyone's destiny. I have only told you what I can read in the 2 charts. If both of you want, you can try all this and see if you can ge married and sustain your marriage.

Rest is in God's hands.

[Saindhavi]

UK2,

In Mars-Jupiter, he is likely to get married to a girl from distant land, preferably found by family.

As I said, reading chart is not the same as seeing destiny. If h is destined for a love marriage, he will delay his marriage till Mars-Saturn, when Saturn will give him love marriage. But the problem is that when his Saturn comes, your chart doesn't show a possibility of marriage, which means it will not be with you - in any case your Saturn will not let it happen then. That's why I gave you a time-bracket in the end of Mars-Jupiter for him to try and see if it can happen. He can get married any time from now to the next 3 and a half years.

You can get married anytime after 27th June 2013 for the next 5 years.

As I said, I don't see many planetary compatibilities in 2 charts. Going strictly by astrological rules, I'd say these 2 natives can't get married. But I suggested remedies for all the incompabilities so that if both of you want to go ahead, you can try and see if you can get married.

But so far I have not seen 2 incompatible charts bringing forth a marriage against the prophecy of the charts. In Rahu Mahadasha, I have rarely seen a match spoilt by Rahu-Saturn reviving again.

But I suggested all this because you came here and asked.

Do your part of the remedies anyway, so that the negative impacts of your chart will be lessened.

I don't know why someone said he is a Mangalik. You are a Mangalik, he is not Mangalik.

If you want to leave this affair, forget him and move on. If you hang on to him, you'll only waste your life.

[rashi]

The worst part is that you are going through Rahu Mahadasha and that is the reason you have got involved in all this. Rahu Mahadasha is known to bring relationships which don't eventually bring fruit. His changing his mind about love marriage and going with his family is a sure sign of your Rahu taking effect.

Every Person is bound by his / her chart and MD / AD , that is pure logical and understood , but how can someone {say person B} change his mind and act accordingly to give the result of MD of another person {say person A} , should we not look for the cause of person B { the Boy } behavior in his chart and dasha rather then in the chart of person A ????

dont u think that to say that the boy changed his mined and backed away from love marriage because the girl is running RAHU mahadasha is illogical ????

[Humannature]

The worst part is that you are going through Rahu Mahadasha and that is the reason you have got involved in all this. Rahu Mahadasha is known to bring relationships which don't eventually bring fruit. His changing his mind about love marriage and going with his family is a sure sign of your Rahu taking effect.

Every Person is bound by his / her chart and MD / AD , that is pure logical and understood , but how can someone {say person B} change his mind and act accordingly to give the result of MD of another person {say person A} , should we not look for the cause of person B { the Boy } behavior in his chart and dasha rather then in the chart of person A ????

dont u think that to say that the boy changed his mined and backed away from love marriage because the girl is running RAHU mahadasha is illogical ????

I was looking for a roommate for almost 3 months and my apartment is spacious and beautiful..
I got many replies when i posted the ad..many people came and saw the apartment, expressed interest and were very excited about it and said that's perfect for them and that's exactly what they were looking for!! but they would go home and just change their mind !!!
This was when i was running Saturn-Moon dasha.
When asked if i was repelling people few astrologers said, it's not me but the Sa-Mo phase which will not give me even a bit of happiness and make sure that i will suffer mentally. I was going thru a horrible phase in life and was all alone..i though i will have company if i at least had a roommate...But found none..even till date..

I think what was in my chart had to be fructified by actions of others making me lonely.
It was said in the above posts that a break in the love match does not show in the boy's chart and yet it happened..could be because the girl's chart has more bad yogas than the good yogas in the guy's chart to make it happen..
I also think her freewill helped change his fate a lil bit by breaking two relationships in his life, his relation with her and the engagement..
I though there need to be malefics in a chart that make breaks happen, but in spite of not having any breaks in his charts, she made it happen!

Also I think certain places also have this effect..
For ex in my case, we got separated three times in the same city Chicago.. I used to be left behind and he used to move away..But in another city we could be together no problem...n when the time came for us to separate again, we HAD to move to Chicago (out of the blue...it just happened last minute) where the separation happened again..

Is the place thing right?

[rashi]

humannature ,

thanks for sharing , but logically I am not convinced by ur words , to assume that person A chart will loose all its power and surrender to Person B MD only to give counter intuitive results and that too when they are not connected {they are not married , and if holding by the standard of assuming every relationship to be a bond so strong to defy the basic laws of astrology , then only GOD will know how to interpret , cause relationships happen these days its a way of life we cant deny that ...and mostly people dont get a perfect match in the first chance }

thanks ones again for sharing

[Saindhavi]

Rashi,

It's not defying the laws of astrology. It's following them.

Rahu rules intellect and causes wrong decisions and misleads the natives on a path which will not be fruitful. In order to achieve this end, it matches a native with a person with whom marriage will not happen - the reason for the marriage not happening is usually the other person changing his mind - influencing the intellect to destroy a relationship is Rahu's realm. Because the other person is in relation with the native, Rahu turns his/her mind so that the native doesn't get what s/he wants.

In astrology, a relationship doesn't always mean a ceremonial wedding. It can be physical, emotional or ritualistic relationship. It's not a question of a perfect match - it's just that the 2 natives are not destined for marriage.

In fact, the native running a period of Rahu or having Rahu influence in chart usually thinks that this was the perfect match for him/her. Hence, the intense suffering, longing and attachment.

If the native under Rahu changes mind, it will not lead to suffering of the native because the relationship was broken willingly. But Rahu has to bring suffering, attachment and longing in the process of breaking a relationship. He achieves it by changing the mind of the other person so that the native suffers, is attached to and longs for the person who has gone away.

Rahu is attachment and Ketu is detachment. After Rahu causes this longing and suffering, finally the native kills the desire and gets detached by the influence of Ketu. But this usually takes several years to happen, because usually the native is not aware what is happening..

[Saindhavi]

UK2,

His Saturn phase - about 2 and a half years from Feb 17th 2012.

[rashi]

rahu giving effect to girl is understandable ... but to say that the girls rahu was so strong and influential over the boys whole chart that it make the boys chart ineffectual and made him doo things against his chart , is sorry to say ABSURD ,

whatever the behavior of boy the cause must lie in his chart , if we cant find that , then the fault lies in us and not the method .... but honestly this dosent go down well logically that girls rahu made the boy do things that his chart does not support ... maybe the boys chart need some deeper analysis by you or some senior member ... cause its quite possible that u r missing something ..after all mistakes happen

PS : even if the girl has broken the relationship herself because or family pressure or whatever , even in that case their will be suffering after the emotions have been attached because of rahu , so to say that rahu way of giving suffering only by making the other person reject native is again illogical

sorry for using strong words .... but being agirl.. i know ... she could have been hurt either way .. so this girls rahu controlling boy ..is a far fetched idea .... what was all the boys planet doing ??? .... taking a nap ???

[Saindhavi]

Rashi,

No. Our behaviour is not influenced by our own chart alone. It is also influenced by the people we are in interaction with - with family, friends, emotional relations, professional relations.

I never said boy's chart was made ineffectual.

You have missed the main point I made above that the two natives don't have many compatible planets in the first place - the marriage is not supposed to happen. these 2 natives came together in the first place because Rahu-Saturn had to have this influence.

The boy has simply distanced himself from the girl his chart doesn't reflect as his wife, but it reflected a short - term relation with her in a certain Dasha.

The boy is following the logic of his chart. Besides, if you get into a relation with a person, his chart will influence you. If his Rahu is supposed to break his relation, Rahu's astrological destiny is to break it through the other person. It's Ketu who breaks it through the native. So, Rahu will break it through you, not him. If his Ketu is malefic for a relation, then he will break it himself, not you. Different planets do it differently.

If the person breaks it himself, how will Rahu's astrological destiny of causing longing and attachment be fulfilled?

And usually in Rahu's case, the two charts are not compatible. So, it's not as if the other person was supposed to have this marriage but broke it because of the girl's Rahu. He wasn't supposed to have this marriage. He was supposed to have only a short-term relation with this particular person during a particular period.

This is not the case of just this chart - it' a pattern that occurs in every case of Rahu-Saturn-influenced break up.

Well, you of course have the right to believe whatever you want to believe. There is no obligation on you to follow me. It IS Rahu's way of breaking a relationship - through the other person, not through the native. If you find it illogical, that's your choice. But that's the way Rahu behaves - I have seen it in every single case and I myself have gone through 18 years of Rahu Mahadasha - I know Rahu well.

PS - By the way, Rahu is a planet that DOESN'T follow human logic.

[rashi]

can u give references to any published work of any esteemed author or classical work on astrology ..where such behaviour of rahu is described

PS : does all the other planets follow human logic ???

[Saindhavi]

Well, I said you can believe in whatever you want to believe in. That's upto you.

[rashi]

References please .....

[explorings]

Rashi,

It's not defying the laws of astrology. It's following them.

Rahu rules intellect and causes wrong decisions and misleads the natives on a path which will not be fruitful. In order to achieve this end, it matches a native with a person with whom marriage will not happen - the reason for the marriage not happening is usually the other person changing his mind - influencing the intellect to destroy a relationship is Rahu's realm. Because the other person is in relation with the native, Rahu turns his/her mind so that the native doesn't get what s/he wants.

In astrology, a relationship doesn't always mean a ceremonial wedding. It can be physical, emotional or ritualistic relationship. It's not a question of a perfect match - it's just that the 2 natives are not destined for marriage.

In fact, the native running a period of Rahu or having Rahu influence in chart usually thinks that this was the perfect match for him/her. Hence, the intense suffering, longing and attachment.

If the native under Rahu changes mind, it will not lead to suffering of the native because the relationship was broken willingly. But Rahu has to bring suffering, attachment and longing in the process of breaking a relationship. He achieves it by changing the mind of the other person so that the native suffers, is attached to and longs for the person who has gone away.

Rahu is attachment and Ketu is detachment. After Rahu causes this longing and suffering, finally the native kills the desire and gets detached by the influence of Ketu. But this usually takes several years to happen, because usually the native is not aware what is happening..

Dear Saindhaviji:
You summarized my entire Ra Mahadasha (so far) so succinctly

Dear Rasi:
I completely attest to Saindhaviji's statements.

Ra-Ra; Ra-Saturn, Ra-Ketu does give breaks in relationships especially if you are going through a troublesome Rahu Mahadasha. Most the breaks are sudden and without no appropriate/substantial reasons. You also get cheated by friends, business partners, partners, and close relations. I have seen it in several cases including mine.

Currently, in my case, both my husband and I are running Ra MD and he already entered his Ketu phase leading to complete detachment. I start my Ketu bhukti early-mid 2012... and I can easily see myself taking similar decisions.

Dear UK-2:
UK-2 I went through a similar situation in 2007, but the only difference in yours and my situations is: I never called the guy's family or the girl involved in the arrange marriage. I came to know from a social networking website that he was getting engaged to this girl and he blatanly refused to any such accusations. In fact, he blamed it all on me and broke off for been suspicious and insecure. I decided to silently walk away though I was tempted to call the other girl and his family.

2 months later he got engaged to the girl and 3 months after his engagement, he got married to this girl. 6 months after his marriage his wife got pregnant. I came to know all this through common friends. Almost 5 years have passed since this incident, he is still apologizing to me for what he did to me. In this 5 years, he lost a job, lost immigration, had to move within a month out of the country (closing all accounts, selling car, etc), take a mediocre job and salary in another country as he didn't want to go back to India, indebted heavy financial losses, and had several family and health issues.

He is strong Mangalik and his chart did not show any breaks in relations... we ended in my Ra-Sa dasha. I could have used my freewill to break any possible relations with his current wife, but I chose not to do anything and let it go. Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing. He is paying for his karma in a different way and he is aware of it; I am glad, at least he treats his wife well

[phoenix]

[quote="Saindhavi"][color=#4000BF]Rashi,

It's not defying the laws of astrology. It's following them.

Rahu rules intellect and causes wrong decisions and misleads the natives on a path which will not be fruitful. In order to achieve this end, it matches a native with a person with whom marriage will not happen - the reason for the marriage not happening is usually the other person changing his mind - influencing the intellect to destroy a relationship is Rahu's realm. Because the other person is in relation with the native, Rahu turns his/her mind so that the native doesn't get what s/he wants.

In astrology, a relationship doesn't always mean a ceremonial wedding. It can be physical, emotional or ritualistic relationship. It's not a question of a perfect match - it's just that the 2 natives are not destined for marriage.

In fact, the native running a period of Rahu or having Rahu influence in chart usually thinks that this was the perfect match for him/her. Hence, the intense suffering, longing and attachment.

If the native under Rahu changes mind, it will not lead to suffering of the native because the relationship was broken willingly. But Rahu has to bring suffering, attachment and longing in the process of breaking a relationship. He achieves it by changing the mind of the other person so that the native suffers, is attached to and longs for the person who has gone away.

Rahu is attachment and Ketu is detachment. After Rahu causes this longing and suffering, finally the native kills the desire and gets detached by the influence of Ketu. But this usually takes several years to happen, because usually the native is not aware what is happening.. [/color][/quote]

Dear Saindhavi, each and every word is true. I had a similar experience . Thou we knew each other for long, the whole thing kick started with my Saturn - Rah antardasha and ended with the same and truly i was the one suffered a lot, thou the guy left me as if he was not even part of it

I always used to wonder why i need to suffer like this , thou I haven hurt anyone in my life intentionally or bad to harm someone. Your post abt Rahu makes things so clear now.

[karmatrix]

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[phoenix]

[quote="explorings"]

Dear Saindhaviji:
You summarized my entire Ra Mahadasha (so far) so succinctly

Dear Rasi:
I completely attest to Saindhaviji's statements.

Ra-Ra; Ra-Saturn, Ra-Ketu does give breaks in relationships especially if you are going through a troublesome Rahu Mahadasha. Most the breaks are sudden and without no appropriate/substantial reasons. You also get cheated by friends, business partners, partners, and close relations. I have seen it in several cases including mine.

Currently, in my case, both my husband and I are running Ra MD and he already entered his Ketu phase leading to complete detachment. I start my Ketu bhukti early-mid 2012... and I can easily see myself taking similar decisions.

Dear UK-2:
UK-2 I went through a similar situation in 2007, but the only difference in yours and my situations is: I never called the guy's family or the girl involved in the arrange marriage. I came to know from a social networking website that he was getting engaged to this girl and he blatanly refused to any such accusations. In fact, he blamed it all on me and broke off for been suspicious and insecure. I decided to silently walk away though I was tempted to call the other girl and his family.

2 months later he got engaged to the girl and 3 months after his engagement, he got married to this girl. 6 months after his marriage his wife got pregnant. I came to know all this through common friends. [u]Almost 5 years have passed since this incident, he is still apologizing to me for what he did to me.[/u] In this 5 years, he lost a job, lost immigration, had to move within a month out of the country (closing all accounts, selling car, etc), take a mediocre job and salary in another country as he didn't want to go back to India, indebted heavy financial losses, and had several family and health issues.

He is strong Mangalik and his chart did not show any breaks in relations... we ended in my Ra-Sa dasha. I could have used my freewill to break any possible relations with his current wife, but I chose not to do anything and let it go. Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing. He is paying for his karma in a different way and he is aware of it; I am glad, at least he treats his wife well [/quote]


It as if am reading my story again, thou am not too happy to hear or know that there are lots of girls who have similar experience. "Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing." -- blatantly true. I was a silent spectator when i came to know of the guy s engagement via a social networking site. when i asked him he started accusing me a cheat. When i told that i wanna talk to his mom regarding this, he called me a blackmailer. He even went on to say that he feels guilty to talk to the girl with whom he got engaged because of me. After all this , he told me " Lets be friends.Dont take this to heart and feel bad about it " . The best statement from a guy who had been with me for six and half years and the last thing i would have liked to hear from him.

This happened in February 2011. He got married in August 2011 and even shared a couple of photos in the same site . For all the support and love i gave him , this is what i got.

I write this not because that i want everyone to know what i went through , but every girl who visits this page, who reads this post , intentionally or unintentionally should not go through such experience.

I am not saying all guys are bad, I know guys who stood by their conviction to marry the girl they loved. But unfortunately there are few gals who fell in wrong relationships like me.

I do not believe in karma. People know very well what they want and when they do something to hurt others , they are very well aware that they are doing wrong, just that their conscience does not work as it does for us.

6 long years and I am struggling now to get married and settled down, while the person i loved just walked out and got married. Believe it or not , this is what life is !

[Saindhavi]

Explorings and Phoenics,

Thanks for bearing me out!

Karmatrix,

I have got your message. Will get back to you soon.

[Saindhavi]

UK2,

I can't speak about why others read your chart in a certain manner. I have already given you a detailed account of how I read your chart.

As I said, we don't have the power to decide anyone's destiny. You can only do the remedies and see how things turn out for you.

If the other girl was a Mangalik, it is only good that she didn't get married to him, because he is not a Mangalik. Perhaps you were an agency through which both of them were saved.

By the way, I received a message from a member telling me that she is a Mangalik, she waited for marriage till 28 years, fasted on Tuesdasy and recited Hanuman Chalisa etc, but still her husband died when she got married.

In fact, I always suspected that this 28 yrs theory in case of Mangal Dosha was not right. Now, she has proved my suspicion right.

Also goes on to show that references in books are not always correct and one should not follow blindly the references in books.

So, perhaps both of you women were not supposed to face that destiny, and he is supposed to have a long life, that's why neither of you got married to him.

In light of what she wrote to me, I revise my advice to you. Perhaps it's not right for you to try to go after him. Wait for what is yours and the best will come to you.

Of course, I don't discount his fault in all this. But one should look at the blessings in disguise and move forward in life.

[Dev]

Hi UK2:

It seems there are lot of contradictions in your statements.

It seems you are madly in love with him still. You say you still want him to be happy even if he gets married to someone else. You say you were at fault and not he.
This seems to be real madness. When for 3 years he has been friendly with you, does it mean he did this only to break this later. It was his fault.
You however went and reported to the girl (and her family) he was engaged with. But if it was true love, u would not have spoilt that, anyway he was also not in true love since he changed his mind so soon.
You keep on asking if there is a common good period when u both could get married.
First of all this needs no astrology. His family is against u and he is not willing to go against his family.
So it is better for u to forget him and also dont make him a Hero He is not. None of the people other than u would accept he is a good person. He has cheated u and it is as simple as that.
I doubt the feeling you both had for each other was not love but infatuation.
Just forget him and move forward. I hope u have some skills on which you can rely upon rather that a so called boyfriend.

Dev

[explorings]

Dear Saindhaviji:

Mangalik may also lead to separation and/or divorce apart from deaths. Yeah u r absolutely rite... Even, I don't think that after 28 or (32 yrs as per one book) that Mangal will leave you alone. I still believe that no matter what it will still cause havoc in marital bliss depending upon its severity. Even ppl who are mildly mangalik still undergo long separations or divorces. Of course all this is true if no remedies were done before marriage.

28 yrs theory is wayy to exaggerated and may have been some isolated cases!

[Saindhavi]

Explorings,

This lady wrote she performed remedies and got married at 32. So, I don't know how much remedies work in a Mangalik's case. Hence, my revised advice above. Devji of course, has given a very rational counsel.

[karmatrix]

Dear Saindhavi,

Please take your time . I am in no hurry.

Off late, been feeling positive... seems, God's answering my prayers. Making me self sufficient.

Have realised, whatever happens, happens for THE BEST!

Dear UK2,

I know, it's easier said than done, but what Dev's said is worth considering - 'Rely on your strength than relying on a person'. You're so young... just 23!!! Imagine going through this, at the age I have... at 32 (going 33 in 4 months)! Believe me, life's not easy, it literally almost killed me. I have suffered, terribly in the past 1 year and throughout the 5 years when I was with 'HIM'. 6 precious years of my life!!! Some people even tell me, that I have wasted the most precious time of my life for a 'worthless' man. Yes, it does pinch me, but you know what, I do not think so. For, now I have realised the significance of 'this' slap in my face. You see, now I realise, that I HAD very much, asked for it! I realise it now, how reckless, I have been to have taken God's blessings (everything 'TOUCH WOOD' except this MAN! And I blame this on my FREEWILL, certainly not on my LORD!) to me for granted. You see, God, always almost invariably answered my prayers (my firm belief is, he always answers, all of ours!), he even fulfilled my dreams, but I, instead of making the best out of it, took things I received for granted! I was wrong, totally wrong. In fact, I realise it now, that it was completely unfair of me, to have done that. And now I think, God's taught me my lesson and I am now happy to have at least realised my fault. You see, it's never too late, to correct one's mistakes.

You may call it, sheer madness or 'heights of optimism' but I've always believed & witnessed in life, that the scale of our failure is often the precursor of the grandeur of our eventual success (provided we're ready to correct things)! Honestly, I realise it now, I am worth a lot more than what I was thinking for myself. In fact, I can promise you, you will too, realise this eventually.

Takes time, for us mortals, to understand God's scheme of life for us, but believe me, it's cent per cent true, when they say, 'Jo hota hai, achhe ke liye hota hai'. And I have realised this now. You know, for the first time ever in my life, today I am happy being myself, within myself. Yes, I want to get married and above all have lots of babies, I am a very family oriented person, but now I don't want to do this ONLY to fill a void in my life! I want babies, because, I know, I can be a wonderful mother.

Also, I am super content with the fact that I was honest and rocksteady in my selfless affection for that man. I did my bit, and I am very happy about it. I have no qualms in admitting, 'Yes, I loved him'. Because there's nothing wrong in it. In fact, I have NO reason to feel bad about anything at all now, for I have succeeded in my tests. Whether the world's able to see this or not, is NOT MY PROBLEM! For, my judge is my lord. And that's what matters!

I firmly believe, as long as, we know, we have not wronged anyone, we do not have a reason to worry about anything in life. Believe me, when I say, that I have supreme confidence in the fact... that NOW I will live upto God's expectations out of me. SO MUST YOU!

Be Good . Be happy.

Best wishes,
Karmatrix

[phoenix]

Saindhavi,

I have posted a thread on double manglik in this forum. I just want to know my marriage prospects and about my married life. Would like to know whether you can help me out ?

viewtopic.php?f=18&t=11841

regards

[Dev]

Hi UK2,

Karlmatrix has given u a wonderful advice and also explained her own case.

You did nothing wrong if you had loved him truely, it is not your fault. If he has cheated u, it is his problem, and he may have to pay a heavy price,
In fact your telling the girl's family is also good since if he can think of secret marriage without informing you about it and showing to his family that he is a good person listening to them, then it is good that u saved that girl from getting married to such a characterless person.
Anyway forget about that, u have not erred and be self confident like Karlmatrix, rely on your strengths both inner and artistic/ educational/career ones. That will help u immensely to lead a happy life.

Dev