Hi,
Now and then, me and my husband are having quarrel. Not much happiness in life. Many misunderstandings are happening. Any astrological remedies will be helpful.
My zodiac: Scorpio- vrichiga
My husband's: Leo-uthiram 1st padam.
Facing problems in my marriage life
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Hello all,
I am writing this post with a heavy heart. I am in a toxic marital life. Day by day, my husband became very aggressive. I am facing physical and verbal abuses a lot. He is not at all affectionate. No physical intimacy between us since few years. I am clueless of his change in attitude. My parents also worried about his behaviour.. Since no harmony in my marital life, I couldn't focus on my house hold work and on my 2 kids. Sometimes getting suicidal thoughts also because of my husband. We live under the same roof for name sake. He avoided talking to me. He will not look at me also. What could be the cause of this? Where will this lead to? I want to live a happy and pleasant life with my husband and children. Please help me.
My dob: March 18,1990
9.30 am, Kovilpatti, Tamil Nadu
Scorpio- Kettai star
My husband: June 7,1984
7.30 am, Vattalkundu, Tamilnadu
Leo - Uthiram 1 padam.
I am writing this post with a heavy heart. I am in a toxic marital life. Day by day, my husband became very aggressive. I am facing physical and verbal abuses a lot. He is not at all affectionate. No physical intimacy between us since few years. I am clueless of his change in attitude. My parents also worried about his behaviour.. Since no harmony in my marital life, I couldn't focus on my house hold work and on my 2 kids. Sometimes getting suicidal thoughts also because of my husband. We live under the same roof for name sake. He avoided talking to me. He will not look at me also. What could be the cause of this? Where will this lead to? I want to live a happy and pleasant life with my husband and children. Please help me.
My dob: March 18,1990
9.30 am, Kovilpatti, Tamil Nadu
Scorpio- Kettai star
My husband: June 7,1984
7.30 am, Vattalkundu, Tamilnadu
Leo - Uthiram 1 padam.
Hi,
I'm not quite sure how I might have missed this thread and your query. I accidentally looked up this thread today and hence the delayed post - request you to kindly bear with me and feel free to ignore anything that is not to your taste and/or liking.
In the male/husband's birth-chart:
1. Ascendent or Udaya Lagna is placed in Zodiac sign of Gemini or Mithuna Rashi and posited in the Lunar Constellation of Aradra Nakshatra, ruled by Rahu - who is powerfully placed in the 12th house of Vrishaba Rashi, afflicting the 12th house, 12th lord Venus/Shukra, Lagna Lord Mercury/Budha and Sun/Ravi.
2. Lagna Lord is placed in the 12th and badly afflicted house of Vrishaba Rashi is not preferable - nor the fact that he has below par Vimsopaka Bala in Dasha Varga. Sun/Ravi is neither happy nor comfortable being placed in the 12th house for related significance.
3. Current Maha-Dasha is that of Rahu. He has a strong foot-print and undeniable influence on the native - included twisted thoughts, unqualified fears etc. Incidentally, he is placed close to Mrityu Bagha and within the fatal Trimsamsa degree. Thankfully, native will transition over to Jupiter/Guru-dev's Maha-Dasha at the end of October 2024, although the 12th house and celestials there-in will continue to be active indirectly.
4. Moon/Chandra seems to be caught in the middle of nowhere, with little support on either side of the flanks, making the native a bit of a lonesome person, with few friends and limited social life. There is a good chance of his mind often running wild or wandering aimlessly.
5. Last but not the least, the close conjunction of top class and heavy-weight malefics Saturn/Shani-dev being posited in the Lunar Constellation of Swati Nakshatra, ruled by Rahu would have contributed to uncontrollable anger issues, temper/tantrum... to the extent of the native not being himself (more like a dual personality).
I'm hoping age and upcoming Maha-Dasha of 7th lord Jupiter/Guru-dev would bring about some maturity and calmness - although upcoming transit of Saturn/Shani-dev across 8th house from natal placement of Moon/Chandra will test spousal relationship.
In the female/wife's birth-chart:
1. Ascendent or Udaya Lagna is placed in Zodiac sign of Aries or Mesha Rashi and posited in the Lunar Constellation of Bharani Nakshatra, ruled by current Maha-Dasha Venus/Shukra - who seems to be caught between a powerfully placed Lagna lord Mars/Kuja and Rahu, in the 10th house of Karma-Sthana.
2. Moon/Chandra is neither happy nor comfortable being placed in the 8th house of Randra-Sthana. To make matters worse, it also happens to be his Neecha-Sthana or sign of debilitation. In other words, the native is a bit over-sensitive and has a weak mind.
3. Sun/Ravi, the 5th lord and Jupiter/Guru-dev, the 9th lord being placed in the 12th house and 3rd houses respectively, where they are neither happy nor comfortable is not a good sign. They are detrimental to related significance.
4. The close conjunction of Uccha or exalted Lagna lord Mars/Kuja and Rahu in the 10th house is an indication of inherent anger/temper issues.
5. Mercury/Budha, being placed in his Neecha-Sthana or sign of debilitation is not helping the native's cause... an indication of the native not being intelligent or not being verbally apt in dealing with situations.
Affliction to 5th lord/house related significance seems to stand out in both charts...as also the fact that both have anger/temper issues, with husband perhaps getting physical and the wife resorts to verbal ways of countering. So, the real need of the hour is for both husband and wife to realize the inclinations of celestials to dispense their respective Karma, consider seeking help/guidance from well-trained/qualified professionals for relationship counselling.
Sincerely...
I'm not quite sure how I might have missed this thread and your query. I accidentally looked up this thread today and hence the delayed post - request you to kindly bear with me and feel free to ignore anything that is not to your taste and/or liking.
In the male/husband's birth-chart:
1. Ascendent or Udaya Lagna is placed in Zodiac sign of Gemini or Mithuna Rashi and posited in the Lunar Constellation of Aradra Nakshatra, ruled by Rahu - who is powerfully placed in the 12th house of Vrishaba Rashi, afflicting the 12th house, 12th lord Venus/Shukra, Lagna Lord Mercury/Budha and Sun/Ravi.
2. Lagna Lord is placed in the 12th and badly afflicted house of Vrishaba Rashi is not preferable - nor the fact that he has below par Vimsopaka Bala in Dasha Varga. Sun/Ravi is neither happy nor comfortable being placed in the 12th house for related significance.
3. Current Maha-Dasha is that of Rahu. He has a strong foot-print and undeniable influence on the native - included twisted thoughts, unqualified fears etc. Incidentally, he is placed close to Mrityu Bagha and within the fatal Trimsamsa degree. Thankfully, native will transition over to Jupiter/Guru-dev's Maha-Dasha at the end of October 2024, although the 12th house and celestials there-in will continue to be active indirectly.
4. Moon/Chandra seems to be caught in the middle of nowhere, with little support on either side of the flanks, making the native a bit of a lonesome person, with few friends and limited social life. There is a good chance of his mind often running wild or wandering aimlessly.
5. Last but not the least, the close conjunction of top class and heavy-weight malefics Saturn/Shani-dev being posited in the Lunar Constellation of Swati Nakshatra, ruled by Rahu would have contributed to uncontrollable anger issues, temper/tantrum... to the extent of the native not being himself (more like a dual personality).
I'm hoping age and upcoming Maha-Dasha of 7th lord Jupiter/Guru-dev would bring about some maturity and calmness - although upcoming transit of Saturn/Shani-dev across 8th house from natal placement of Moon/Chandra will test spousal relationship.
In the female/wife's birth-chart:
1. Ascendent or Udaya Lagna is placed in Zodiac sign of Aries or Mesha Rashi and posited in the Lunar Constellation of Bharani Nakshatra, ruled by current Maha-Dasha Venus/Shukra - who seems to be caught between a powerfully placed Lagna lord Mars/Kuja and Rahu, in the 10th house of Karma-Sthana.
2. Moon/Chandra is neither happy nor comfortable being placed in the 8th house of Randra-Sthana. To make matters worse, it also happens to be his Neecha-Sthana or sign of debilitation. In other words, the native is a bit over-sensitive and has a weak mind.
3. Sun/Ravi, the 5th lord and Jupiter/Guru-dev, the 9th lord being placed in the 12th house and 3rd houses respectively, where they are neither happy nor comfortable is not a good sign. They are detrimental to related significance.
4. The close conjunction of Uccha or exalted Lagna lord Mars/Kuja and Rahu in the 10th house is an indication of inherent anger/temper issues.
5. Mercury/Budha, being placed in his Neecha-Sthana or sign of debilitation is not helping the native's cause... an indication of the native not being intelligent or not being verbally apt in dealing with situations.
Affliction to 5th lord/house related significance seems to stand out in both charts...as also the fact that both have anger/temper issues, with husband perhaps getting physical and the wife resorts to verbal ways of countering. So, the real need of the hour is for both husband and wife to realize the inclinations of celestials to dispense their respective Karma, consider seeking help/guidance from well-trained/qualified professionals for relationship counselling.
Sincerely...
Hello,
I am sorry to post under this topic as I couldn't post a new topic somehow.
Details:
Self - DOB: 10th Feb 1985, 7:20 AM, Anantapur, India
Spouse - 25th Aug 1982, 10:35 AM, Hyderabad, India
This is second marriage for both of us, we have been married for 4 years. He has been abusive right from the beginning. Happens every fortnight for sure. His mum is here with us for a few months, and she is extremely moody, and her impulses go to blaming me for everything her son does. I know that my Jupiter is debilitated in the 12th house, and I will not have a respectful relationship with my spouse. But this abuse and disrespect are completely from unknown quarters. I have changed so much that what used to be impulsive person, I have turned into someone who is not able to even express her hurt and anger. What can I do to make this better?
I am sorry to post under this topic as I couldn't post a new topic somehow.
Details:
Self - DOB: 10th Feb 1985, 7:20 AM, Anantapur, India
Spouse - 25th Aug 1982, 10:35 AM, Hyderabad, India
This is second marriage for both of us, we have been married for 4 years. He has been abusive right from the beginning. Happens every fortnight for sure. His mum is here with us for a few months, and she is extremely moody, and her impulses go to blaming me for everything her son does. I know that my Jupiter is debilitated in the 12th house, and I will not have a respectful relationship with my spouse. But this abuse and disrespect are completely from unknown quarters. I have changed so much that what used to be impulsive person, I have turned into someone who is not able to even express her hurt and anger. What can I do to make this better?
Hello cr001199,
You're understanding about debilitated Jupiter is correct and there is one more factor causing stress in marriage is the placement of mercury.
Could you share date of marriages.
Was matching done before your marriage.
Are you employed or doing business.
Are you living abroad.
You're understanding about debilitated Jupiter is correct and there is one more factor causing stress in marriage is the placement of mercury.
Could you share date of marriages.
Was matching done before your marriage.
Are you employed or doing business.
Are you living abroad.
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If you have the right knowledge, EXACT predictions can be made. Astrology is an incredible tool for guidance and one should take note of the energies of changing dasa lords.
If you have the right knowledge, EXACT predictions can be made. Astrology is an incredible tool for guidance and one should take note of the energies of changing dasa lords.
Hi,
1. Both of you seem to have anger/temper issues that do not nurture good spousal relationship. But then, the marriage seems to have sustained just because each of you have the ability to give as much (if not more) as you can take.
2. Moon/Chandra in your birth-chart is neither happy nor comfortable being placed in the 8th house of Challenges. He seems to be adrift in the middle of nowhere, with very little support on either side of the flanks, making you a bit of a loner...with very few friends and limited social life. Further, you probably have a wavery mind that seems to run wild with imaginations and hence can be detrimental for managing/maintaining relationships.
3. Incidentally, 7th lord Sun/Ravi being placed in the 12th house of Vyaya/Losses is not a good sign. He is also not happy or comfortable being placed there and can be detrimental to related significance.
4. You've started Maha-Dasha of Saturn/Shani-dev from September 2023...who incidentally lords over the 12th house of Vyaya/Losses, keeping it activated (been active for a while and hence taken you overseas) and the planets/grahas placed there.
Given my understanding, it would make sense for you to consider propitiating Saturn/Shani-dev regularly, after offering special prayers to Lord Ganesha, with unwavering faith, bhakti/devotion and a strong Sankalpa.
Sincerely...
A quick look at both your birth-charts seem to give some insights into potential cause for this being the second marriage for both of you, as also the stated current situation. Following observations seem to stand out:cr001199 wrote: 12 Nov 2024 Details:
Self - DOB: 10th Feb 1985, 7:20 AM, Anantapur, India
Spouse - 25th Aug 1982, 10:35 AM, Hyderabad, India
This is second marriage for both of us, we have been married for 4 years. He has been abusive right from the beginning. Happens every fortnight for sure. His mum is here with us for a few months, and she is extremely moody, and her impulses go to blaming me for everything her son does. I know that my Jupiter is debilitated in the 12th house, and I will not have a respectful relationship with my spouse. But this abuse and disrespect are completely from unknown quarters. I have changed so much that what used to be impulsive person, I have turned into someone who is not able to even express her hurt and anger. What can I do to make this better?
1. Both of you seem to have anger/temper issues that do not nurture good spousal relationship. But then, the marriage seems to have sustained just because each of you have the ability to give as much (if not more) as you can take.
2. Moon/Chandra in your birth-chart is neither happy nor comfortable being placed in the 8th house of Challenges. He seems to be adrift in the middle of nowhere, with very little support on either side of the flanks, making you a bit of a loner...with very few friends and limited social life. Further, you probably have a wavery mind that seems to run wild with imaginations and hence can be detrimental for managing/maintaining relationships.
3. Incidentally, 7th lord Sun/Ravi being placed in the 12th house of Vyaya/Losses is not a good sign. He is also not happy or comfortable being placed there and can be detrimental to related significance.
4. You've started Maha-Dasha of Saturn/Shani-dev from September 2023...who incidentally lords over the 12th house of Vyaya/Losses, keeping it activated (been active for a while and hence taken you overseas) and the planets/grahas placed there.
Given my understanding, it would make sense for you to consider propitiating Saturn/Shani-dev regularly, after offering special prayers to Lord Ganesha, with unwavering faith, bhakti/devotion and a strong Sankalpa.
Sincerely...
