Skp ji,
I don't think you will return to India, and even if you do, it will be for a short while. You will earn in a foreign land in this Venus period. There will be struggle, but you will earn and have a career abroad.
Celestial Drama in Libra
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SKP3,
All other people can do for you right now is say, "I told you so" or support you morally. What you can do for yourself is to think if it worthwhile spending your life with a person who has the attention span of a moth and the commitment that spans less than the life of a fruit fly.
I know it hurts to hear other people say bad about someone you love, but please do consider the possibility of your husband suffering from a split personality or he is just bored and needs someone to torture.
If you still want to live with him, inspite of the abuse, because you love him like crazy, then make a choice and know that you will have to live with it.
If your love is not enough to take the abuse and insults, then you know what to do.
I am sorry this might come across as unsolicited advice but that man does not seem to be in his right mind to change his behavior so drastically within 48 hrs!
And you know very well that rest is upto you.
All other people can do for you right now is say, "I told you so" or support you morally. What you can do for yourself is to think if it worthwhile spending your life with a person who has the attention span of a moth and the commitment that spans less than the life of a fruit fly.
I know it hurts to hear other people say bad about someone you love, but please do consider the possibility of your husband suffering from a split personality or he is just bored and needs someone to torture.
If you still want to live with him, inspite of the abuse, because you love him like crazy, then make a choice and know that you will have to live with it.
If your love is not enough to take the abuse and insults, then you know what to do.
I am sorry this might come across as unsolicited advice but that man does not seem to be in his right mind to change his behavior so drastically within 48 hrs!
And you know very well that rest is upto you.
I tried my best to find the reason but I cold-not find it except the aspect of very powerful 6L[Moon] aspecting the 7L[Sun] and 12L[Saturn] aspecting the 7H. But Saturn and Mars are aspecting each other. Jupiter[R] is also aspecting the Sun[7L] from 12H. But D-9[ Chart of your Husband] shows it clearly . Venus is the LL of D-9 under the sign exchange with Saturn[ in 6H] . Mars[7L] and Saturn are aspecting each other. It is clearly indicating you both are fighting like warriors. Since Mars- Saturn connection both in D-1 and D-9. Saturn is the Lagna lord of D-1 and indirectly the LL of D-9. regardsPlease donot include the above in reply. I want to delete it.
skp23
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A person should not be too honest. Straight trees are cut first and honest people are screwed first.
“Reasoning with a drunkard is like
Going under water with a torch to seek for a drowning man.”
“Reasoning with a drunkard is like
Going under water with a torch to seek for a drowning man.”
Skp23,
I just read what you wrote. I think that your husband is emotional and sensitive. I can say very clearly that he will never leave you. He will never be able to live without you.
If a man (even once) rebounds/returns back to his woman (whatever the fight may be about or however severe or whoever is at fault – even your in-laws), that means he needs you and loves you.
He may fight with you a million times over and over again – that’s immaterial.
When he asks you to leave the house – think laterally – why is he saying that. He is saying that because it’s his last resort to hurt you. Realize that that thinking is his extreme. And you know his extreme – because he has stopped at it time and again and has never gone beyond that – no matter what. He will again want you back.
So, in a relationship, it is important to realize the limit of extreme behaviors of both the partners.
I personally don’t see a problem now that you know his extreme.
I suggest you take it easy – as you now know his limit and that he will never leave you and that he loves you.
I just read what you wrote. I think that your husband is emotional and sensitive. I can say very clearly that he will never leave you. He will never be able to live without you.
If a man (even once) rebounds/returns back to his woman (whatever the fight may be about or however severe or whoever is at fault – even your in-laws), that means he needs you and loves you.
He may fight with you a million times over and over again – that’s immaterial.
When he asks you to leave the house – think laterally – why is he saying that. He is saying that because it’s his last resort to hurt you. Realize that that thinking is his extreme. And you know his extreme – because he has stopped at it time and again and has never gone beyond that – no matter what. He will again want you back.
So, in a relationship, it is important to realize the limit of extreme behaviors of both the partners.
I personally don’t see a problem now that you know his extreme.
I suggest you take it easy – as you now know his limit and that he will never leave you and that he loves you.
मैँ सुरज हुँ - अँधेरा चीड़ के हर रोज़ निकलूँगा,
मुझें क्यॉ रोंक पाओगे, ऊँजला रोंकने वालोँ।
मुझें क्यॉ रोंक पाओगे, ऊँजला रोंकने वालोँ।
Janaki..I agree with you and you are speaking of an ideal situation here - straight out of Mills & Boons!janaki wrote:Neel,
What kind of love is it when you hurt a person you love?
Love is about caring and standing by that person's side when he/she needs it the most
The person in this situation, is different (man also can be very complex and not always easy to understand) - as I said earlier, he comes out to be emotional, sensitive and maybe has somewhat or occasional lack of self-confidence/esteem and has some degree of frustrations. That's why the differential behavioral patterns. He tries to downpour all that on his wife.
Whatever, this relationship is going to continue till the end, I can clearly say that.
मैँ सुरज हुँ - अँधेरा चीड़ के हर रोज़ निकलूँगा,
मुझें क्यॉ रोंक पाओगे, ऊँजला रोंकने वालोँ।
मुझें क्यॉ रोंक पाओगे, ऊँजला रोंकने वालोँ।
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deeps
Very well Said.This is why I always say remedies don't work. What is fated will happen. One can't change it. You have used your free will also, and you have seen you couldn't change your destiny. The wisest thing is to accept your destiny and move ahead.
Destiny reigns supreme! SKP123,
Can you wait till mid of Jan'13?
Do you have husband details?
One good thing happenned is our internet line is back agter 3 days so i don't have to depend on phone.
Respected Humannature ji,
I understand what you mean. But i always thought breaking it is something i can always do & at any time. But broken relation wont get repaired when either of us want. So, i am stcking in beacuse in a fight when both sides argue or debate, it will end up breaking only, it can never lead to reunion.
Janaki ji,
I completely agree with you. He said yesterday in between that he loves me & i am his wife so he has all 'rights' to be angry on me. When i said rights come with responsibilities he got further annoyed saying tell me what have i not done for you. Seeing him angry, i kept quite & he got angry further. I feel how can we hurt someone if we love him. He has always argued saying both can be done together, & i keep quite & let him feel he won.
He acts no more than spoilt 3 yr old child who keep blabberring all the time, expecting i will ignore all that & love him back as his mother. You might say that i controbuted in that but trust me, neither i provoke nor i respond to him. Today morning also, i kept quite despite that i was all shaken.
Ihave seen split personality behavior in him with 2 opposite characters but when they both emerge together, i fail to handle it.
In all this drama he do, he does not realize how much i get hurt that i actually feel to dump him & move on.
Anuradha ji,
This is going on since 2 yrs, but there was good period of 2 months (may, june) this yr when he was good to me for 2 months with no anger episode.
Respected Humannature ji,
I understand what you mean. But i always thought breaking it is something i can always do & at any time. But broken relation wont get repaired when either of us want. So, i am stcking in beacuse in a fight when both sides argue or debate, it will end up breaking only, it can never lead to reunion.
Janaki ji,
I completely agree with you. He said yesterday in between that he loves me & i am his wife so he has all 'rights' to be angry on me. When i said rights come with responsibilities he got further annoyed saying tell me what have i not done for you. Seeing him angry, i kept quite & he got angry further. I feel how can we hurt someone if we love him. He has always argued saying both can be done together, & i keep quite & let him feel he won.
He acts no more than spoilt 3 yr old child who keep blabberring all the time, expecting i will ignore all that & love him back as his mother. You might say that i controbuted in that but trust me, neither i provoke nor i respond to him. Today morning also, i kept quite despite that i was all shaken.
Ihave seen split personality behavior in him with 2 opposite characters but when they both emerge together, i fail to handle it.
In all this drama he do, he does not realize how much i get hurt that i actually feel to dump him & move on.
Anuradha ji,
This is going on since 2 yrs, but there was good period of 2 months (may, june) this yr when he was good to me for 2 months with no anger episode.
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deeps
Saindhavi ji,
What planetary combination made Aseem so attractive? I am asking this because I would pray for such a planetary combination in my next life--this life having gone waste.
You guys are gossiping about me a lot.Saindhavi » Thu Nov 01, 2012 7:42 pm
Basab,
But you are not so bad looking - Venus is your ruler.
Well, with Jupiter as Aseem's ruler, he has to be attractive.
But I didn't really look at his planets.
I looked at his Facebook profile photo and said he was quite attractive. He does look pretty good in that photo - both pretty and good.
Well, Martian people in fiery signs are always attractive I think.
Deeps ji,
I can wait but i wonder if i will survive. I have decided currently to wait till 18 november but if he will not keep pushing, i will wait further.
Neelkumar ji,
Yes i loved him but i am now really trying hard to detach myself from him. I anyway dont get any thing good from him. Once done, there will be no looking back, i will not come back if i will leave him this time. I am tired of this "working to save marriage", i want some career & self developement in future. I will never regret since i tried whatever i could
I can wait but i wonder if i will survive. I have decided currently to wait till 18 november but if he will not keep pushing, i will wait further.
Neelkumar ji,
Yes i loved him but i am now really trying hard to detach myself from him. I anyway dont get any thing good from him. Once done, there will be no looking back, i will not come back if i will leave him this time. I am tired of this "working to save marriage", i want some career & self developement in future. I will never regret since i tried whatever i could
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deeps
Maybe things will improve post jan'13. Both for them, it is the period of confusions, though he may continue to have problems in marriage till Venus antardasha.
For you, bad decisions likely from 13th November till February 2013. Don't act in haste.
For you, bad decisions likely from 13th November till February 2013. Don't act in haste.
One major point I noted recently after update on JHora software that all my planets have moved one house backwards. I mean Ju is now in 11H which in actual chart is in 12H. Similarly 4 planets present in 5H have moved to 4H. Ma was in my 2H, now on lagna/1H. Ra was in 11H has moved to 10H.
Is it that I seeing it wrong or something has happened in software?
Is it that I seeing it wrong or something has happened in software?
deeps ji,
I control myself, my speech & acts so strongly that I feel i am doing injustice with myself. Trust me, I can blow him off if I want. It is not allowed in US to abuse your wife & keep her dependent for money & shelter. He has signed agreement with government that he is responsible for my well being for 10 yrs.
I will certainly prove one day that tantrik rituals can never control me, only way to keep me is good behavior.
I control myself, my speech & acts so strongly that I feel i am doing injustice with myself. Trust me, I can blow him off if I want. It is not allowed in US to abuse your wife & keep her dependent for money & shelter. He has signed agreement with government that he is responsible for my well being for 10 yrs.
I will certainly prove one day that tantrik rituals can never control me, only way to keep me is good behavior.
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hi Saindhavi,
Hope u remember my post..
I am getting to meet some top level ppl in office in last 2 weeks....might get a good role ( but nothing in terms of money ) . I am libra lagna/aries moon person with a moderate chart i would say....but this is first positive step in the last 2 years .... hope something moves on for me..
Thanks
Hope u remember my post..
I am getting to meet some top level ppl in office in last 2 weeks....might get a good role ( but nothing in terms of money
) . I am libra lagna/aries moon person with a moderate chart i would say....but this is first positive step in the last 2 years .... hope something moves on for me..Thanks
Saindhavi wrote:Basab,
But you are not so bad looking - Venus is your ruler.
Well, with Jupiter as Aseem's ruler, he has to be attractive.
But I didn't really look at his planets.
I looked at his Facebook profile photo and said he was quite attractive. He does look pretty good in that photo - both pretty and good.
Saindhavi ji,
I know I am not bad looking, but that's not enough. I want to look like Aseem so that girls carry my bag and scream from the third floors of buildings, calling my name, like they did for Aseem.
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"Go thou and follow Him, who was born and gave His life for others five hundred times before He attained the vision of the Buddha!" -- Swami Vivekananda
Deeps,
Does it make one good looking or attractive? There is a difference between the two. Saindhavi ji also said you are attractive, but I wonder how Jupiter can make one attractive. It should make a person good looking. 
Does it make one good looking or attractive? There is a difference between the two.
Saindhavi ji also said you are attractive, but I wonder how Jupiter can make one attractive. It should make a person good looking. deeps wrote:Well, Martian people in fiery signs are always attractive I think.
"Go thou and follow Him, who was born and gave His life for others five hundred times before He attained the vision of the Buddha!" -- Swami Vivekananda
Thanks, Aseem.deeps wrote:Very well Said.This is why I always say remedies don't work. What is fated will happen. One can't change it. You have used your free will also, and you have seen you couldn't change your destiny. The wisest thing is to accept your destiny and move ahead.
"Go thou and follow Him, who was born and gave His life for others five hundred times before He attained the vision of the Buddha!" -- Swami Vivekananda
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deeps
I know I am not bad looking, but that's not enough. I want to look like Aseem so that girls carry my bag and scream from the third floor of buildings, calling my name, like they did for Aseem.
. Well man, you have the powerful chart than me. 10th Lord in own sign and conjunct with Rahu...This is too much!!!!...I think I will have to wait in a line to meet you 
Deeps,
You are right, I have Rahu-Moon in 10th house in Cancer, just like Mahatma Gandhi, so I should be that famous, but I am not so. Destiny has played a nasty trick with me. It has cheated me in a big way.
You are right, I have Rahu-Moon in 10th house in Cancer, just like Mahatma Gandhi, so I should be that famous, but I am not so. Destiny has played a nasty trick with me. It has cheated me in a big way.
"Go thou and follow Him, who was born and gave His life for others five hundred times before He attained the vision of the Buddha!" -- Swami Vivekananda
