Dear Sonali,
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There are two types of people who pray God.
One is who wants Bhautik Sukhas and wishes to Chant Stotras and Mantras to get rid of the materialistic problems. The faith starts with the Mantra and ends with it as well. This is not what is known as Bhakti. This kind of affection is materialistic and tamasic in nature and is prone to be fallable. The bliss achieved with such efforts is also fallable because since it has a beginning it has an end too.
.. There is no harm in this as we are all children of God and even if you offer a molecule to him with love, he will return it with a bunch. But one should not expect Spiritual benefits with such efforts as these are different efforts in nature, for which one will be paid favourably accordingly.
The second type is a person who does bhakti irrespective of materialistic benefits. There is a niyam for such people and they do Nitya pooja. For e.g. Vaishnava Brahmins do Sandhyavandana without fail everyday either Mansik or physical in nature. This is their nitya upasana towards the lord and is independent of any fruits desired from such upasana. Such an approach comes on learning from Shastras as to why one must adhere to such a routine and what are the effects of this. They wake up during Brahma Muhurta specially to pray the Lord as it is the best time to earn punya. The objective here is to wash sins committed on a day to day basis and keep the soul and body healthy. This is essential to progress to the next step of achieving salvation. Salvation is getting freed from the prarabdha and thus getting free from the events of life and death. Post this one reaches Vaikuntha where there is only bliss and no unhappiness. There are hundreds of Suns like we see illuminating the Abode of Shri Vishnu and LaxmiDevi and souls like us are alwyas in the seva of the almighty there. This is the top most position desired by the human soul and thus gets it on the process achieved as described above. There are more details but those are beyond the scope of the discussion in one post. But the bottomline is minimize the sins, maximize the punya, nullify the rinhanubandhan and live per Shastras. This is what you have wanted above as to
FOCUS ON HIM. For these efforts you will be blessed with a neverending jwala in your heart to be near him everyday everymoment. These efforts bring more fruits towards what you have asked for in your post. i.e. to Focus on him. Shri Hanuman is the greatest devotee of the Lord and one must try to emulate him with maximum possible efforts.
Now lets clear the thoughts about materialistic efforts too. It is not advisable for us human beings to relinquish everything and just sit and pray almighty 24 hours. NO thats not why we are here. Karma must be supported by Dharmic efforts too as its only action that is in our hands. The fructification occurs via adhering to Dharma only.
So, it is not uncommon or adharma to think about sex. But to think and act on it not per shastras is a sin. So, for e.g. Having sex during day time results in loss of wealth. In early mornings and in the evenings results in Sin as well. Ratri is the time when to indulge in it. Rutukaal of women is the time to indulge in it, and not when she is Rajaswala. And there is more. If you read Shri Vishnu Purana, even the details of how one must sneeze are given. The bottom line is to not indulge in something that brings sin upfront. Unnatural sex and post marital sex is prohibited as well. So, if you act normally and have a healthy sexual life there is nothing to worry about as it is not a sin in normal sense.
Same applies to accumulation of Money. Shri Vishnu Purana states that one must always aim to earn money honestly and accumulate it. Because it is only through dhan that one can live and do daana, pooja etc. But money earned by unscruplous means always brings misery in the end.
This is just tip of the iceberg and if you try to follow disciplined approach towards life, you will on your own get drawn towards infallible tendency to do Nitya Sadhana. But for this you must know what is a sin and what is not. How is punya earned and what all activities should be performed to earn such punya. Once you start thinking in these lines then it is a good start towards the solution to the problems you have mentioned.
Hope I was able to help.
Regards
Sonu
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