Sishya or kimahy ji help needed regarding sudden trouble in marriage

[Rajir84]

After 16 years of marriage I'm experiencing sudden change of attitude towards me by husband.
Our birth and marriage details are as below
Husband. DOB:9th April 1975
Tob:16:15pm,
Pob: Hyderabad
Myself DOB:25th March 1984
Tob:16:15pm,
POB: visakhapatnam
Date of marriage:24th june 2005 4:02am
Problems started in 2013 after his ketu Dasha began.
Only problem is every effort to set things right, there's a misunderstanding. We are settled abroad and bought our own house. Still a lot of arguments over petty things. Things are really nasty i can't even share with my family back home, not able to explain to our kids. It feels too much to take.

[Sishya]

Hi,

Below are a few observations that are relevant for your query and this thread:
1. For starters, please be reminded that Moon/Chandra, in your birth-chart is placed in Dhanur Rashi. Hence, you've been experiencing the effects of Sade-Sathi. You are currently in the last or final stage/phase of a very nasty Sade-Sathi - Saturn/Sahni-dev transit over natal Moon/Chandra. And, you are in the midst of your exalted or Uccha Rahu Maha-Dasha, placed in your 10th house of Karma-Sthana.
2. Your Sade-Sathi period coincided with your husband's (debilitated or Neecha) Ketu Maha-Dasha - has perhaps not been a favorable period, for your husband either. Please be informed your husband will start experiencing the effects of Sade-Sathi soon after you are done with yours, even as he changes Maha-Dasha to that of Venus/Shukra (wondering applicability of Kendradipathi Dosha, for Venus/Shakra, placed in his 10th house of Karma-Sthana).
3. Current transit of Rahu-Ketu over Vrishaba and Vrischika Rashis (their signs of exaltation or Uccha-Sthana) and over natal placements of Rahu-Ketu & Ketu-Rahu in your respective birth-charts is contributing to your situation. Wonder if it is a coincidence that both of you seem to have your Udaya Lagna placed in Simha Rashi - so, Rahu-Ketu are placed along the 4-10 axis, impacting the 4th house of Sukha-Sthana or Homely Comforts and 10th house of Karma-Sthana or Work-place.
4. Your husband has Venus/Shukra (representing wife) conjunct Ketu, while you have Mars/Kuja (apart from Jupiter/Guru, Mara/Kuja also represents husband) conjunct Ketu. The current Rahu-Ketu transit is not really helping.
5. Mars/Kuja in the 7th house of Kalathra-Sthana, in your husband's birth-chart is not preferable. In your birth-chart Venus/Shukra in the 7th house of Kalathra-Sthana, makes me wonder the applicability of "Karaka-Bhava-Nashaya" concept. Thereafter, I also wonder the impact of Parivartha Yoga of Venus/Shukra has with Saturn/Shani-dev and Rahu, in your birth-chart!?!

Given my understanding of the situation, it would make more sense for both of you (wife and husband) to understand the role of Grahas in the unfolding of Karma in your respective/combined lives.

If I may take the liberty, I'd suggest that you guys seek help and guidance from experienced/knowledgeable experts for suitable Vedic/Dharmic remedies. In the interim, special prayers to appease Saturn/Shani-dev and Rahu-Ketu might be helpful.

PS: Kindly bear with me, for the intent is not to scare you... but to help both of you understand and exercise patience and caution, as also have faith and trust in each other, when the sailing is rough.

Sincerely...

[Shivshankar]

Both time of birth are same. Coincidence? pl. confirm.
You saying "sudden" change but also saying the issues since 2013? Married life not smooth per the charts given.

[Sishya]

Hi,

By the way, I'm inclined to think both of you have endured a lot in the last few years. Things have probably got a little more challenging in over the past few months or last year. If true, things will probably continue to be challenging a few more months. Hence the suggestion to exercise patience, caution and trying to be calm (not getting into arguments).

Sincerely...

[tylorechandra]

It is possible that a physical illness which got triggered in Ketu dasa is a cause for this change of behaviour. The chart of the husband indicates such a possibility, Pl confirm if any physical discomfort exists in respect of husband.

TKC

[Pem]

Is it correct that both birthtimes are at 16:15 pm ?

[vedam33]

pem
Is astrologers forum not working

[Pem]

Vedam33
As you will notice, pending authorisation by Host.
I hope Admin will resolve it soon.

What are some of the other free Readings sites now available ?

[Rajir84]

Sishya wrote:
> Hi,
>
> Below are a few observations that are relevant for your query and this
> thread:
> 1. For starters, please be reminded that Moon/Chandra, in your birth-chart
> is placed in Dhanur Rashi. Hence, you've been experiencing the effects of
> Sade-Sathi. You are currently in the last or final stage/phase of a very
> nasty Sade-Sathi - Saturn/Sahni-dev transit over natal Moon/Chandra. And,
> you are in the midst of your exalted or Uccha Rahu Maha-Dasha, placed in
> your 10th house of Karma-Sthana.
> 2. Your Sade-Sathi period coincided with your husband's (debilitated or
> Neecha) Ketu Maha-Dasha - has perhaps not been a favorable period, for your
> husband either. Please be informed your husband will start experiencing the
> effects of Sade-Sathi soon after you are done with yours, even as he
> changes Maha-Dasha to that of Venus/Shukra (wondering applicability of
> Kendradipathi Dosha, for Venus/Shakra, placed in his 10th house of
> Karma-Sthana).
> 3. Current transit of Rahu-Ketu over Vrishaba and Vrischika Rashis (their
> signs of exaltation or Uccha-Sthana) and over natal placements of Rahu-Ketu
> & Ketu-Rahu in your respective birth-charts is contributing to your
> situation. Wonder if it is a coincidence that both of you seem to have your
> Udaya Lagna placed in Simha Rashi - so, Rahu-Ketu are placed along the 4-10
> axis, impacting the 4th house of Sukha-Sthana or Homely Comforts and 10th
> house of Karma-Sthana or Work-place.
> 4. Your husband has Venus/Shukra (representing wife) conjunct Ketu, while
> you have Mars/Kuja (apart from Jupiter/Guru, Mara/Kuja also represents
> husband) conjunct Ketu. The current Rahu-Ketu transit is not really
> helping.
> 5. Mars/Kuja in the 7th house of Kalathra-Sthana, in your husband's
> birth-chart is not preferable. In your birth-chart Venus/Shukra in the 7th
> house of Kalathra-Sthana, makes me wonder the applicability of
> "Karaka-Bhava-Nashaya" concept. Thereafter, I also wonder the
> impact of Parivartha Yoga of Venus/Shukra has with Saturn/Shani-dev and
> Rahu, in your birth-chart!?!
>
> Given my understanding of the situation, it would make more sense for both
> of you (wife and husband) to understand the role of Grahas in the unfolding
> of Karma in your respective/combined lives.
>
> If I may take the liberty, I'd suggest that you guys seek help and guidance
> from experienced/knowledgeable experts for suitable Vedic/Dharmic remedies.
> In the interim, special prayers to appease Saturn/Shani-dev and Rahu-Ketu
> might be helpful.
>
> [b][u]PS[/u][/b]: Kindly bear with me, for the intent is not to scare
> you... but to help both of you understand and exercise patience and
> caution, as also have faith and trust in each other, when the sailing is
> rough.
>
> Sincerely...
I agree that there's some unpleasant placement of Mars and Rahu- Ketu axis in our charts in the most contrasting way, the sailing has been rough since 2013 but the effect is profound only now, I don't need anything in this world more than my husband and his affection, he is the cold and stoic types I don't mind that anymore, but things got really ugly of late wondering what should I do, meaning should I wait for time to turn things around may be when his Venus period begins or should I expect the same to continue due to his Venus being conjunct with Ketu. I'm asking only to find out what to expect.

[Rajir84]

Shivshankar wrote:
> Both time of birth are same. Coincidence? pl. confirm.
Yes we both were born approximately 9 years apart around same time and lagna with complimenting planetary placements.
> You saying "sudden" change but also saying the issues since 2013?
Yes Sir, Change is sudden, turbulence has been there since 2013. Meaning he has been unlike himself since 2013 but now this is a complete 180 degree transformation in him, so wondering if there's a chance for 360 degree transformation.
> Married life not smooth per the charts given.
Our life together has been good, but we had quite a few challenges professionally and personally. As if GOD had each of us to back the other.
When my husband was hospitalised I was there with him and when I had an accident he was concerned for my wellbeing than his car and when I sank his money he said nothing, so together we have tided so many transforming challenges.

[Rajir84]

Pem wrote:
> Is it correct that both birthtimes are at 16:15 pm ?
Yes, both of us are born at the same time, same lagna around same telugu month just 9 yrs apart.

[Rajir84]

Sishya wrote:
> Hi,
>
> Below are a few observations that are relevant for your query and this
> thread:
> 1. For starters, please be reminded that Moon/Chandra, in your birth-chart
> is placed in Dhanur Rashi. Hence, you've been experiencing the effects of
> Sade-Sathi. You are currently in the last or final stage/phase of a very
> nasty Sade-Sathi - Saturn/Sahni-dev transit over natal Moon/Chandra. And,
> you are in the midst of your exalted or Uccha Rahu Maha-Dasha, placed in
> your 10th house of Karma-Sthana.
Agree this mahadasha has been good for me despite of my sade-sati for the kind of efforts I put in there's phenomenal improvement in material wellbeing.
> 2. Your Sade-Sathi period coincided with your husband's (debilitated or
> Neecha) Ketu Maha-Dasha - has perhaps not been a favorable period, for your
> husband either. Please be informed your husband will start experiencing the
> effects of Sade-Sathi soon after you are done with yours, even as he
> changes Maha-Dasha to that of Venus/Shukra (wondering applicability of
> Kendradipathi Dosha, for Venus/Shakra, placed in his 10th house of
> Karma-Sthana).
> 3. Current transit of Rahu-Ketu over Vrishaba and Vrischika Rashis (their
> signs of exaltation or Uccha-Sthana) and over natal placements of Rahu-Ketu
> & Ketu-Rahu in your respective birth-charts is contributing to your
> situation. Wonder if it is a coincidence that both of you seem to have your
> Udaya Lagna placed in Simha Rashi - so, Rahu-Ketu are placed along the 4-10
> axis, impacting the 4th house of Sukha-Sthana or Homely Comforts and 10th
> house of Karma-Sthana or Work-place.
> 4. Your husband has Venus/Shukra (representing wife) conjunct Ketu, while
> you have Mars/Kuja (apart from Jupiter/Guru, Mara/Kuja also represents
> husband) conjunct Ketu. The current Rahu-Ketu transit is not really
> helping.
> 5. Mars/Kuja in the 7th house of Kalathra-Sthana, in your husband's
> birth-chart is not preferable. In your birth-chart Venus/Shukra in the 7th
> house of Kalathra-Sthana, makes me wonder the applicability of
> "Karaka-Bhava-Nashaya" concept. Thereafter, I also wonder the
> impact of Parivartha Yoga of Venus/Shukra has with Saturn/Shani-dev and
> Rahu, in your birth-chart!?!
Agree probably its because of this I put to


Yes probably this results in me centering my world around my husband. My inlaws are good and my husband is very kind natured too.
>
> Given my understanding of the situation, it would make more sense for both
> of you (wife and husband) to understand the role of Grahas in the unfolding
> of Karma in your respective/combined lives.
>
> If I may take the liberty, I'd suggest that you guys seek help and guidance
> from experienced/knowledgeable experts for suitable Vedic/Dharmic remedies.
> In the interim, special prayers to appease Saturn/Shani-dev and Rahu-Ketu
> might be helpful.
We have done Rahu-Ketu japam in srikalahasti in 2009 and my dad has done ganapati homam at kanipakam for my husband at the beginning of ketu dasha in 2013.
>
> [b][u]PS[/u][/b]: Kindly bear with me, for the intent is not to scare
> you... but to help both of you understand and exercise patience and
> caution, as also have faith and trust in each other, when the sailing is
> rough.
Want to know can things improve in future or should I expect life to continue this way or is there any further worsening.

> Sincerely...

[Rajir84]

tylorechandra wrote:
> It is possible that a physical illness which got triggered in Ketu dasa is
> a cause for this change of behaviour. The chart of the husband indicates
> such a possibility, Pl confirm if any physical discomfort exists in respect
> of husband.
Yes my husband had a misdiagnosis in childhood and had his hip bone removed when he was a 9 year old. He also had arthritis condition due to his leg imbalance, but it got cured with simple ayurvedic remedies.