You have to let everyone know what is happening in your home slowly slowly do not wait him to show his devil side to them that will never happen, have to start using brains more than being emotional and than using ur heart. Even if you give signs that I am not safe to neighbours that's enough.
1. Use small cameras inside wrh u think he can't reach.
2. Download smart safe & sound panic app and there r several other app which u can download which records with just one click and with higher sound made. Try this one first.
3. Complain to police don't hesitate in all these yrs I wonder why haven't you. Abroad rules r more strict for D.v. than infka
4. Self defence yourself if you can't do other things in whatever you feel will make you protected either by raising your voice or showing some thing to him that can scare him.
5. Why don't u go classes with the kids to learn some self defence while he's away?
See until you break his trapping boundaries by small small ways possible for u, his flow of violence will always be in full mode.
And you have more two years to go you have to do something.
Is divorce a possibility ?
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Hi Kaalika….kaalika wrote: 12 Jun 2019 Namaste. I have been married for the past 6 years. My marriage has been very traumatic as my husband is abusive and I have suffered a lot of domestic violence from him. I want to divorce him but I am stuck in the marriage because of my children. He threatens to take the children away from me.
Can you please tell me if I will be able to get a divorce and when it will happen ?
Kaalika
As I began to Populate your chart, very rare kind.. in the Heaven's map at the latitude.. Udaya lagna today Chandra, just on the cups of Simha & Virgo and in Uttaraphalguni nk and in sub of Rahu ( today Rahu in Budha's sign, represents Ravi, Kuja, Shani,Budha, Guru, Chandra)… and your query justified seeking for divorce, today Chandra in Moola nk ( and in conjunction with Ketu and Shani, gets aspect from Ravi, Rahu,Budha, Kuja).. therefore your lagna sputa cusp and Chandra has to be connected with most of the planets as above in aspect or sub or in nakshtra etc)
There it is Chandra in Anuradha nk and in sub of Rahu in subsub of Guru.... Your Janma nakshtra is Anuraddha nk
Your lagna also falls in Vrischika and connected to Budha and Ketu
7th cusp longitudinal depositions analysis... connected to lagna and eighth/10th bhava
I'm sorry to say.. your marriage or married life will not be pleasant or cannot be enjoyed by you in your 1st legitimate marriage.
lets check 5th cusp longitudinal depositions... You had multiple relationships prior to marriage and miserably failed ?????
You been abused by your parter.. is it true ? Lets check
7thcusp longitudinal depsoition analysis... relationship of 9th cusp lord and your 2nd/4th cusp lord been severly afflicted
Kuja your lagna lord in eighth in nirayana rasi but in 7th bhava... for your partner becomes 7th, 11th and 12th lord.. been affected at your lagna cusp... Kuja does shows abusive power ( your ego too for him), and partner will demonstrate physical thing too and physical hits additional, emotionally you cannot sustain both the things. You break into emotion.????
Give me feedback on ???? marked items...., than I will move forward on your query
Dear Lex ji,
Thank you for analyzing my chart. Here are the answers to you points :-
1) I had only 1 relationship before marriage. It was never physical however I was very emotionally involved in that relationship. I truly loved him a lot. He wanted a physial relationship and when I refused he broke up with me. I was devastated and it took me almost 2 years to get over the breakup. I then got married to my husband 4 years after my breakup.
2) my husband is very abusive. He hits me regularly and curses me. He uses such horrible words for me that I would never use even for a roadside prostitute.
Its terrible because my older child is now almost 4 years and has started understanding what is happening and being said. His behavior is harming my children’s psychology.
3) yes, I am very emotional by nature. When my husband abuses and hits me, I am unable to respond. I feel helpless and this makes me even more upset and I cry a lot. Because thats all i can do there is no other way for me to express my pain.
I have now reached a stage where I dont want to save the marriage. There is nothing left to save. I just want to get out of this relationship so that I can live in peace and give my children a happy and peaceful life. They dont deserve to watch this nonsense everyday and I dont want to suffer like this anymore
Regards,
Kaalika
Thank you for analyzing my chart. Here are the answers to you points :-
1) I had only 1 relationship before marriage. It was never physical however I was very emotionally involved in that relationship. I truly loved him a lot. He wanted a physial relationship and when I refused he broke up with me. I was devastated and it took me almost 2 years to get over the breakup. I then got married to my husband 4 years after my breakup.
2) my husband is very abusive. He hits me regularly and curses me. He uses such horrible words for me that I would never use even for a roadside prostitute.
Its terrible because my older child is now almost 4 years and has started understanding what is happening and being said. His behavior is harming my children’s psychology.
3) yes, I am very emotional by nature. When my husband abuses and hits me, I am unable to respond. I feel helpless and this makes me even more upset and I cry a lot. Because thats all i can do there is no other way for me to express my pain.
I have now reached a stage where I dont want to save the marriage. There is nothing left to save. I just want to get out of this relationship so that I can live in peace and give my children a happy and peaceful life. They dont deserve to watch this nonsense everyday and I dont want to suffer like this anymore
Regards,
Kaalika
Its a start ...
It is sad to hear this is happening to you. Not to mention in USA.
So I suggest that you call 911. If you have any bruises/marks on your body from the abuse take pictures and save those in your emails or in your friends phone etc. Show this to the authorities.
Go to the local divorce lawyer. Tell them the TRUTH. No need to be “ Indian sati savitri” and hide about your husband from your family/relatives either. You have to stop saying that all you can do is cry. That is not true.
Are you working in the States?
Your husband’s citizenship can be revoked if he is behaving this way. US can still ask him to pack his abusive a** and go back to wherever he came from.
USA laws DOES NOT give the child to your husband , just because he is the citizen. In fact, they will take the child away from him. US laws are geared to protect their children!!!
It is hard but you need to go in a methodical way and protect yourself and your child.
So I suggest that you call 911. If you have any bruises/marks on your body from the abuse take pictures and save those in your emails or in your friends phone etc. Show this to the authorities.
Go to the local divorce lawyer. Tell them the TRUTH. No need to be “ Indian sati savitri” and hide about your husband from your family/relatives either. You have to stop saying that all you can do is cry. That is not true.
Are you working in the States?
Your husband’s citizenship can be revoked if he is behaving this way. US can still ask him to pack his abusive a** and go back to wherever he came from.
USA laws DOES NOT give the child to your husband , just because he is the citizen. In fact, they will take the child away from him. US laws are geared to protect their children!!!
It is hard but you need to go in a methodical way and protect yourself and your child.
Hi Kaalika..
Thanks for the feedback.
A thumb rule...multiple relations failure also corrupts the first legitimate marriage gets into disaster.
Though, you had stated you had only one relationship failure, which I accept, but still my mathematical analysis says you had Pluralities of relationship failures.
Your dasa-bhukti- Antara- Sookshma… at this juncture
Shukra- Rahu- Rahu- Rahu resply
Your Shukra in K.P. Chart is 7th, 11th and 12th cusp lord...and Shukra in Simha sign but in 9th Chandra's bhava lordship. Your Ravi doesn't lord 10th as like in traditional, Ravi is only sign lord, but a co lord of 9th bhava
Till Rahu gets over... you will be with him... you will be continuously abused by your legal partner in overseas, as Kuja in 8th but in 7th bhava, and in rapt conjunction with 8th cusp... more of 8th bhava results.. Kuja is also 5th, 6th and lagna lord
Rahu antara gets over Nov 2019
..contd
Thanks for the feedback.
A thumb rule...multiple relations failure also corrupts the first legitimate marriage gets into disaster.
Though, you had stated you had only one relationship failure, which I accept, but still my mathematical analysis says you had Pluralities of relationship failures.
Your dasa-bhukti- Antara- Sookshma… at this juncture
Shukra- Rahu- Rahu- Rahu resply
Your Shukra in K.P. Chart is 7th, 11th and 12th cusp lord...and Shukra in Simha sign but in 9th Chandra's bhava lordship. Your Ravi doesn't lord 10th as like in traditional, Ravi is only sign lord, but a co lord of 9th bhava
Till Rahu gets over... you will be with him... you will be continuously abused by your legal partner in overseas, as Kuja in 8th but in 7th bhava, and in rapt conjunction with 8th cusp... more of 8th bhava results.. Kuja is also 5th, 6th and lagna lord
Rahu antara gets over Nov 2019
..contd
Hi Kaaalika….
We will have conversations through Private messages... we can minimize intrusions in the thread.
When we have conversations through Private, clarity you may get through K.P. System.
If you' re ok through Pvt message.. let me know I will open my Private message, right now I have opted out, unnecessary emails/ pvt messages, I dislike
You have to say yes... than I will open my Pvt message, till than I have kept in abeyance my analysis.. for intrusions happening.
We will have conversations through Private messages... we can minimize intrusions in the thread.
When we have conversations through Private, clarity you may get through K.P. System.
If you' re ok through Pvt message.. let me know I will open my Private message, right now I have opted out, unnecessary emails/ pvt messages, I dislike
You have to say yes... than I will open my Pvt message, till than I have kept in abeyance my analysis.. for intrusions happening.
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He has just trapped her and poisoning her mind to believe what he's saying. I've been through same, I know how decision making would be a task in such situations,mind sees what the abuser is showing. So until she's out or take some outside help or keep talking to someone even parents or neighbours she would never be able to feel the trap.
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what a joke such people make of astrology. see vedam33 answers
first time is before jan 2021...starting when? now?
periof between jan 21 to dec 21
then chances are more after jan 2021. So how much? 60%? 80%?
so basically answer is anytime from now till dec 2021. is this prediction? Kalika, I am sorry to hear your situation, but dont make it worse listening to such vague astrologers bcoz u will only be more confused.
first time is before jan 2021...starting when? now?
periof between jan 21 to dec 21
then chances are more after jan 2021. So how much? 60%? 80%?
so basically answer is anytime from now till dec 2021. is this prediction? Kalika, I am sorry to hear your situation, but dont make it worse listening to such vague astrologers bcoz u will only be more confused.
SunLight wrote: 17 Jun 2019 It is sad to hear this is happening to you. Not to mention in USA.
So I suggest that you call 911. If you have any bruises/marks on your body from the abuse take pictures and save those in your emails or in your friends phone etc. Show this to the authorities.
Go to the local divorce lawyer. Tell them the TRUTH. No need to be “ Indian sati savitri” and hide about your husband from your family/relatives either. You have to stop saying that all you can do is cry. That is not true.
Are you working in the States?
Your husband’s citizenship can be revoked if he is behaving this way. US can still ask him to pack his abusive a** and go back to wherever he came from.
USA laws DOES NOT give the child to your husband , just because he is the citizen. In fact, they will take the child away from him. US laws are geared to protect their children!!!
It is hard but you need to go in a methodical way and protect yourself and your child.
Dear Sunlight ji,
Thank you for your support. I am trying to find a good lawyer who can help in this matter. Problem is everyone asks for proof and I have no proof.. how do i prove that he is hitting me when the only one in the house seeing it are me and my little children.
So far, i have not told our relatives anything but i probably should.
Regards,
Kaalika
Its a start ...
Dear Lex ji,Lex wrote: 17 Jun 2019 Hi Kaaalika….
We will have conversations through Private messages... we can minimize intrusions in the thread.
When we have conversations through Private, clarity you may get through K.P. System.
If you' re ok through Pvt message.. let me know I will open my Private message, right now I have opted out, unnecessary emails/ pvt messages, I dislike
You have to say yes... than I will open my Pvt message, till than I have kept in abeyance my analysis.. for intrusions happening.
Yes, i would appreciate it very much of we can chat on private message. Please kindly open your pm and let me know so that I may write to you there
Thanks,
Kaalika
Its a start ...
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vedam33 wrote:
> In astrology there will not be any percentages it will be period only
means period is from now till end of 2021, means 2.5 years. ( lol)
vedam33 wrote:
> Chances more after 2021 jan
What u mean by chances ?
> In astrology there will not be any percentages it will be period only
means period is from now till end of 2021, means 2.5 years. ( lol)
vedam33 wrote:
> Chances more after 2021 jan
What u mean by chances ?
