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Ramanan ji,
Pariharas are not mere beliefs. There is much more to pariharas. Its a tantra. It is also acceptance and repentance.
I understand your point. And I repent a whole host of things practically every day. But willing acceptance or surrender is totally against my inherent nature. Never been able to do that. Maybe after the Lord kicks my rear end some more I'll come in line. lets see.

Another point is Rao ji, you, aliens ji and Sonu ji have given cheap to perform remedies totally free of cost to people and many have acknowledged that they worked. This is the first time I am experiencing this kind of thing - in the forum. My real life experience is totally different. In Kolkata (and throughout India) there are predatory jyotishis and tantriks laying in wait for the turmoiled and the distressed. They grab these people, make them do graha shanti yagnas costing thousands of rupees (if not lakhs) which does not work anyway. From watching these rascals I have developed this aversion towards remedial karmakand.

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Shubhra ji,

Ramanan ji and Astroboy has given an excellent suggestion. Please submit your daughter's birth details to the forum. We can check your daughter's chart to see whether she has any connections of being deprived of the company of her father. Kindly do this as soon as possible. And don't worry, the yoga for dissolution is not very strong in your chart. God willing everything will fall in place.

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Dear Swamykool

I understand your predicament and the rationale behind your not accepting pariharas. I also dont give pariharas to fight or appease a planet just like that, but make the person willingly accept the loss or strife in some other form so that the jarring music can be avoided.

Technically speaking pariharas must involve repentance and acceptance. Mere ritual is not sufficient. It makes no sense.the gods and planets would have seen millions of homas. If you had read what I had advised for shubraji for saturn you will appreciate that.

Once again Kudos to you for that excellent analysis.

Me and deepak were trying to see that problem in the light of the child's horoscope and there is definitely a ray of hope.

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Shubhra ji ,

I am 0 with Pariharas . My parihara is limited to feeding Stray dogs , saving frogs by providing a breeding ground for them , and Keeping water for animals to drink outside my house . The other remedy is to read the "Greatness of Saturn " By Robert Svoboda . Between these 2 remedies , I personally get along excellently . I feel what ever screw up's happen after that is all my own doing . The planets are not to be blamed . For superior and cheap remedies , Ramanan JI and Astrosonu ji get the first prize . But beyond every thing is my Guru Srinivas Ji's remedy . But for you to follow and do that, Is out of bounds and not possible by you . So his advice is out .

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Swamy Cool ji, daughter was born on 7-Nov-2007 at 15:51 hrs (3:51 PM) in Mumbai, Maharashtra, India.
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Dear Anuradha,

what is "the day" of Ketu is a question posed many a time on internet forums

see this for example

http://sawaal.ibibo.com/astrology/which ... 35930.html

That Ketu acts like Mars is well known.....makes me tilt towards Tuesday as his day.

the planting of neem sapling would help didn't know.....thanks.........that it will turn into a big-tree is when it will be a good remedy ! Slightly long period...don't you think?
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Madam , I never go by net references, I can give text book reference that Thursday is the day for Ketu, in a broad sense it is like Mars but not in exact sense , Ketu is a planet of detachment and Lord Ganeshji is the deity. Planting tree is also a balancing act for depleting environment. regards
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Swamy cool ji , Note the aspect of 12th lord Shani on the Ravi who is in Libra the 8th bhava .
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dear Deepak

Assuming the time to be right as this is a recent birth look at the dwadasamsa chart. It has Rahu in the 11th, Jupiter as 9th lord aspecting the 9th and 3 panchamahapurusha yogas of venus, mars and saturn. The dasa is of mars till 2015. This should see the parents through.

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Insha Allah . :) . I hope so too . Good looking D 12 chart I must say . I hate to stray beyond the D9 . But 4minutes / 2 minutes this way or that way for the lagna to shift , and the fact that the time given is not rounded off .......... You may have something there . I agree with you .
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Astroboy and Ramanan ji,

The whole of 2011 will be a bit troublesome. But the child's navamsha is strong. Sun exalted in the 7th giving full aspect to the 9th L mer in Lg. 9th L is digbali. 10th L in 10th (satisfies both N Indian and S Indian parameters). Though 10th L Moon is with Sat and Sat aspects Sun. But Shani is a friend of the LL and LL Ven is in the H of Shani. Same logic applies to Rahu-Ketu. I think she may tide through but the ride will be rough. Especially till end Nov 2011.

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Swamy cool Ji , Agreed . I hope her horoscope is strong enough to stem this Tsunami . :(
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dear swamy kool

once again i wud say ,an excellent analysis, if the birth time is on dot then the child's sashtiamsa shows the blessings of the lagna lord saturn exalted in the 9th (father), the yoga karaka venus in own house in the 4th (Mother). I agree with you that this year could be bit of trouble.

End of 2011 there should be light.

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So can we say ....... that we have analysed the horoscope from different directions and landed at one conclusion ?? That conclusion would be " Time will be extremely tough till the end of this year , Samir ji's conclusion that efforts will be futile till Guru enters Aries has a lot of logic . To sum it up , Divorce is not seen as of now at least .
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Dear Astroboy

I concur with you fully. Jupiter as well as rahu's transit will have a bearing. But rough weather till the 12th month of this year.

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Astroboy,

In transit Rahu from Mula (the child's Naidhana Nk fr moon) gives Nk vedha to her Sanghatika Nk (fr moon)Revati. And Shani from Hasta gives vedha to her Vainashika Nk Ardra (which has Mars). Good Thing is Jup is in Revati (Rahu-Jup aspects each other) and gives vedha to her Abhisheka Nk (fr Moon) Uttaraphalguni and Ven posited there. Jup gives Nk Vedha to both her Naidhana Nk from Lg and Moon - Mrigashira and Moola. Rahu moves to Jyeshtha on 03/05/2011 while Jup moves to Ashwini on 08/05/2011. This is good as Jup covers the full harmful period and then some. Shani moves in Sep 2011. But Shani is the Nk L of the Lg (uttarabhadrapada), lets see, but I am hopeful.

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Ramanan ji,

I am a bit wary of using the shodashavarga (same with anything beyond PD) because even small changes in birth time throws the chart haywire. But, the risk factor included, your analysis based on the dwadashamsh and shashthiamsh is indeed edifying. Lets hope BT is on the dot.

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Dear Swamykool

I ventured into D12 first and to D60 only on the basis that its a recent birth and now people have become a bit conscious in noting down the correct birthtime.

But i agree with you that it all depends on exact birth time.

I feel we can count atleast on D12. where there is a 2 min cushion.

Hope every thing gets fine.

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I have 2 mnths to save this marriage.
My only fault has been that when i get angry, i scream/shout my anger out but do not ever hold the grudge. May be that is hurting my husband. I will ensure that I sew my mouth.
Dear Shubra,

actually from a timing point of view it would be better to take a couple of months of break from each other, if logistics permit...to let things cool off.
Marriages don't break....and that too after 10 years only because of one person shouting and screaming and yet in her heart being so willing to stay on.

I hope you are not missing his persepctive on things.

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Shubhra ji,

Take up the job. With an unsupportive husband you need the support of a peer or friends group to see you through hard times. Also you need to seriously busy yourself with something to keep your mental peace. Sitting at home and thinking of all sorts of calamities will do you no good.

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Absolutely right . Swamy Cool Ji , could not have put it better . My advice , Get the job right away . You need it . It will divert your mind , keep you away from him , and best of all , you can earn money for your daughter . Good decision . You are keeping your head on your shoulders Thats fantastic .

May god bless you . Best of luck .
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Dear Astroboy, Swami Cool Ji, & Ramanan Ji,

You guys have done excellent job in analyzing and helping this lady.

God bless you all!

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