When relationship will improve or divorce

[vedicRaj]

Hi Kim,

More than astrology, let's tackle this from whats happening at a level we all can understand. This dude you married, and his family sound like absolute trash. No one should be treated the way you are, and if you're done, you should do what makes you happy, at least for your own self respect.

From you lagna, you are a scorpio rising, which is ruled by Mars, which is an important planet for you. Mars is conjunct Mercury. Looking at the true dignity of Mars (in the D9), Mars in an extremely strong position, in the 10th house, in the sign of Mercury, opposite to Mercury. You must have heated communication! You say things as they are, no sugarcoating, angry speech. Thats who you are! And thats amazing. If this family you married into prevents your Mars from being what it is, you're going to feel uneasy, without a doubt.

An ideal husband will need to embrace this, in order for you to feel at ease. Holding your tongue when angry is not doing you any good.

I haven't done a complete analysis for you, this is just whats screaming at me when looking at your chart. You entered your saturn mahadasha in 09-28-2002, so the last 17 years you have been completely in absorbed in this energy. We need to look at Saturn as the asc.

Saturn as the asc, you have Ketu in your 5th house of children. In addition, 5th house in this position, is ruled by Saturn! This could show why children have been delayed. Again, Saturn has a bad rep...he is ultimately a PROTECTOR, but does so by delaying, versus expanding like Jupiter.

My advice is, do you what you think is right! No one deserves to be degraded or belittled constantly. I get it...praradbha karma, we're going through it for a reason, but theres a line! Try marriage counseling, tell your husband how you feel and it's not working for you. He needs to step his game up!

Best of luck

[kim]

Hello Vedic Raj hi,

Thanks for the Analysis, Saturn mahadasha is for 19 years, so 2 more years i have to wait to be things to be in places?

waiting to hear more from you.

Thanks

[vedicRaj]

I'm assuming by "things to be in place", you are referring to your marriage. Saturn aspects your 7th house from itself. Saturn is also in a Nakshatra ruled by Sun, so your 7th house is being burned. Jupiter also aspects its own house, providing protection. Venus goes into the 12th, so it would indicate marriage/love is delayed during the Saturn Dasha. But thats bad analysis, I'm confirming astrology based on what you already told me.

Mercury (lasting 17 years) starts 09 2021. So lets look at your chart from Mercury. Mercury is conjunct Mars, and Mars aspects in own sign, so won't hurt it. Mercury is in Libra, and its ruler, Venus, moves into the 11th house. 11th house is the house of luck and gains.

Mercury in your D9 is in the 4th house, in the highest of dharma sign, and it is ruled by Jupiter, which is in the 5th house of children, speculative gains. So Mercury is definitely in a better position than Saturn in the D9 (Navamsha). Venus goes into the 8th house (im looking at venus, because it rules Libra, which is your asc from Mercury, in the D1). 8th house is all about sudden ups and downs, and transformation.

Looking at Mercury as the asc in your D9, Venus goes into the 5th house of children. A much better position for children than you looking at D9 from Saturn (4th house is in cancer, ruled by Moon, Moon goes in your 12th house).

These Karmas need not have to manifest with your current husband. Mercury is a long period. You should do what you feel is right, is what I want to get across, putting Astrology aside.

[kim]

hello VedicRaj,

So after studding my kundle, you suggest separation is better option, and my good time will come only after 2 years sept 2021. Till that time its difficult, i have already suffered for 17 years and i cannot take it more, is there any remedy or some mantra which can help.

Actually i still love my husband and wants some improvement or some changes in him and is it possible if he moves out from his parents home, situation can be improved.

please hep me .

[vedicRaj]

Hi Kim,

I definitely am not recommending anything. If you love your husband, you should try to make things work! You don't need astrology for this.

Yes, Mercury is a better period for relationships in general, so just a few more rocky years, until things get better. This is my interpretation, definitely take advise from others on the forum as well, as I may have missed something.

Best of luck!

[kim]

Thank you VedicRaj ji
for sparing time and giving details analysis, i am trying to make it work, but nothing is working out as his parents is main purpose for our problem, so i have suggest to separate out from there but to take apartment nearby but he does not agrees for any solutions. i am not getting what should i do. one of my uncle is getting involved to solve this but still no use.

2 more of rocky years is really long time after suffering for 17 years .

Thanks a lot

[kim]

Lex sir if you can also give your valuable inputs, it will be really helpful.

[kim]

Experts please give your input also, thanks in advance

[kim]

Hi vedam33,

Yes its my 2nd marriage, can you please respond to my queries.

Thanks

[kim]

hello Vedam33,

Please respond, waiting for your reply.

thanks

[kim]

Lex sir if you can also give your valuable inputs, it will be really helpful.
others also please give your valuable inputs.

thanks

[kim]

Experts please give your valuable inputs, it will be really helpful.

[kim]

Experts please give your valuable inputs, it will be really helpful.

[kim]

Lex sir,

My birthdate: 01-oct-1980 - 10:42 am - Chinchwad, Pune, Maharashtra
Husband: 10-sep-1980 -10:45 am - Ahmednagar, Maharashtra
Marraige - 12-Feb-2012, Pune, Maharashtra
i was separated from him for six months till oct 2018, i returned back everything was going ok till feb 2019, again he started behaving improper and his parents gives bad words to me.

Again i have left his house on 7sept 2019, i am at my parents place.

My parents and relatives have requested him to take separate house where we both can stay without interference of his parents and his sister. but he does not agree.

Is he going to move out from his parents place and will our relation improve after that.

Thanks

[vedam33]

Sorry for delay busy with personal issues will respond shortly

[kim]

vedam33 sir,

my 1st marriage date is 12-jun-2006 and
divorce -jun2007 don't remember the exact month.
my first marriage ended as he had affair and he continued after marriage.

Thanks

[sammyho148]

Kim,

There are some fundamental problems in the chart -

7th Lord Venus is in barren sign Leo in Ketu nakshatra with no benefic aspects. Ketu receives 4th aspect of Mars who lords over 1st and 6th bhavas
7th bhava gets 8th aspect of Mars who is with malefic 8th lord mercury in the 12th. Mars is also the 1st and 6th lord and is prime malefic in causing marital separation
Seen from Upapada Lagna the second sign has malefic Rahu with no benefic aspects, presence of malefic in the 2nd from UL questions the continuity of marriage
The natural karaka for husband in a female chart is Jupiter who is debilitated in D9, also exchanges signs with Saturn thereby spoiling Saturn too. Jupiter also is 7th lord from Moon and darakaraka in chart, aggravating problems further

Current dasa under operation is Saturn MD, Saturn is with Jupiter in Virgo, during his MD he has given the complete brunt of the totally afflicted Jupiter.

My suggestion would be to take a decision based on what makes sense on the ground. At best you can hope for a mixed period where marriage may feel tolerable, but nothing more than that.

[vedam33]

Lot of issues seen in your chart ,moon and mars connection in your chart shows your husband having multiple relationships.so due to that reason you might divorce and marry again .in your case sat is with sun and also aspecting moon .venus to sun distance is almost 43 degrees.7th house got spoiled and also 12th house .at present you are running jup antardasa which will be there up to 2020 jul ,so upto that period lot of misunderstandings ,worries ,etc will be there .happiness from marraige will be very less so think over ?

[vedam33]

In your husband chart venus is with rahu ,it shows extra marital relationships,sat is with moon and aspecting sun in navamsa venus to sun distance is more than 43 degrees ,so happiness from marraige less.he is also running jup antardasa dasa from 2018 may till 2020 jul ,so lot of misunderstandings etc is there till Jul 2020 tough .
Hope for best .

[kim]

hi Vedam33,

i had added several post but it got auto disapproved.
I don't deserve happiness? why i am suffering so much. Till Jul 2020, means almost 9-10 months, i am really feed up of my life. and also predication says i am might be divorced, i don't know what to do next.

please give me some mantra or please help me, i don't want to go for divorce, only if he separate outs from his parents i am ready to adjust with him, please guide me on this.

Thanks

[vedam33]

I don’t have idea about remedies and I believe in karma only sorry