will i marry my cousin..??

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vishwa1100
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hello... thanks for reading :) In recent months Im interested in my cousin.. she is very pretty ... but 1 problem here is she is older than me... will i be able to marry my relative ... does my chart indicate that..?? will i marry a girl older than me...??? plz help me... DOB 22-12-1994 4.44 am kovilpatti some1 reading this post plz help me........ Thank u :)
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Dev
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what do you mean by cousin, what sort of relation?
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vishwa1100
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My aunt's daughter :) kindly help me...
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Hello Vishwa
Are you a clever boy, at 19 - studying well and emotionally mature ?
First tackle the aunt - cos she might show you the broomstick :)
What is the age of the pretty girl ?
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vishwa1100
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thanks Pem... I dont think im very clever coz.. i dont use it to the maximum.. even though iam clever :) I have negative frame of mind which ruins my cleverness entirely lol... but im very emotional... which is 200 % true ... my aunt is d problem k ill take care... but d problem is i hav not spoke abt this to the girl herself ... we r nt lovers as of now.. but i assume that my horoscope readings predict that i ll marry her after falling in love :) the reason i say this is our charts says it all.. I have venus in 12th house libra with rahu venus being d 7 and 12th lord is in 12... many astrologers predict i ll marry a girl who is my relative as d same for her..all d predictions for my wife in my chart also matches with her.. so i guess we both would marry :P .... match making is also good as i it is around 9/10 .. but she is 22 years old and does not have an idea like this...but it goes really well between both of us as we have not fought even once in any circumstances b4... i just want to know whether this would happen or not... thank u so much for reading
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Hello Vishwa
This is a not a real situation and you are imagining a lot and it could be like
a dream.
It is advisable to have a partner who is somewhat younger, which is better on
the long run.
There are many other pretty girls around for you to concentrate on when
the time is due, after first concentrating on your education for earning in
order to support a family and take on responsibility.
You need to speak to her of your admiration and interest in her and see
what she has to say. Then come to the forum for guidance with her time
of birth details, with her permission. It is also better to speak to parents on both sides
about all this and see what they have to say and get their blessings.
If it is compatible you have hope or, you must be ready to forget it and carry on with your life wisely.

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vishwa1100
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k i get u ... thank u so much .... can u plz tell me will i only marry a girl who is my relative... coz that made me think like this... anyways thank u so much....
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Vishwa

My advice is that please don't ask for confirmation of such things..
One thing is astrology is only a prediction and does not guarantee 100% that the prediction will happen,
Second thing is If anyone says yes, then that will have a strong impact on your mind and what if that girl says no in future.. You will become dejected and there are chances that those emotions may turn into vengeance.
Third thing is that don't spoil your reputation by asking such a thing to her. I don't think she will accept your proposal.. Even if she is ok, her parents may become the greatest hurdle for your marriage and may get her married to someone soon.
You are now 19.. You still have years for love and marriage.. First make your foundation strong after that deploy your love, family everything on it.. Stop thinking about this for atleast 3 years. After settling in life, if she is unmarried then speak to her about your love. If she tells ok, go for it.

What i would say is that marrying a girl 4 years older does not lead you to a successful marital life.. Dont give stupid example like sachin's wife is 3 yrs older than him etc.

You will get what you are supposed to get..

Its upto you to decide now.. Whether your career or love..?? You can get pretty girl once if you settle in life but you wont get your career back if you lose it now..
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thank u so much :)
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If aunt is your mother's sister, then she is considered equal to your sister. If it is so, don't ever marry her. Treat her as your sister. Otherwise, you will be mocked at by society and it is a grave sin.
If you meant something else, clarify.
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If she is your maternal aunt's daughter, then she is your sister.. Drop your idea right now... Marrying her is an offense according to Hindu Marriage Act even if you both love each other and the law cannot help you if you are forcefully separated by your parents...
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Im sry ... she is not my mother's sisters daughter... She is my father's sisters daughter... and i think i can marry her... the 1ly problem is she is older to me... will this happen ...??
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Vishwa,


I don't know what makes you to think about marrying her at this age.??
I already told you to concentrate on your studies, first get settled in a good job and then think about this..
Being a daughter of your paternal aunt doesn't help you to get married to her.
Lot of things are there before getting married. No one would like to get their daughter married to a person without a good job and also 5 years younger. Moreover according to Hindu Marriage Act minimum age for men to get married is 21. So you can't even think of marriage for atleast 4 years. Don't waste your time here. If at all you want to marry her first let her know about your love. If she accepts it go and convince her parents and then move forward.
Getting a confirmation from an astrologer also not going to help you in anyway. GOD has already selected life partner for you. If she is the one, you will marry her definitely. So try concentrating on your studies as of now.



AND END THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE.........



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Marrying Paternal / Maternal relatives can be the cause of some Diseases which are attached in DNA ,
so it is better to be away from this ... As If some part of dna is presenting some disease , it is more chance that your relative has same pattern and By mixing both of these dna , there can be child who is having that disease or can develop disease ...

If your father / mother is not having disease don't mean that that can't be developed ...
As this can be higher chance of mixing dna which is same in both dna ... disease can be there ...
better avoid it , choose someone who is not closed to family ...

One disease is thalassemia which comes ... It is just example there are lots of others ...

Thanks , This can be just Hormonal thing which gives Attraction at this age :)
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I dont think we can marry fathers sisters children(boy/girl) as per Hindu marrige system.
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